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Current boyfriend's penis is smaller than the my last couple, and I am having trouble really getting into sex. [penis size] (self.sex)

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I know this makes me sound like a horrible shallow person but I really need help. I am in a great relationship right now with a man that deeply loves me and I can't be more than happy for. We have a good sex life, I orgasm decently when we have sex.

The thing is though, in my last two relationships, I was with guys that were complete assholes to me, but the sex was much better. I was with guys that were much larger than my boyfriend, and there I would have rolling orgasms. Sex felt far more intense. With my current boyfriend we have tried different positions, yet we have yet to have that same level of sex.

And honestly there is a part of me that really misses that. There are times after where we have sex where I just feel restless wanting more. I want to stop feeling that way but I don't know what to do :( . I love my boyfriend I just wish sex with him was better so I didn't have these feelings.

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[–]Solsed 173ポイント174ポイント  (9子コメント)

Kegles. I'm a billion times tighter when I've been doing my kegles consistently for a week.

[–]MyPusyTasteLikePepsi 56ポイント57ポイント  (3子コメント)

Can't stress this enough. My current gf does them religiously and I have trouble staying in her until she cums. Then she opens up a bit. But until then its like she pushing me out. The tightness is incredible stimulating.

[–]Solsed 45ポイント46ポイント  (2子コメント)

Yea, you can get good enough at it that you actually massage his cock. It's wonderful.

[–]trogdorkiller 25ポイント26ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's crazy how that one sentence sent me from completely flaccid to half chub faster than my go-to porn vids. Human arousal is a mighty fickle thing.

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    [–][deleted] 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Definitely makes a difference, I agree.

    [–]sodaniechea 10ポイント11ポイント  (0子コメント)

    On top of doing kegels, I do leg day twice a week. Squats help... A lot. Boyfriend normally has a hard time inserting it in.

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      [–]FarAsUCanThrowMe 501ポイント502ポイント  (102子コメント)

      Haha, this is my fucking nightmare! I've got a totally normal, average sized dick. Honestly, I don't use it to get girls off. That's what my hands and tongue are for. My dick is for making me feel good! I think your desire for a huge dick is 100% acceptable, on par with my desire for petite women who I can lift easily. You are not a horrible, shallow person.

      Intercourse is not the main course for me and my girlfriends. If I'm attracted to a woman, I have an insatiable hunger for going down on her and getting her off that doesn't require me to use my boring, normal dick. 69ing is a huge part of this, so that we both have fun, but my need to keep making a woman get off means that I'm not going to stop just when I'm finished.

      My current almost-sorta-girlfriend and I have insane sex for hours at a time because I give her those rolling orgasms using my fingers. I've built up the stamina in my shoulder and arm muscles that I can pound away for an hour with 5-10 minute breaks for oral.

      You could try the We-Vibe vibrator! I haven't tried it personally, but it sort of slips inside of your vagina and fills you up, vibrating over your clit and on your partner's dick while he is inside you. That may help get you the full feeling and should help out with orgasms during intercourse.

      Is your boyfriend super self-conscious about the size of his penis? If he won't be a baby and get defensive, get a big dildo that does give you that feeling and have him fuck the shit out of you with that! I would love to do that with a girl who wasn't totally satisfied with my size!

      [–]throw411r421[S] 189ポイント190ポイント  (26子コメント)

      my boyfriend gets extremely insecure about that. I was watching porn with big dick in them and he got really sad after that so I stopped.

      [–][deleted] 189ポイント190ポイント  (21子コメント)

      It seems like this isn't only a big dick issue. You also mention that your previous boys were "assholes." Usually that comes with more confidence and assertiveness in the bedroom.

      Your bf can't fix his dick size but he can increase his confidence. He should be getting in the gym (it will release testosterone and make him feel more confident). He should also be reading up on ways to deal with his own internal demons.

      [–]elvarien 36ポイント37ポイント  (18子コメント)

      I curiously googled your name and got a hit on urban dictionary. The result made me gag a little, Bravo.

      [–]Kylanity 27ポイント28ポイント  (1子コメント)

      jesus why did you comment this? it made me curious, and then III gagged a little.

      [–]danheinz 10ポイント11ポイント  (1子コメント)

      that's just felching in a formal setting

      [–]Doctor_Loggins 8ポイント9ポイント  (4子コメント)

      This is just like that time my friend was like "Dude this is disgusting, smell it!" And I'm like "Why would I smell it if it's disgusting?" And the next thing I know I'm nose-deep in something terrible. Except that time there was no butt-pounding.

      [–]skydivingfoxes2 2ポイント3ポイント  (8子コメント)

      I didn't find anything under 'Glurpies' ... just out of curiosity.... what did you UD?

      [–][deleted] 12ポイント13ポイント  (3子コメント)

      ... To each his own?

      A) An invitation is sent either via e-mail or direct mail. B) A group of gay males arrive at the party. Usually the dude who is hosting the party has the honor of 'receiving' for the evening. C) Everyone at the party takes turns having anal sex with the host; it is essential that they bust their load in the anus and don't let any leak out. D) The first person to show up at the party has the distinct honor of going last. At the conclusion of ejaculating, a straw is then handed to the last dude who proceeds to suck all of the semen from the host's anus.

