tl;dr Women are not accountable to their traditional behavioral expectations and gender roles because of the development of feminism. They want the benefits without working for it.

Definition of Patriarchy: Patriarchy is a social system in which males hold primary power, predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property; in the domain of the family, fathers or father-figures hold authority over women and children.

I'm penning down some thoughts that I've had since I watched I watched a Youtube video a while ago.

Background

1. In the past, men were to uphold certain standards of behavior towards women, as set by society during their age. This would be chivalry ("gentlemanly behavior").

2. Women were oppressed in the past, they too had to uphold certain standards of proper behavior.

Definition of Chivalry: The methods of training and standards of behavior for knights in the Middle Ages. The code of chivalry emphasized bravery, military skill, generosity in victory, piety, and courtesy to women.

The reason for the success and relevance of chivalry in the past was due to society's expectation of 'woman-like' behavior. Chivalry had a symbiotic relationship with the expected standards propriety, and both co-existed harmoniously. What happens when society changes? What happens when people can no longer expect proper 'woman-like' behavior of women?

The answer is simple - Chivalry is then no longer required. In a grocery store, people exchange money for goods. If either person doesn't hand over the goods or the money, then this is no longer a fair exchange.

Context

Women are much more empowered now than they were in the past. This comes as no surprise to anyone due to the advent of feminism. They have the agency to do everything a man can do, go anywhere a man can go. (That doesn't mean that they should or would. Just means that they can.)

Now this is the bit that gets interesting.

Women now ARE equal to men. They were not in the past, but they are now. This brings me back to the title, Women want the Patriarchy. The system of patriarchy is old and has existed for ages. It was the patriarchy that kept society in check in the past.

Time to think

Keeping something in check means to keep that something in balance. Victorian patriarchy bred chivalry as a means for the behaviors of men to "meet women halfway". This halfway would be men doing something that women were not expected to do - eg. men would fight in the war, and women would cook.

Women would NOT fight a war and leave her husband to cook whilst she left the house. There was symbiosis in this behavior. Fast forward time to now. Remember when i said that women are equal to men now? Yeah they are. They're able to do enlist in the army, they're able to work in what traditionally is a man's job (engineering, construction and the likes).

WHY THEN DO THEY NEED THE PATRIARCHY?

Simple. They want the patriarchy for the benefit of chivalry. Whilst society has changed on their behaviors and perception towards women, patriarchy has not. Patriarchy has been perpetuated, yet has not evolved. What does patriarchy offer that women want so badly?

1. The concept of traditional gender roles, which are irrelevant. Equality, remember?

2. Chivalry -> "courtesy to women"

They want the benefits of being allotted the gender role, by taking care of the house and not finding a job outside. If I do my part and she does hers, I'm fine with this arrangement. But the reality is that in the western context this is no longer the status quo.

What happens then when you view "courtesy" not as manners but as actions? A physical courtesy for women would be for males to open doors, pay for a first date, help a woman if she is in need of help.

Piecing it all together

Both genders are equal now. The reason for the want of patriarchy is that they perpetuate outdated courteous behavior, aimed at making the lives of women easier. What they fail to see is that there is no need for such courtesies any longer, and these courtesies come at the expense of us men.

tl;dr Women are not accountable to their traditional behavioral expectations and gender roles because of the development of feminism. They want the benefits without working for it.

These are just my thoughts about the issues that pervade some Western countries. I live in Asia and I see some of this behavior, but it is relatively rare. Remember that women are not lazy or all skivers. Some people are, and they give the rest a bad name. Men do this too, we're no different. We however aren't given the benefit of the doubt that women are given.

Lessons learnt: Equality isn't really equality.

"All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others".

-George Orwell