Me and my girlfriend Heather have been together a year, and have discussed moving in together. We spend the night at each others' places regularly. Sometimes her "niece" Jenna is there too and shes a good kid, little nosy but hey she's seven. I've never met Jenna's mom/ Heather's sister but Heather said it's cause her sister travels a lot and since her ex (whom I've also never met) lives in the same city Jenna stays with Heather a lot.
The other night she tells me to come over cause she needs to talk. When I get there her niece is there with her. Along with some dude I've never met. He introduces himself as my Heather's ex and Jenna's dad. I think it's weird how she dated her sister's ex but then Heather drops this bomb on me. Jenna her daughter, and she doesn't have a sister. Heather said she kept this a secret because she knows how people don't want to date single mothers. Her ex Don then said he would take Jenna out for ice cream and left us to talk.
Of course I start drilling her about how she could lie to me all of this time. Her parents lied to me, all of her friends lied to me. She's countering that if I had known she had a kid I never would have even asked her out, so since we're in such a good place now it shouldn't matter that Jenna is her daughter. It went back and forth till I left. It's been about two days and we haven't seen or spoken to each other since.
I feel totally 100% justifiable in breaking up. This was a huge breach of trust, and on top of that she's right, I wouldn't have asked her out if I had known she'd had a kid. I do not want kids whether they're mine or some one else's. i love Heather, and Jenna's a good kid, but I don't think there's any coming back from this. Could this step parent dynamic work out after this?
Run Forrest, Run!!!
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