      [–]Imnotawizzard 12ポイント13ポイント  (1子コメント)

      I'm stunned, really. What the royal fuck? Is this a real thing? Is this real life?

      [–]choss 7ポイント8ポイント  (0子コメント)

      In some cultures, this is desert.

      [–]skydivingfoxes2 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

      I'm truly sorry I asked. I'm gonna go gag now.

      [–]sophiethepunycorn 17ポイント18ポイント  (2子コメント)

      Just 'glurpie'. Lftl (NSFW).

      [–]choss 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

      And now I'm gagging and waking up everyone in the house.

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          [–]sailorbrn 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

          Or, you know, compliment him more and communicate?

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            [–]FarAsUCanThrowMe 80ポイント81ポイント  (1子コメント)

            So. That's a big (no pun) problem. He NEEDS to become more secure. That might be easier if he knew he was satisfying you in other ways. I think most guys can tell when they're not doing a good job making their partner have orgasms.

            I love watching stunt-dick porno like Tiny4k or Blacks on Blonds even though I'm not that well endowed. I used to worry about never being able to give that to a woman and that makes me do a better job in the ways I can.

            Your BFs inability to discuss this or deal with it is going to cause other problems down the road, like when you have an attractive male friend, or the luster on the relationship starts to tarnish and you both start getting bored. Being able to discuss these emotional hurdles is SUPER IMPORTANT not just for good sex, but for everything.

            I've taken on this radical honesty thing in the past 8+ months after I cheated on my GF because I wasn't happy and I just got really selfish. If I were in your situation, I might practice some radical honesty and have a conversation with your BF about this problem. It will be insanely horrible, but he should face some stuff if he's that uncomfortable.

            A lack of orgasms absolutely will end your relationship. I wish I had discussed the lack of sex with the girlfriend I cheated on instead of cheating, even though that seemed like too high of a wall to climb.

            [–]bonnerchia 10ポイント11ポイント  (0子コメント)

            If you're in to it, you could suggest anal play. Stick a butt plug in & then when he fucks you, it'll be much tighter.

            [–]Orion053 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

            Read this as an insecure guy.

            Swore you were my Gf till I read this comment. Thank Christ. (We've never watched porn together, because I actually get her off better than her last boyfriends, just have terrifying anxiety)

            [–]thejadefalcon 68ポイント69ポイント  (2子コメント)

            If he won't be a baby and get defensive

            That's an absolutely shitty way to phrase it since OP's got an issue with his body that he can't change and she's outright saying he's not big enough for her. Calling him a baby for maybe being self-conscious after that shows you have no idea how to put yourself into someone else's shoes.

            [–]I_Run_LA 8ポイント9ポイント  (1子コメント)

            Amazing response. An upvote wasn't enough.

            [–]FarAsUCanThrowMe 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

            Thanks! I never know when I'm just full of shit ;)

            [–]WilrikDeBaas 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

            /r/circlejerk

            [–]MyPusyTasteLikePepsi 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

            What's a rolling orgasm?

            [–][deleted] 3ポイント4ポイント  (4子コメント)

            You sound like an egotistical asshole. I'm betting a fair bit of faking from her is involved here. Mmmm, pounding away for an hour!!!! Sounds hot /s+++++

            Edit: Give me just ONE guess. You are younger than 21?

            [–]dammit_need_account 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

            Woah, you... are awesome. Keep on keepin on.

            [–]WhiteFishCantSwim 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

            Awesome response, you sound like a really great partner!

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              [–]imthethimble 119ポイント120ポイント  (50子コメント)

              You mentioned that they were assholes. Are you sure this is about size? Perhaps they were assholes but also had something else in the bedroom: dominance? Confidence? Does your current boyfriend have those things? Some people genuinely do prefer a certain size and that's ok but you should at least be able to experience pleasure. If you aren't, I'd guess there's more going on.

              [–]throw411r421[S] 47ポイント48ポイント  (36子コメント)

              The guys I was with before would often beg me to stay with them when I wanted to break up. It honestly is the feeling of their penis not their attitudes.

              [–][deleted] 56ポイント57ポイント  (16子コメント)

              I just want to do a gender switcharoo, and see if we are still ok with it. Just for shits and giggles.

              The women I was with before would often beg me to stay with them when I wanted to break up. It honestly is the feeling of their big tits and tight pussies, not their attitudes.

              If you, and the rest of reddit, aren't ok with that slightly altered quote (and would create an ensuing hysteria about misogynists or whatever), then we might be exercising a double standard. If not, we're good.

              Now to address the issue at hand:

              My ex gf didn't used to get me off very well. Too much lubrication when penetrating (not enough sensation for me), and she had a death grip and no sense of timing/rhythm when getting me off by hand. Still loved her to death and would have been with her until death if she hadn't cheated on and dumped me.

              So my question for you is this: Do you really love the guy, and would be willing to be with him despite all this, or is this a deal breaker? If the latter, then don't stay with him under false pretenses.

              [–]Olsapisca 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

              Pretty much this. Rolling orgasms can be had regardless of the penis size (oral and large toys are a good place to start), but don't stay with him if this issue is non-negotiable for you.

              [–]Alytia 10ポイント11ポイント  (6子コメント)

              Hmm, I appreciate you pointing out the double standard. I didn't notice it until you said something and I don't like that about myself.

