I actually have some ideas on this stuff. Some of the formal research suggests that women are FAR more sexually fluid than men. You can probably find the papers online if you look - but basically they measured arousal to different types of pornography and the women got turned on by pretty much everything where the straight men were pretty much interested in the hetero stuff and to some extent the lesbian stuff.

As far as polyamory goes - women are risk averse and they like having the options of cuckolding men, or switching men when her needs aren't met. It's a risk avoidance strategy and furthers her biological imperative. There's no surprise there.

Male polyamory takes the form of a harem, but women usually go with serial polyandry or an attempt to cuckold a provider. So even polyamory isn't a useful term across the genders because it takes different forms in each. Hard to classify it as fair to either sex when the goals are different. Men and women are doing different things with their respective versions of polyamory - and it's opposed to the other side. It's competing goals: the woman would rather have resources (but not sperm) concentrated in her (from more than one man if necessary) and not in the harem (if possible), and the man doesn't want other men's sperm competing with his but would be willing to spread his resources around.

The point is that even though I think I have a working theory why women, and especially feminists, may be inclined towards polyamory as a way to disguise paternity and maximize the tradeoff of alpha fucks and beta bucks, it's just not worth it to me to be around any woman that identifies as a feminist - especially a polyamorist.

To me - self-identified polyamory is a HUGEred flag that she's apt to behave in ways that will screw with your mind - with or without her conscious intent. I've had some harrowing experiences with women that were sexually fluid. The stuff of nightmares - seriously.

As a man, I'm probably going to have a biological instinct to mateguard and take steps to ensure a high likelihood of paternity - just like a lot of male mammals in the animal kingdom. To have a woman come out and say that she identifies in a way that's always going to be pinging that instinct in a negative way? Fuck that. I would probably never talk to that woman again - even if she was only talking about people I didn't know like this one was talking to you. She's basicallly coming out and saying that she's going to get hers even if it leaves her mate in a position where his subconscious brain is going to be stressed out about being possibly cuckolded.

Not that women don't do that a lot anyway - but a woman who glorifies it? Bad news for any man that wants peace of mind.