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[–]bornredd 9ポイント10ポイント  (3子コメント)

This is great.

Make your changes. Keep your mouth shut about your position.

When she asks you what the fuck is going on, my answer was:

"I realized awhile ago that I was unhappy with myself. When I was younger, there was a man I wanted to be. I've decided to become that man."

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Fucking awesome

[–]YesIDoLiftBro 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

"Potential means the work hasn't been done yet. I'm doing the work." - this was my answer

[–]bownership 2ポイント3ポイント  (9子コメント)

Good stuff. Don't broadcast your goals, just achieve them, and others will take notice.

I always laugh at people who project their goals on to everyone around them, especially on social media. Seems like they're never the ones achieving anything.

[–]Grimsterr 3ポイント4ポイント  (6子コメント)

Oh I hate that shit, I have a friend I nicknamed "Mr Imgonna", all the time "I'm gonna" this and "I'm gonna" that. Don't tell me what you're gonna do, show me the results. My kid has picked up on this as I say it a lot about a lot of people because people do it a lot. I said in earshot of him a while back when he was starting to play bass that if he ever got good enough to play Anesthesia by Cliff Burton that he'd be worthy of a Rickenbacher bass he wants. He's not said a word but I've heard him practicing the song when he didn't know I was home yet, he does it when I'm not around so he thinks I dunno what he's up to. He's not telling me, he's planning to show me, and from the sounds of it, I'll be spilling some cash on a $2000 bass probably for Christmas...

[–]killxorxbexkilled 1ポイント2ポイント  (5子コメント)

Craigslist, bro ha ha

[–]Grimsterr 0ポイント1ポイント  (4子コメント)

Closest I've found yet is $1400 and 2 hours away, Ebay isn't helping much either.

[–]BobbyPeru 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

Make sure he plays it "right." I've been a musician my whole life, and lots of guys can play songs, but they don't play them right. I recognize right away because I'm a musician, but I don't know if you are a musician or not... if you are not, something will just sound off.... the tempo, uneven chopping, a note here and there, a missed section. etc. That particular song is very very difficult to play "right."

It's like the bass players version of "Eruption." I know lots of guitarists who can play certain sections of Eruption, but there's only a few who can play the whole song note for note and play it at the right tempo without messing up somewhere.

[–]Grimsterr 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I wish I had any talent. My white whale is Cliffs of Dover, jesus his fingers must have an extra joint or something.

[–]screechhater 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Saw him live a few years ago. Warms up and says "at my age I like it slow and easy....." Then proceeds to start jamming like he is on fire, lays right into cliffs of dover and brings the house down. Looked like he was going to go up in flames

[–]BobbyPeru 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I missed the part where you said "my kid." Well, hell if he gets close enough, buy it for sure. That's a bad ass bass. The Rush video cut out on me - I'll try it again later. But, even that song is pretty tough. He must be getting pretty damn good.

[–]RuleZeroDAD 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Runners (and wannabe runners) are the worst.

Check out my 26.2 bumper sticker and my 4,200 mentions on FB that I'm training for a marathon. Holy fuck, we get it, running makes you special (and generally skinny-fat and unappealing).

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

In that moment they believe they'll do that 90 push up challenge. A week later, something new.

What happened to the 90 push up challenge? - nobody cares, they moved on too, there is no accountability.

[–]fuzzyface1980 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

Lol. Like a faggot, I did all this shit. I'm just now gaining control, or at least what I find in the realm of acceptable behavior.

Squatting with a bar over my shoulders is some of the greatest shit I've ever done for myself. Press with heels, chest out and rise more masculine than I was a moment before.

Can't wait for the next article.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

We all hate our former faggot selves. I'm hoping with all of the information out there we can help save some dudes from digging too deep of a whole to climb out of.

[–]stonepimpletilistsHARD CORE NAVY RED 3ポイント4ポイント  (4子コメント)

I replace beer with bourbon, Bogey got me hooked on it. Can confirm, I can ping all kinds of stuff off the dog, and he's so grateful for the attention, he'll let me victim puke all kinds of shit.

Though I left out the lunch meat while I had a shower this morning, and came back to an empty chewed up bag. ADALT.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Though I left out the lunch meat while I had a shower this morning, and came back to an empty chewed up bag. ADALT.

I left out the lunch meat while I had a shower this morning, and came back to an empty chewed up bag

I left out the lunch meat while I had a shower this morning

I left out the lunch meat

Own your shit or your dog will eat your shit

[–]ofthehighdesert 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

Mastiffs are exceptional listeners.

[–]alphabeta49MRP-APPROVED 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

As are shepherds. Pitts and boxers... not so much.

[–]ShiveringPines 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

A man will never have any friend in this world like his German Shepherd.

[–]reborn_redUnplugging - pregnant LTR 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Lots of truth, great post.

The pill is a bitter one to swallow, but I will always choose the pain of the truth over the comfort of a lie.

Fostering OI and stopping worrying about shit I can't control has helped me find comfort in the fact that I am responsible for my present and future, becoming the man I know I can be.

...newly unplugged man will look to his wife and say, “I’m the Captain now” to which she will laugh or snicker and say, ‘yeah, ok…’

For me it wasn't an overt statement, but she definitely noticed the changes in my attitude and began testing the fuck outta me. STFU was my initial go to, but have slowly learned to 'think' before I speak and not get dragged into her pissy frame.