              [–]LezBeOwn 8ポイント9ポイント  (1子コメント)

              Just look at the number one upvoted response to this thread. It's all about how she should be trying to tighten her pussy to solve this situation....

              [–]b_spline 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

              Well she did ask what she can do to make it better.

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                  [–]Honee_Bee 23ポイント24ポイント  (43子コメント)

                  Maybe if you emphasize foreplay more, making sex a whole event. Try using some toys and setting extra time aside.

                  [–]throw411r421[S] 3ポイント4ポイント  (42子コメント)

                  I am just not that big into foreplay, oral sex doesn't do much for me, I like giving blow jobs.

                  I have always been a penetration girl. And my boyfriend is only 5 inches, he would be super insecure if I was to bring in a toy that was a good bit bigger than him. he always asks me if he is the best lover I have had. If I bring in toys what is he going to think?

                  [–]Amforsythe 76ポイント77ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  I don't see the point of him living a fantasy of him being the Best Sex You Ever Had and having the world's biggest dick or whatever he wants to think.

                  If you're both honest about it and find ways to work together - then he might actually be the best sex you've ever had. But you're not going to get there without him being able to see the situation realistically.

                  If he can't do that he's probably never going to be Best Sex for anyone, ever.

                  [–]TerryYockey 13ポイント14ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  When someone has to ask questions like this, the answer is usually no.

                  [–]suninabox 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  he always asks me if he is the best lover I have had

                  ugh...

                  why do people have to ask questions like this.

                  [–]RandomStoner 15ポイント16ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  I've read just about all your responses. If he can't use bigger toys to pleasure your needs. You will only later down road find the right size dick to fulfill your needs. So the answer is simple have him use bigger toys or move on. you will only hurt him later when you are having sex with another person while still in the relationship.

                  [–]Safety_Dancer 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  I have a friend that wasn't into oral sex. It turns out she just needed to have it done right. Maybe you two just need to learn and figure out what you need to enjoy it.

                  [–]nerdularATX 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  Someone who is that insecure about sex would turn me off far more than cock size. IJS. If he can't allow toys or compromise on some other way that will satisfy you, then the relationship is likely to at least become non-sexual down the road.

                  [–]cyclopath 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  He'll think that you're kinky.

                  [–]peepeesleeve 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

                  Might be late to reply, but my GF is the same, foreplay isn't her thing and she doesn't ever want to receive oral, she just loves penetration. Now my penis is about 6.5 inches long which both of us are happy with, but I'm lacking in girth.

                  I found when fingering her, the more fingers I used, the more she liked it (until she gets so turned on, she tells me to stop and put my penis inside her). I could never make her feel the same way with my penis, so I looked into toys, penis sleeves to be specific.

                  The one I found added about an inch of length, but it's the girth she loves (her exact word were "I love feeling tight and being stretched"). If your guy is next to you with the toy, it's a bit disconnected for him. But if he's wearing a sleeve and fucking you, he's basically fucking you. And the way my girl reacts is wonderful. And I can go as hard as I want, cause it's basically a padded condom(it's a very soft but thick material).

                  If he has an issue with large toys, he'll probably have a problem with a sleeve. But... for me, when wearing it, it feels like I have a huge dick; it adds weight and just holding it feels like I'm holding "my" big dick. It's a confidence booster for me and that's all before I'm even inside my girlfriend.

                  If he needs convincing, why not tell him you need/love that feeling of being filled up (without mentioning past boyfriends), and he'll still be the one fucking you?

                  I have to be honest about the cons though; I usually don't come with the sleeve. I rarely come with condoms and it's comparable. Her reactions keep me turned on and hard, but usually I just don't come(sometimes I do, but I usually finish without it). And, fucking without the sleeve after having used it, isn't going to stimulate you. I feel a slight difference in my GF's vagina when I take it off; it's feel a little looser, it's easier to insert my penis and she's much wetter, but she said that she feels nothing (she likes the buildup; fingers, then me, then me with a sleeve and sometime a vibrator in the sleeve - if we go back a step, it's less enjoyable to her).

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                    [–]jimmygogo 69ポイント70ポイント  (6子コメント)

                    This literally could be my ex writing this. What made it worse for me is im way above average but she'd had and clearly liked bigger but wouldn't admit it as such. It was so obvious though from reading between the lines. When I finally addressed it she said she had been with bigger guys and had better sex, I was fine with this. I'm a realist I understand I'm not going to be the best lover every woman I get with has ever had. However it did leave me a little lost, there was literally nothing I could do short of fisting her that really seemed to get her off.

                    Just a huge vagina, massive.

                    Shame really cos I really liked her and could have spent the rest of my life with her but no matter how long we were together we just never quite clicked sexually.

                    [–]Gishnu 10ポイント11ポイント  (0子コメント)

                    Big vagina? gigantic vagina!

                    [–]fjafjan 17ポイント18ポイント  (0子コメント)

                    The huge vagina ladies are getting away with murder!

                    [–]g_gggg 30ポイント31ポイント  (1子コメント)

                    fucking LOL.

                    [–]artemis2k 7ポイント8ポイント  (0子コメント)

                    "I'm way above average"!

