Collected Advice and Methods for Beginners

Foothill_r34 · 2ヶ月前

This is an outstanding submission, much appreciated bro.

sedecim_02 · 2ヶ月前

I think I'd have to disagree on is not showering everyday. Sure, it might work for you but in times like the summer it's not really an option to not shower everyday.

RedPillFreedom · 2ヶ月前

Enjoy the format.

Good Post especially for Newbies.

RPmatrix · 2ヶ月前

Great post bro, This is very good advice. You have encapsulated most of The Most Important things here OP and given good practical examples.

The only thing I would add is in the 'biohack' section -- Especially if you have any anxiety or depression issues, Take magnesium and vitamin D supplements too.

And when I look back on my life, without a doubt the two most significant yet simple things you can do for your health are; cold showers and proper breathing.

As it's an 'autonomic' function, we don't usually notice our breathing until it's hard to do. This is a mistake.

We can go without food for weeks, we can go without water for days, yet we can't go without air for more than a few minutes --- learn how to breathe 'properly', i.e. diaphragmatically, it's your connection to the Life force.

There's an added bonus to focused breathing, it's a form of meditation. The more control you have over your body you have over your mind and vice versa!

Also, too many guys neglect their cardio side for swole, another mistake. Don't miss "heart days"!

What's the point of being swole if you can't keep yourself going hard for more than 30secs?

Take up riding a bike if you can't run (I injured my knees skiing and later in a MC crash ... I can't run long distances without risking injury but I sure can ride a bike) Swimming is not a good cardio exercise, ideally you need to be able to push your heart rate up to 80% of maximum and keep it going for several minutes..

High Intensity Interval Training is very effective, but so is riding your bike 10kms to work and back, 5 days a week. I like how I can combine part of my training with commuting, whereas if I'm doing HIIT I still have to allocate at least ~1 hour every second day, which for me is too disruptive to a busy schedule compared to including this exercise as part of your daily commute. I can easily put in 30second bursts of 100% effort followed by 60second rst periods on the bike, 3-5 times in a 5km ride.

As I live in the inner city and my bike is my primary form of transport. I'd easily ride a 100 kms a week. These days I have no trouble smashing out a 5km trip through traffic in < 15mins, and do 40km trail rides for fun. I'm the fittest guy I know my age outside of a handful of pro athletes.

I am also the only person I know my age who's religiously taken cold showers after hot showers since I was 16. It's the strangest habit which I often had this love hate relationship with!

However. combined with a good diet, the benefits are tangible. When I was 30 people I didn't know would guess I was in my early 20's, and people consistenly guess my age to be 10-15yrs less than what it is. I find it amusing and I don't mind. From across a room people will even guess lower! Nobody comes close to my correct age (50) and most are very surprised when I've told them.

Excellent synopsis OP, you'll go far with your knowledge and attitude

AnthonyMimming · 2ヶ月前

OP, i want you to know that it is actually a genetic thing with "asians" to have very mild body odour/smell. Us non asians need to shower more frequently. No im not joking, it is scientifically proven.

geezertrp · 2ヶ月前

Great post overall.

One very minor nitpick:

Learn to dance as if no one is watching. Great for getting out of your comfort zone.

That's absolutely true. Learning to hold frame, to fail in the process of learning something new, and to not care about what random people think are all important things for newbies to learn—and dancing in public can help.

But what about those with two left feet who really want to learn how to dance better?

Would you tell someone headed to the gym, "learn to lift in public, just put on the soundtrack to Rocky and wave some dumbbells around?" Probably not.

Some resources that helped this old guy get some better moves:

http://lifehacker.com/scientists-discover-the-ideal-dance-moves-for-men-1647760223

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7tbdF6lSK0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4EIl1qh9lqU

This guy, douchey hat aside, will teach you some things that help with rhythm and footwork, but he's short on the big upper body moves that indicate you're alpha on the dance floor. So you can start there, but move on.

https://www.youtube.com/user/HowToDanceForMen

asymptotic_salvation · 2ヶ月前

Brilliant post. One thing to add:

If you're going to learn to fight, learn Brazilian Jiu-jitsu or Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) at a competition gym.

Even if it's only once a week.

Bjj is widely accepted as the most effective 1-on-1 martial art (see the history of the UFC), second only to MMA -- which Bjj forms an enormous part of -- and will have the largest carry-over to a street fight.