Your wife isn’t your mother. You don’t need to run to her and say, “Hey look at me..."

Mentioned this the other day - I was a big validation seeker, but you hit the nail on the head:

She doesn’t need another child

I realise now. She already had one.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Keep grinding, it gets easier as you go

[–]rocknrollchuck 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Let’s say your dad dies and you were close with him. It is fine to shed a tear, but don’t become a sniffling child unable to exist or care for yourself. He was your father, he’s going to die (we all are) and now you can grieve, hopefully praising his life and using this as a reminder to not to waste a single breath, doing this in a positive manner as opposed to being sad he is gone. You should be glad you had the moments with him that you did and share that aspect with your friends and family. You’re sad, but you’re still a man and you can lead others to finding the joy of this life instead of sadness in the moment of a loss. I’m of the opinion that you grieve for one day and one day alone. Carrying it out is either looking for attention or wasting time and using it as an excuse for inactivity. Mourn your loss, more importantly honor the loss of a member of your tribe by living even more fiercely.

My Dad died in February. My parents moved in with us last year and I watched how my Mom browbeat my Dad in every nasty way she could, every day until he died. Death was a relief for him, to be honest. I will always honor the memory of my Dad, and he was a really great guy that everyone loved. But he was the ultimate Nice Guy, and I got to see how that plays out toward the end of a marriage that lasted 52 years.

This has motivated me to change like nothing else ever could. I REFUSE to continue down that same path, because I have seen how it ends. That is what drives me to improve every day. That is the picture I keep fresh in my mind - my frustrated, browbeaten Dad, with a pacemaker, 24/7 oxygen, diabetes and about 8 different medications he had to take every day. He didn't take care of himself health-wise, and my Mom was the nastiest shrew harpy to him that I have ever witnessed in real life. Nope, not me brother. Not me. Funny thing is, I use A&A and AM on her all the time, and she has nothing but the utmost respect for me... Weird how that works (not really). AWALT

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

AWALT - yep.

Also, that is exactly how a masculine man should look at it.

Not with a woe is me attitude, but rather a here is what I learned, now I have fuel perspective.

[–]Bread_Pilled 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Another well written and timely post.

There's been a plethora of men posting on MRP's sister subreddit that fail to understand this. These men are on opposite sides of the spectrum. Some can't help themselves from whining to their spouses about feeling sad, angry, and hurt. While others mistakenly remain silent robots in the face of situations which would evoke an emotional response from any normal human being.

This post strikes a happy medium between the two. There's nothing wrong with showing emotion, just do not do not come across as needy or whiny. Restraint is needed: a man should not need his spouse as an emotional tampon.

That being said, emotions can provide the spark for change. Just observe many of the men on here - many of them have come from a place of sadness and emptiness and have been able to turn their lives around and start living for themselves.

Control is what's important. To effectively lead his family, a man must show that he alone is in control of himself and his emotions.

[–]CasperTFG_808 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thank you for pointing this out I've done half of these and this is good warning not to do the other half.

To sum it up, I am hearing the only time you should weep to your wife is when your dog dies.

[–]ofthehighdesert 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is exactly what I needed to read toady.

[–]screechhater 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Best advice I got was from dad- "she's not your priest and a wife ain't designed for confession"

Other best advice after a beating from him, "what doesn't kill you, will definitely harden you, and no one wants you to gloat when it's your turn to bask in the light either from praise from working for what you want or laying out the other faggot with one blow to the throat. Eat your humble pie, daily pussy"

I could give 10 fucks what she notices, and I sure as hell dont broadcast my goals to her or others.

Words have a way of biting into in the ass when used against you. However ripped to shreds dad carrying in a toddler to swimming lessons demonstrates it all

[–]Unpluggedredmist 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not gloating about your success is how true champions act. Not gloating about your progress is how true captains act. Real men don't complain or gloat they just conquer. Great post again your work has helped me so much.

[–]LVIronpig 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Amen.
I did live through this. I unplugged about two years ago and I argued and pleaded with my wife to no avail. I spilled my soul to her, whcih made things worse. It wasn't until I just shut up and moved forward being the man "I" wanted to be. It wasn't until I stopped asking permission or checking with my wife before I did things. It wasn't until I made decisions and stopped saying, "I don't know, what do you want to do?" It wasn't until then that things changed. My wife want/needed me to take the lead. It wasn't until I took it that things changed. It was amazing. I was happier, but also she seemed happier. She now WANTS to please me, not just put up with me. I attribute most of my success to Athol Kay and his book Married Man Sex Primer. It helped me change my paradigm.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Awesome response & insight.

[–]Osoto_Gari 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

@ TheFamilyAlpha - I'm going over your site now. I'm enjoying and getting something out of it. Just a suggestion though - is there a "home" page where I can read all your blog posts?

[–]Osoto_Gari 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Never mind I just found it

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's the link labeled 'Directory' - explore away, let me know what you think.

[–]redearththeory 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Good post and a super important concept - I should expect zero emotional support from my wife. Just like I should expect zero emotional support from my kids. Its not their job and for good reason. I treat my interaction with my wife like a date - the purpose is to attract her so why would I discuss topics that aren't attractive? Anytime I feel the need to deviate from this I need to look at my own motivation.

[–]StarvingWizard 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Holy shit, this hit me hard. Quality stuff. Thanks.