                    [–]Tall_LA_Bull 36ポイント37ポイント  (2子コメント)

                    Whatever you do, I definitely wouldn't explain it to him like you just did here. Or if you do, hand him a pistol, plug your ears, and walk out of the room. Ouch.

                    [–][deleted] 9ポイント10ポイント  (1子コメント)

                    Hopefully the guy who asked the question about the Magnum condoms isn't her bf.

                    [–]xizid 40ポイント41ポイント  (2子コメント)

                    Don't worry, not all men care about the size of your vagina. Just get good at blow jobs and prostate massaging.

                    [–]Draiko 12ポイント13ポイント  (0子コメント)

                    What kind of a size difference are you talking about?

                    Is it length? Girth? Both?

                    If you've had amazing sex that required a 10" schlong and your current is packing a 5", there really isn't much you could do without bringing toys into the mix or focusing on oral, IMHO.

                    You may have to choose between getting the sex you want and keeping the man you're currently in to.

                    [–]Supertrample 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

                    How long were you with each of the previous boyfriends, and how long ago was that? How long have you been with your current partner? This influences my response greatly, since time can help change attitudes/feelings, but not always.

                    [–]BugsyR 15ポイント16ポイント  (0子コメント)

                    I actually have had the same issue a few times. Stick with it, if you really like him. You will adjust to it eventually. It does take some time. Sometimes several months depending on how often you have sex.

                    [–]ArtofOne 5ポイント6ポイント  (7子コメント)

                    How big is your boyfriend?

                    [–]imTgv 7ポイント8ポイント  (1子コメント)

                    I know this makes me sound like a horrible shallow person but I really need help. I am in a great relationship right now with a woman that deeply loves me and I can't be more than happy for. We have a good sex life, I orgasm decently when we have sex. The thing is though, in my last two relationships, I was with women that were complete assholes to me, but the sex was much better. I was with women that were much tighter than my girlfriend, and there I would have rolling orgasms. Sex felt far more intense. With my current girlfriend we have tried different positions, yet we have yet to have that same level of sex. And honestly there is a part of me that really misses that. There are times after where we have sex where I just feel restless wanting more. I want to stop feeling that way but I don't know what to do :( . I love my girlfriend I just wish sex with her was better so I didn't have these feelings.

                    If your boyfriend wrote this, how would it make you feel?

                    You're talking about something that he is not even able to change, and believe me, he would if he could.

                    You should definitely talk with him about it and try to make sex better in other ways (toys, role playing, etc.) and if you're not ready to make some compromises and are only focused on the penis size then i guess you're not really compatible and you should break up.

                    Relationships are about trust, compromise and honesty and it seems you aren't doing much of either.

                    [–]Throwaway88703 60ポイント61ポイント  (9子コメント)

                    Break up with him. Right now he's living his worst nightmare and doesn't even know it. Let him go so that he has the chance to find someone who enjoys sex with him.

                    [–]Enchanteresse 14ポイント15ポイント  (0子コメント)

                    Totally agree. Clearly incompatible if it's that big of an issue with what sounds like unwillingness to compromise.

                    [–]Jzrt10 1ポイント2ポイント  (5子コメント)

                    I agree. He deserves better than her.

                    [–]bohmapik 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

                    Not necessarily better, just different and a better match.

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                        [–]alongstrangetrip 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        Try incorporating toys in the world bedroom. Get a vibrator, anal plug, or dildo. You can make sex last longer and become more intense. Reassure him that you're enjoying sex but want different simulations.

                        [–]colucci 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                        Why oh why do I get called a shallow asshole when I complain about how small my girlfriend's titties are, yet it's okay for chicks to discuss how small dicks are not good?

                        [–]grumpycateight 8ポイント9ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        Are you doing Kegel exercises? They'll help you learn to control your vaginal muscles and improve their tone. Being able to clamp down on a guy with your vagina really increases your awareness of his presence, it increases the friction in just the right way... there's no down side.

                        [–]BassAddictJ 8ポイント9ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        Kegels

                        [–]RyanLedford90 57ポイント58ポイント  (19子コメント)

                        You break up with him and start fucking shallow assholes again. it's the only right answer to this. Especially in a society that's devolved relationships into basically not killing each other and just having sex. I'm sure you'll be happy with the assholes who are great at sex just remember what's on the other end the next time they treat you badly. A great guy with a kind of a small dick.

                        [–]ProphetCRW 15ポイント16ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        slow clap

                        [–]msdorothyparker 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        Pretty sure there's lots of great guys on this earth that have big dicks.

                        [–]user_name_checks_out 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

                        You break up with him and start fucking shallow assholes again.

                        The upside of fucking a shallow asshole is that it gives you the impression that your dick is bigger.

                        [–]suninabox 8ポイント9ポイント  (10子コメント)

                        Someone's definitely not bitter

                        [–]RyanLedford90 12ポイント13ポイント  (9子コメント)

                        I'm not bitter at all this was a stupid question so I gave a stupid answer. I mean I feel like an idiot for being baited because this is obviously what this question was intended to do. The truth is an honest answer to this question is if sex is that important to you in a relationship break up with him. Me personally I like sex but I don't care about it enough to end a perfectly good relationship. Everything from movies to TV the modern-day relationships is all about sex these days like it's the greatest thing in the world or the most important part of the relationship. To be honest I'm just getting sick of all these stupid questions here my boyfriend's overweight his dicks too small my girlfriend doesn't suck my dick enough but everything else is amazing well if everything else is amazing then this shit shouldn't bother you move on or deal with it someway stop bringing your stupid fucking questions to the Internet.