A competition gym will ensure that your training is always practical and efficient, and the competitive environment will repulse the feminine types that have turned martial arts into a glorified body-pump class.

Apologies for formatting, on a mobile.

For the record, I've trained Muay Thai & Boxing and then MMA, bjj and sub wrestling at a couple of gyms.

HungLikeA_Moose · 2ヶ月前

A vasectomy at 23? Yea, I also thought I had it all figured out at that age. Hate to break it to you, but you don't. What an idiotic decision.

PawnToKing · 2ヶ月前

Since this post is practically perfect, I'm just going to point out the two or three things I personally disagree with. Firstly, you mention running right after weight training, but for cosmetic purposes. Running is something one should do for either health or leisure. Do not recommend running for building a physique. It's a time waster. I plan on doing a detailed post on proper efficient training later.

Second, you said to learn to manage your money or cancel your credit card. In 21st century America, it's imperative to have credit. It's easy to build credit with no danger to yourself. Every small purchase you would usually make, simply put on your credit card. Set up monthly autopay and pay in full. Get a card with no annual fee. This way it will cost you nothing to use it, but because of cash back you will actually MAKE money, while building credit. Especially since you stress the importance of self control and discipline, not being able to control yourself with spending is no excuse.

Lastly, you don't mention leisure. Being a high functioning, driven male is all well and good, but in Cal Newport's Deep Work, he cotes research that shows we only have a finite amount of self control we can use in a day and a finite amount of hard work we can do. This means to keep a healthy emotional state, we must practice leisure. Go climbing, play music casually, read books (fiction!), Or even waste time on Netflix or video games.

That's my two cents. Feel free to disagree, and of course, congrats on a top notch post.

Hang10Dude · 2ヶ月前

"Now I'm just a guy with a mission in life and better boundaries."

There's a lot of debate about what the 'end state' of the red pill is. I'd say that just about sums it up.

thismaytakeawhile · 2ヶ月前

Get RID of bluepill music

The number of angles from which TBP is shoved in our faces is phenominal.

ghengiscock · 2ヶ月前

Aaaaand saved.

Love that you included School of Life and The Philosophy of Rick and Morty.

FilthMonger85 · 2ヶ月前

Best post ive seen on here in my short 3 months. Thank you very much.

EvrythingISayIsRight · 2ヶ月前

Also -

Attempt to curb reddit/facebook/twitter/etc use & drinking/smoking/whatever

RPFlame · 2ヶ月前

Recommend Youtube: The Philosophy of Rick and Morty

I have to disagree with Rick and Morty's viewpoint on existentialism and Nihilism. Especially the latter, where everyone interprets Nietzsche as if he was pushing Nihilism as the end of all. Nihilism was the means towards a better end. Like grabbing a rubber and erasing everything that sucks. Rick and Morty is based on a half-assed high-schooler's understanding of what existentialism and nihilism are.

Also, existentialists tend to be very dutiful people. Morty's quote "life is meaningless bla bla can I watch TV" is beyond retarded. Our actions still matter now not just for ourselves but also for our family, friends, business. It sounds similar to those who think they can take a shit down to traditional values and build from nothing. There's no way you can build anything without foundations, for starters. We don't get the choose the moments when what we do matters and when what we do doesn't, that's hamstering.

I'd suggest people who are interested in learning more to read multiple existentialists, instead of taking my point of view or even a TV show's point of view at face value, and form their own opinion.

Aywing · 2ヶ月前

INTP as well, thanks for the post, easy to come back to.

Turiluca · 2ヶ月前

As an INTP myself I find your post really enlightening. I have a thing or too to try and somethings I disagree that are deserving of some thought. Cheers mate

EddieTH · 2ヶ月前

>advises to cut out screen time

>recommends and app/youtube channel with every point

no wonder the internet thinks this sub is full of inbred idiots

MrSimple333 · 2ヶ月前

Mr.Simple333, now this guy knows his shit. This is the best post I have seen on here in a while. Basically a self-improvement primer. I applaud you MrSimple333, my brother from another mother.

Theotropho · 2ヶ月前

pretty good. Needs more meditation.

JustTitDirt · 2ヶ月前

"Shower every other day."

