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INSIGHTFULLittleknownfacts Presents: Love Your Body No Matter What (self.RedPillWives)

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We’ve seen all the campaigns about loving your body the way it is. They are generally outside the realm of RPW since it is considered an extension of the fat acceptance movement, and there are definitely those who use it as excuse to not improve themselves. However, if we look at that statement again, 'love your body' through an RP lens, you will find it more true and satisfying than any FA ever could.

“Why does that 300 pound land whale deserve to love herself as much as I do when I’m fit and lean and run 5 miles every day!?”

When we consider our love for our spouses, it is not a feeling, but a series of actions and attitudes meant to bring you both harmony and happiness. Love for your body works the same way. It is the act of treating your body well, eating healthy, staying active, and avoiding harsh damaging substances. This is the type of self-love that could improve anybody’s life, and their relationship with their body. A fit and attractive body is only the result of such a love, not the source of it. Everyone should love their body starting today, even the 300 pound woman can love her body starting with eating a goddamn carrot stick instead of Cheetos.

Treat your body similar to the way you would treat your SO. Think positive things about your body. Don’t get upset when your body doesn’t respond to something the way you think it should. And perform acts of love and self-care for your body. So in this sense, it doesn’t matter if you have a few extra pounds at the hips, or if your hair begins to grey, or if you and your skin are going through a rough patch. If you have honestly done (and are continuing to do) the best you can for your body, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

So, did you love your body today?

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[–]sunfloweriesLate 20s / Engaged / 3 Years 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

This is a really helpful post and a new way to frame the idea of "loving my body" (which I have honestly always rolled my eyes at) that makes more sense to me.

I'm a fatty. Obese, lumpy and bumpy, no other way to put it. And I have always hated the "love your body! you're beautiful the way you are!" statements and the fat acceptance movement because they just don't make sense to me. Part of it's an eating disorder thing, but the other part is that logically, it just doesn't make sense.

My oversized body is not beautiful, yo. Why should I love it? Repeating a slogan and shaking my cottage cheese ass in tiny shorts aren't going to change it. "Fake it until you make it!" is one of the most gratingly annoying things people have tried to push on me.

But reframing it with "love" being an act rather than a passive statement of complacency with mediocrity? I can do more of that. I can look at it like that.

Because when I frame it like that, it makes my workout schedule and my calorie counting and everything else actually feel like love, instead of just something I'm just doing so I'm no longer an ugly fat sack of cottage cheese and skin.

[–]Littleknownfacts[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I glad I could help! Just remember that thinking positively is also an act of love!

[–]cats_or_get_out 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

This is a great post because we are not attractive when we unhappy with our bodies. For instance, I was in amazing, peak athletic shape when I was 22, and I remember complaining to my husband about "being fat." Not cool. No one wants to hear that. It's annoying AF.

I am, a-hem, a bit older now, and I love my body. I am grateful that it takes me on running adventures. Because I respect my body more, I don't punish my body during exercise. By changing my mindset, my fitness changed dramatically.

By being kind and mindful, I went from hating running (miserable 3 miles) to LOVING it. Not to brag (okay, I am bragging), I woke up two weeks ago and ran 20 miles and felt great, like I could keep going.

Loving your body forces you to respect and honor your limits. This prevents those injuries which put me out of commission; plus, it makes me excited to run. It is not a punishment, and I'm out there nearly everyday just to enjoy the outdoors.

Being happy with myself makes my husband happy. I feel less inhibited and more beautiful. I carry myself with more grace and am "softer" in my personality.

My legs took me up some hills today, and it felt great.

[–]Littleknownfacts[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I don't punish my body during exercise. By changing my mindset, my fitness changed dramatically.

This exactly! Exercise isn't to punish your body for not looking a certain way. It should be a gracious thing you do for your body without expecting anything in return.

By being kind and mindful, I went from hating running (miserable 3 miles) to LOVING it. Not to brag (okay, I am bragging), I woke up two weeks ago and ran 20 miles and felt great, like I could keep going.

Oh wow, that's like amazing. I probably could run around my block, probably. Lol

Loving your body forces you to respect and honor your limits. This prevents those injuries which put me out of commission; plus, it makes me excited to run.

Respecting the limits of your body is another good point. Some people get overzealous with their exercise (or diets more likely) to the point that it looses any health benefits. And what's the point then? You suffer and push and punish, but your body knows when you are mistreating it, and it won't respond well.

Being happy with myself makes my husband happy. I feel less inhibited and more beautiful. I carry myself with more grace and am "softer" in my personality.

Another very good point. Nothing else to add.

My legs took me up some hills today, and it felt great.

You just inspired me to do my workout for today. Dumbbells here I come!

[–]cats_or_get_out 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Dumbbells here I come!

Hooray! Fitness should feel good. Even when you're at your limjt and ready to puke, it should feel challenging but not miserable. If you're not enjoying the challenge, you won't sustain that level of fitness over a lifetime. For people getting into fitness, they often go too hard and burn out and make it a miserable experience. Then exercise becomes a low priority and gets wiped out of their schedule. R/science published a study that said if you enjoy exercise, you will do it more (well, duh!)

I didn't enjoy running like this until I joined a running club. Doing a bunch of shorter, more social runs has built up my fitness but also make me view running as fun not work. I have learned a lot from the other runners and enjoy the camaraderie and support.

Here is a great example of joy This gal is an elite ultra runner. I love that she has a smile on her face all the time. I love that she approaches a challenge with a smile and a laugh. She is enjoying herself. That is attractive! I also love her cute outfits and the pretty flowers she wears in her hair. Just because we're working hard doesn't mea we can't have fun. :-)

[–]tintedlipbalm 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

This post makes me happy!

It is the act of treating your body well

In the same vein self-love is making sure your body has what it needs and the treatment it deserves. A way of framing it is, telling myself, I don't deserve to be worrying about <preventable ailment> in the future, so I'm working towards maintaining good health from now. It becomes an act of self-respect, not about deprivation and self-hatred.

I don't like to dish negativity to obese people, but I also won't act like they're being self-loving while they burden their knees and develop life threatening conditions. I think people gain more by framing it as a responsibility to themselves rather than 'what society wants us to look like', which breeds resentment and unhealthy processes.