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                          [–]Tentaye 4ポイント5ポイント  (2子コメント)

                          For...research purposes, could you provide an estimate of the size of both the satisfactory and unsatisfactory members?

                          You know, so we guys can know what to expect and plan our lives from here.

                          [–]hausfsjk 31ポイント32ポイント  (11子コメント)

                          What a fucking obvious fake post. God reddit is so full of fake shit...

                          But here goes...

                          If he is too small for you, you are probably too big for him as well.

                          You aren't enjoying sex as much you can but neither is he.

                          So both of you should go find someone that "fits" better. To you, he has a tiny penis. But to him, you have a whale vagina. It'll never work.

                          [–]goddessIlluminati 8ポイント9ポイント  (3子コメント)

                          We get one of these "I'm a girl and I like my nice guy boyfriend but I can't stop fantasizing about my asshole ex-boyfriends' MASSIVE cock" posts like every week and no one seems to care, which makes me think that it's all a creative writing exercise.

                          It's pretty much Literotica.

                          [–]hausfsjk 4ポイント5ポイント  (2子コメント)

                          A lot of reddit is fake. It blatantly obvious if you just look for it.

                          Initially, I think everyone just assumes everything here is "real" but if you think about it, it's almost impossible that all these posts are real.

                          A lot of these stories are artifically generated by reddit employees themselves. The founders of reddit even admitted to it. That's why every so often you get the same stories over and over again. And then there are the unemployed english majors just making shit up on reddit for attention.

                          /r/sex, /r/relationships, etc are chock full of it.

                          And then there are /r/atheism ( or /r/pro-lgbt ), /r/worldnews, etc that are used as propaganda subreddits.

                          In other words, most of reddit is just fiction.

                          [–]goddessIlluminati 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                          A lot of these stories are artifically generated by reddit employees themselves

                          I honestly don't buy that one. There are too many big subreddits and too many people who would be willing to invent posts for free; reddit doesn't need to pay people to do it.

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                            [–]ssmr2t 9ポイント10ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            I'm sorry, but with all do respect....maybe it's not him with the problem.

                            [–]Duckmandu 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            As a girlfriend of mine said many years ago (not referring to my penis) "Size doesn't matter. Except during sex."

                            [–]kingdumbcum 7ポイント8ポイント  (4子コメント)

                            The fact that you ARE orgasming with POV says a lot about y'all's sex life, I know countless women who can't have POV orgasms; I have them once every couple weeks...has to be the right emotional moment, timing, pace, duration, fucking moon phase, I don't know!! But seriously, give his dick a big ol kiss for making you cum, then maybe start encouraging some hand fucking, I love getting rammed by 2-3 fingers (I'm pretty small down there), interspersed with a good tongue lashing, gives me that HOLY SHIT JUST GOT FUCKED CANT MOVE feels. also working out the Keigals helps a great deal, I can squeeze the hell out of a smaller dick if needed. Or maybe try swinging. Sex is so fun.

                            [–]turbulance4 10ポイント11ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            POV

                            Haha. Penis on vagina sex?

                            [–]kingdumbcum 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Lol shit

                            [–]samzklub 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            *PIV

                            [–]kingdumbcum 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            God I'm dumb

                            [–]mrfunbun 13ポイント14ポイント  (24子コメント)

                            This is the reason I'll never get laid. Fucking small worthless dick. You big guys better cherish what you have goddamnit.

                            I'm gonna die alone in a dark empty place. That's how this penis makes me feel.

                            [–]Throwaway88703 13ポイント14ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            But why won't you just compensate with your fingers and mouth or use a strap-on? Isn't that just as good as normal sex? /sarcasm

                            I feel your pain, dude.

                            [–]mrfunbun 8ポイント9ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            Thanks, I wish I could say your understanding helps ease it.

                            I always feel like people who say that stuff along with the "It's your attitude! Be confident!" people just don't understand.

                            [–]Throwaway88703 10ポイント11ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Yeah, it's the same shit they say to short guys. I don't know if it's just feel-good bullshit or if they really think that your attitude has that much control over your physical limitations.

                            It's like telling a paraplegic to be confident in their run speed.

                            [–]AlienAstronaut 8ポイント9ポイント  (3子コメント)

                            Maybe you should get in bed first before saying that, you might be surprised.

                            [–]llikeafoxx 12ポイント13ポイント  (12子コメント)

                            Ugh. I can't stand this self-flagellation. If a woman has turned you down for sex, I'm willing to bet it's much more likely because of this attitude than due to some mutant x-Ray vision that lets her see your penis beforehand.

                            [–]remarkedvial 4ポイント5ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            In case you are not aware, there are online forums where you can find/meet girls with all sorts of interesting sexual preferences, some that would pleasantly surprise you.

                            Also, a guy I was friends with had this issue, but he owned it, had confidence and humour, even made jokes about it in public, worked out to maintain a great body, taught himself guitar, etc.. dated the hottest girl in school for years!