Hah. Two questions for the guy who wrote that. Where do you live and what kind of office job do you have?

statface21 · 2ヶ月前

limit caffeine intake. Makes me anxious and uncomfortable alot of times in social situations

Starshitlord · 2ヶ月前

Finally someone else who promotes the cold shower, best feeling ever, especially after a gym workout. Winter or summer cold is your friend.

PaperStreetVilla · 1ヶ月前

Well, if this isn't the building of a self aware man who owns his shit.

This one will go far

chooseaburner · 1ヶ月前

A few points since I finally took the time to read all of this.

Learn to manage your money. KILL AND AVOID DEBT ASAP. Either be responsible with credit cards or don't get one at all. (I finally cancel my credit card after running it up to the max way too many times. Nearly spent all my savings.)

Debt is something you take on that you can't afford. Loans are something you can.

When you're signing up for a loan, it's an honesty check- you're either lying to the bank or yourself- about your ability to pay. Now, sometimes there is a perfectly good reason to take a loan over paying in full- having your money now is more important, even if it translates to paying more over the term of the loan- but in broad terms you should never sign up for a loan you couldn't pay down immediately.

Loans aren't bad. Liars are bad. No one likes a liar, and your credit score is a good indicator of how honest you are. And if your response is, "well I didn't know I'd lose my job in four months!" then you're just a delusional idiot who can't plan, which is arguably worse than a liar.

Learn to cook and clean.

There's a certain vanity to not wanting to cook, but being perfectly willing to throw money at whatever joint you buy something from. Whether it's a subway, pad thai, burritos, burgers, chicken, whatever, you can do it cheaper at home, and usually in roughly the same amount of time. No one's asking you to make crown rack of lamb or a baked Alaska or flambe, but you should be able to make something like pulled pork or a good seafood pasta. Fast food is what you eat when you're new in town or living out of a hotel and don't have much of a choice.

Plus being able to make a good home cooked meal is an excellent test for anyone you'd consider LTR material. A woman who's just prostituting herself to you in return for expensive meals out and nice things isn't going to have a lot of patience for thrift minded home cooked meals. Similarly, being able to cook is a sort of dog whistle for women who actually want someone who's a frugal, self sufficient adult. You're not a teenager anymore, stop living out of the freezer.

QUIT PORN and fapping. You are wasting your drive for fake pixels. Imagine what would happen when you harness all that energy into something productive. (This by far one of the hardest thing for me to achieve.)

Nofap is a bunch of nonsense, but it's perfectly necessary in a society where it's 'normal' to beat it once a day. Testimonials from people who'd have you believe they started shitting gold once they gave up the habit should really tell you something. Once a week would be on the extreme end- relative to a plausible goal that should be something like once every other week to once a month- but quitting these adult subjects is completely pointless if you're not willing to fill the gap with something else. Like any other addiction that lacks a chemical component- tobacco, heroin- if you don't have something else to fill the gap, you will absolutely fall right back into the addiction. It's not about quitting, it's about replacing bad habits with positive ones.

Some people work best with a cold turkey method, some people can control themselves. Do what works. The only person who's going to know if you fuck up is yourself, so you gotta ask if you can be honest with yourself. Remember what I said about lying? Lie to other people, you're a dishonest scumbag, lie to yourself and you're a delusional buffoon.

Shower every other day and within a 5 minute duration (within reason please). Showering everyday could also damage your skin.

No. This is stupid, especially if this leads to you working up a good sweat and then not washing it off. Plus some people really do just chronically sweat like a pig. You can shower as often as you want provided you're not nuking your body with hot water, scrubbing it down with aggressive, anti-bacterial soaps, and ruining your hair with shampoo before throwing some conditioner on it to recover some of the damage. More on that later.

Take cold showers. Another mental exercise over your fear. Observe the excuses your mind makes up, clear your mind, and then jump right in. (training this method everyday will make a good habit for doing cold approaches). Health benefits and save money too. Using too much hot water can dry and damage your skin and hair.

Hot showers have their uses, but if we think of showers like drugs, a hot shower is a relaxant, while a cold shower is a stimulant. You take a hot shower after a hard work out, or if it's a hot, humid summer night and you want to fall asleep, or if you have a sore muscle. If you get sinus induced migraines, the steam can also help with that. Hot showers can generally help with dealing with, say, a bad cold as well.