                            [–]Butterbean6 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            I think you should break up. You shouldn't have to settle for someone that can't satisfy you and he shouldn't have to waste his time with someone that he'll never satisfy. No doubt there is someone else out there for both of you.

                            [–]J25B2 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Lmao at these comments. How are you seriously going to expect this guy to NOT feel like shit when you tell him his dick is too small to pleasure you? All I can say is practice practice practice, or find someone else.

                            [–]StickofPurity 8ポイント9ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            you could always dump him. Find someone that matches that preference. If they don't dump them a lot earlier, rather than later.

                            [–]smjello05 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Yea, you are shallow.

                            [–]emshedoesit 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Definitely does not make you a horrible person, or even close to it. We all like what we like, and that's the way it is.

                            [–]StankFish 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            This is a difficult situation but it seems aa though you cant get over your previoua big dicks and this is pretty much the ulrimate nightmare for any man.

                            Either do kegels enough to make your vagina smaller or break up with him in a way that does not reference or reflect his penis size. This will absolutely crush him and destroy his confidence and make him hate himself.

                            Go find another asshole with a big dick or learn to get yourself off in different ways. DO NOT! Lead this poor fellow on and hurt him down the road end it now

                            [–]Pherrot 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            Sex can be highly emotional, especially for women. Are you sure this is a penis size issue? Maybe you should look at your feelings rather than penis size.

                            It sounds like you may have a thing for being treated poorly - it could be a turn on for you.

                            [–]sidewizzle 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            If you need a 7 inch or bigger dick to get off then the dick is not the problem, you have a huge vagina.

                            [–]rocksandpoopattack 7ポイント8ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            You should let your bf go find someone who loves him and doesn't compare him negatively to assholes. You basically just said "my bf is great but I'd rather be with a guy who treats me like shit but has a big dick" you will find no sympathy here because you are a bad person.

                            [–]dateadvicethrowawy 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            She never said that she would rather be with guys like that. Her point was that she feels sad and guilty since on a physical level, she is craving something her exes had (but her new boyfriend does not have), even though she knows that on an emotional level they weren't good guys like her boyfriend is.

                            She can't help the fact that the physical experience is different and less pleasing. She came on here and admitted that her feelings are upsetting and her issue to deal with and that she is trying to change. I don't think that makes her a bad person, but rather a caring partner.

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                              [–]xpaper-heartsx 14ポイント15ポイント  (15子コメント)

                              It's sad so many of the men on here had jerk responses to this. Heaven forbid any guys out there have posted about how their girlfriend isn't as great in bed as other women they've been with. ;p I've seen plenty of posts from guys asking how they can make their gf better at sex, blow jobs, have tighter or wetter vaginas, how they can get their girl interested in anal etc. a whole lot of dudes took personal offense to this one. Sheesh!

                              That aside, there are extender toys he could wear if it's the feeling of fullness you're missing. Or you could try a we vibe, where part of the toy fits inside you and would make a tighter fit for him. Positions where your legs are closed a bit more may help, or doggy style always makes things feel too deep and intense for me. You said you've already tried many of these positions. I'd experient with different toys or see if he'd be into wearing an extender. Let him know you just wanna try things with new toys and it might be fun to experimemt with toys for both of you. What about having him using bigger toys on you during sex? I love love when my parter uses toys on me, and fingers and hands, which can feel a lot fuller than a penis.

                              [–]SwanKiller 46ポイント47ポイント  (11子コメント)

                              I think if any girl came here saying that she's upset because her boyfriend said he missed her ex's curves so much that he couldn't stop thinking about her, a lot of people would tell her to dump him. Sounds like you lack some basic empathy. Who would want to be with someone who doesn't appreciate them?

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                                [–][deleted] 2ポイント3ポイント  (5子コメント)

                                Dude, I really hope your boyfriend finds this and realizes how shallow you fucking are. Holy shit I hate people.

                                [–]anon445 10ポイント11ポイント  (31子コメント)

                                Just sayin, I wouldn't stay with a girl who didn't think I was the best she's had. That's just part of what I need. I wouldn't mind using toys to enhance the experience, but I'm not going to be OK with using them to match what her exes could do for her.

                                EDIT: Apparently this is controversial, so I feel like I need to explain myself. The reason I posted was to present a viewpoint that some men have, and how OP might not have her bf's best interests in mind. If a girl wasn't completely satisfied with our sex life due to my body and not just technique or kinks or what have you, I would want her to break up with me sooner rather than later. From the post/comments, I get the feeling that OP's bf wouldn't be able to effectively deal with her size preference and sexual needs, and I think it would be best for them to consider the possibility that maybe this issue is serious enough for them to not be the best matches for each other.

                                [–]santino314 8ポイント9ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                And it is a perfectly rational thing to want too.

                                Having a sexually unsatisfied wife is a huuuuge liability. Her sexual frustration could manifest in other situations turning her bitter and confrontational, leading to a decrease in the relationship health.

                                She also could spend her days remebering with longing the old times when she was with men that could satisfy her. Maybe she will start fantasizing about other men. Now that doesn't mean that she will immediately run and cheat, but what about when she has a fight with her husband? What if the husband goes for a week for his work? How she will face the temptation? I think it might make more prone to cheating.

                                If I hadn't a resonable belief that I'm fully satisfying a woman, I wouldn't be in a relationship with her. I wouldn't be in anyones interest in the long run to have a relationship like that.

                                [–]throw411r421[S] 7ポイント8ポイント  (11子コメント)

                                that's just not realistic, most of my friends are with guys they don't consider "the best in bed" but they are with the guys they find best overall.

                                [–]Delucabazooka 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                But is sex just as important to them as it is to you? Cause the fact that his size As big a problem for you as it is, means that it is something you look for in a working healthy relationship. And there is nothing wrong with that. Try and put yourself in his shoes, and think about how much more it would hurt to find out after years and years together rather than just a few days or weeks. (I'm assuming this is a fairly new relationship) you need to talk with him about it. Alone you have 2 options. Break up or get used to it. Together tho you two have many many more options. And many ways to make it work for both of you.

                                [–]Trykksak 12ポイント13ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                Not realistic? Like most preferences it cuts away parts of the dating pool, something quite related to the topic at hand :P

                                [–]get_real_quick 8ポイント9ポイント  (6子コメント)

                                Being the best you ever had is essential to a guy's ego. I don't even know what's comparable in the female context, but this "best overall" shit hurts way more than you think it does. There's this constant hiding of the ball in an attempt to fool ourselves into thinking that we are not totally shallow animals:

                                "It's not about your size, it's about the motion of the ocean"

                                "Well actually some oceans are better than others and that's fine, you're not going to be the best lover she's ever had--as long as the overall package is the good that's all you need"

                                By the same logic does the overall package not need to be the best she's had because of some as-yet-to-be discovered characteristic beyond the overall package? If she's dated better, most people will tell her to dump him. I don't understand why we keep fooling ourselves like this.

                                [–]samzklub 0ポイント1ポイント  (5子コメント)

                                Being the best you ever had is essential to a guy's ego.

                                As a man, this is not true. I don't care if I'm not the best my partner has ever had, because I'm still rocking her world. If she was that dissatisfied with my sexual prowess, she would either tell me or leave me. If I sensed she wasn't happy with my sexual prowess, then I would initiate a conversation about it and try to work through it. If she did not want to talk about it or work through it, I would find a new lady!

                                Reality, folks. It's real! Time to deal with it, yo!

                                [–]anon445 6ポイント7ポイント  (4子コメント)

                                If she was that dissatisfied with my sexual prowess, she would either tell me or leave me.

                                Counterexample: OP

                                [–]I_Run_LA 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                It might be more about how you make him feel about it, than what you actually think about it. I'm not saying you should deceive him in any way. I made another comment a minute ago, and I'm thinking along the same lines in this one - you should focus on the positive. Cultivate talking about what you like, what turns you on, what he does that makes your 'toes curl', etc. That gets him focused on making you feel good, and then you can progress to more specific comments/requests/suggestions. This will make him feel like he's the best you've ever had, because each experience with you is packed full of compliments and thank yous, and mutual pleasure.

                                [–]frioleroo 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                Those guys don't know what they're missing.

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                                  [–]cryogen 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  There would be some issues if my gf was loose and she couldn't please me enough with her vagina. But if I wanted to be with her enough there's plenty of ways to work around that. People are shaped differently, and some parts just fit together better than others. I think it's up to you to find better methods of stimulation if you want to stay with this guy. If you can't, then you owe it to him to leave. I'm average in length but above average in girth, but I'm not constantly focusing on using my dick. There's so much more than that and honestly I've had amazing success with finger gspot stimulation and oral. Don't get me wrong, there were women who had the tightest vagina I've ever had and I will probably never forget the way they felt, but there are so many other ways I know how to get myself off, tightness is not the be all end all for sex. If anything a tight woman is a bonus. Do I prefer petite women for this reason? Sure do, just like I'm sure women prefer taller men because they may have a higher chance of having a bigger dick.

                                  [–]FunSizedGrenade 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                  At least u can orgasm. Stop complaining. A lot of us don't.

                                  [–]lesadfacr 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  But she isn't getting what she wants, her satisfaction isn't being met without any work from her. Yet she's entitled to feeling that way, fuck her boyfriend. Classic

                                  [–]giminawp 3ポイント4ポイント  (45子コメント)

                                  This shit makes me want to kill myself. My small dick makes me worthless

                                  [–]Spoonbills 26ポイント27ポイント  (33子コメント)

                                  I've had a, um, number of men, some small, some average, some huge. I have never decided to sleep with a man a second time based on his penis size. It's always about how he treats me, how much he loves sex and touching me, his skills and techniques, how well we communicate, how much fun we have, etc. Go forward with confidence and a good attitude and I promise you will get thoroughly laid.

                                  [–][deleted] 5ポイント6ポイント  (32子コメント)

                                  Not by the original poster :)

                                  [–]Spoonbills 8ポイント9ポイント  (30子コメント)

                                  OP is in fact having sex repeatedly with a less endowed man. Perhaps she's not thoroughly happy, but he is getting laid!

                                  [–][deleted] 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Maybe not for long :)

                                  [–]giminawp 11ポイント12ポイント  (28子コメント)

                                  I'd rather not have sex than to have sex with someone who isn't enjoying it because I'm too small and not man enough.

                                  [–]SigmaK78 9ポイント10ポイント  (5子コメント)

                                  Not every woman is like the OP or some of the other women commenting here. Don't lump all women into the same catagory. And don't think for a moment one aspect about you, you don't like, is worth ending your life over. It's not.

                                  [–]giminawp 3ポイント4ポイント  (4子コメント)

                                  Sure not every woman needs a huge dick but most don't want to settle for a small one. When you're small you're probably more likely to be rejected than to be accepted. I think these days having a small dick is something worth killing myself over. Small dicks are probably the reason so many more men than women kill themselves. Dick size is so crucial to sex, if you're not a decent size you're worthless and once you realize that you kill yourself

                                  [–]samzklub 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

                                  I'm just curious since you're basing your decision about whether or not to kill yourself solely on assumptions and conjecture:

                                  Have you ever had sex?

                                  I'm guessing you have since you seem to know everything about what women want from their male partners. However, if you've had sex (with a man or a woman), you would know just how unimportant penis size is.

                                  [–]giminawp 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                  I have had sex and that's why I'm confident in saying the things I'm saying. What I can't believe is that some people are still deluded into believing that penis size doesn't matter at all. Obviously it does, and it's only going to get worse for guys with small dicks

                                  [–]samzklub 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                  How many different partners have you had sex with if you don't mind me asking? Did you pleasure your partner?

                                  When you got naked did you partner laugh at your penis or make jokes about it? Did they offer suggestions on other ways you could pleasure them that did not require your penis (oral sex, fingers, toys, etc)?

                                  Apologies for all of the questions, but inquiring minds would like to know.

                                  [–]Spoonbills 9ポイント10ポイント  (20子コメント)

                                  My point is that not everyone cares how big you are. For many of us, maybe even most, other factors are far more important.

                                  And this "not man enough" business is nonsense. Penis size does not make the man. Who you are and how you treat other people does.

                                  [–]giminawp 1ポイント2ポイント  (18子コメント)

                                  Just because penis size isn't the most important thing doesn't mean it's not important. Sex clearly matters a lot to relationships. Penis size, especially when you're small, matters a lot to sex and thus the relationship. More often than not a small dick is going to be a problem. Trying to get laid or a relationship isn't even worth it. Being alone is slightly better than being rejected for not being man enough. Luckily I don't have to settle for either of those options. Suicide is always an option is in my case it's the best option

                                  [–]Spoonbills 2ポイント3ポイント  (17子コメント)

                                  Please do not hurt yourself. Suicide is not the best option. I think you're fixating on a perceived flaw to the extent that your self-esteem is being crushed and you're deeply depressed and not thinking clearly. I know such things are difficult to talk about but I hope you will seek help. Can you see a therapist? Speaking to someone who's not part of your social life might be easier than speaking to a friend.

                                  Call the number below. They know all about despair and can help you. If you're not in the US, tell me where you are and I'll find you a different number.

                                  National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1 (800) 273-8255

                                  Hours: 24 hours, 7 days a week

                                  www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

                                  They even have a chat option if you prefer that to calling.

                                  [–]giminawp 2ポイント3ポイント  (16子コメント)

                                  What's a therapist going to do to make women able to enjoy small penises? Nothing? Then they can't help

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                                      [–]SigmaK78 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                      Just don't. OP's situation doesn't have to apply to your life, if you don't want it to.

                                      [–]giminawp 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                      This is a common experience among women. Once you get it good from a big dick, small dicks are forever worthless. At my size, this situation always applies

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                                        [–][deleted] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        It doesn't make you sound shallow ;).

                                        (Had to! Sorry!)

                                        [–]final_cut 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        I had a really hard time adjusting to someone that was much taller than all of my last girlfriends. The positions were all weird and different. Over time, we got our thing back. Give him time and assure him he's a superstar all the time and he'll treat you like one. You could even try to let him get a lil cocky about how good he is in bed. It may be hyperbole on your part, but it'll make him more like what you are used to in every way but physically.

                                        [–]Fractitious 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        Not sayin' this is a troll but the nice folks at Extenz must Ecztatic.

                                        [–]niklaskronwalled 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                        Move on. Nothing shallow about it. A good relationship needs emotional and physical comparability. If the glove don't fit...

                                        [–]squirtmasterd -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        Break up, you will never get that level of alpha sex from someone you dont respect like you did your previous partners, even if its subconscious.

                                        [–]TorCan89 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        Samantha from sex and the city

                                        [–][deleted] -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                        Hm, I understand your predicament.

                                        The only solution I can think of is for him to get really into trying to satisfy you in other ways.

                                        In a perfect world, he would just suddenly take up an interest in it, but guys are pretty clueless, so you might end up having to say something to him.

                                        Maybe say that you found this video while..."surfing" the internet. Idk what your sex life is like in terms of porn, watching it together etc, but, it could help. Be gentle with his ego (maybe don't mention his penis size...its hard to come back from that for a guy), but (if something like this would be what you want) let him know. Don't sacrifice your pleasure for the sake of not hurting his feelings.

                                        Personally, I'd text him the link, with a flirty / dirty message, so instead of criticism, it sounds like you're just being naughty and want more oral sex.

                                        If you're only into PIV or thats all that gets you off, maybe another redditor will be able to help.

                                        Either way, I hope it works out! Do update!

                                        LINK NSFW

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