All other showers should be cold. Hot water damages your hair, causes you to sweat- this runs counter to the point of showering to clean yourself- and drives important oils from your skin, out to the surface. While all of this is minor in scale, if you're doing it every day, it will absolutely add up.

On the subject of BO

Since I've seen it discussed in the comments, I felt it necessary.

BO is caused by a broad variety of factors, including genetics, environment, dietary habits, hygienic habits, stress levels and things you probably don't think of, like remembering to dry off properly after showers.

The root of BO is caused by the fact that your skin will retain a lot of goodies some bacterial strains like to chow down on. If they have a wet surface, these bacteria will spawn like there's no tomorrow, making you stink. So the contest becomes an issue of how well you can stay dry. But some times of year you can't really help it, and other times you don't really think about how, say, a spicy meal can make you sweat. Or alcohol. Or how some components in foods- sulfur specifically, but red meat has also been associated with it to some degree- will actually sweat out of your body. If you ate a meal that was basically a plate of onions and garlic, people would be able to smell it, and it wouldn't just be your breath. This is also part of why obese people are said to smell like sausages.

Of course, chronic sweating- especially cold sweats- can be indicative of uncontrolled diabetes. It can be worth the effort to talk to a doctor about your sweating if it feels uncontrollable.

Increase your testosterone.

It's a hell of a lot more complicated than getting more zinc in your body. Vitamin D- dietary sources are as important as being in the sun; eat those eggs- has been found to have a direct correlation with testosterone production. Though it isn't known which is the critical component, high carb- by which I mean sugar, you're eating too much sugar- diets, and obesity have both found to have negative impacts on testosterone production. Fats- especially saturated fats- are also important. Your diet should include meats other than fish and chicken, and other sources like olive oil and avocado should not be ignored.

Getting enough veggies in your diet- particularly bad estrogen cleaning cruciferious veggies like your leafy greens, broccoli, cauliflower, radishes, kale, cabbage, spinach, and collard greens- is also important. Remember to lay off the booze. A drink here and there is fine but you're not just getting a beer gut when you hit the bottle.

Get RID of bluepill music.

Excluding a handful of AM stations, radio in general is cancerous. If it's not shitty pop music, phoned in, "I want my royalties check" songs, or dumb love songs it's masturbatory radio ads trying to get you to spend money on insurance to follow a Dream(TM). The good stuff isn't worth wading through an ocean of piss mist waiting for it to come on.

But I swear to god if I see you in a car with head phones on as the driver I will eat your limbs. The radio sucking is no excuse. Headphones do far more to block out external sound than your car's stereo system.

vsimak · 1ヶ月前

Take an ayahuasca journey. Go to a Vipassana retreat.

Break into the silence.

Forcetobereckonedwit · 2ヶ月前

Great basics. Thanks for your efforts.

aewiggin · 2ヶ月前

Agree with everything except shower frequency and deodorant use.

zetayshow · 2ヶ月前

This should go to the sidebar. Great post op.

serious_bs · 2ヶ月前

Logged in to say that sleeping on a hard surface is bad for your back. Buy a decent pocket spring mattress with a box spring or decent water bed. Go lie in a bed, check your body (or have it checked) before you buy it.

Source: I have a bad back since 10 years, have spoken to dozens of specialists and physical therapists, MRI scan, ...

sharpie711 · 2ヶ月前

I have some more books that I personally like:

Influence: https://www.amazon.com/Influence-Psychology-Persuasion-Robert-Cialdini/dp/006124189X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1467738215&sr=8-1&keywords=influence

What everybody is saying: https://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/dp/0061438294/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1467738244&sr=8-1&keywords=body+language

Body Language: https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1467738244&sr=8-4&keywords=body+language

Emotional intelligence: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-2-0-Travis-Bradberry/dp/0974320625/ref=sr_1_sc_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1467738330&sr=8-2-spell&keywords=emtionall+intelligence

cwilson830 · 2ヶ月前

Limit your social media accounts and usage. Recommend Methods: Online "dating" is only for top 10%, attention whores, and thirsty betas. You have a better chance in public. If you have a Facebook, limit your friends to under 100 and set it to private. (I got mine to less than 50 after I deleted people I don't know, never talk to, and toxic ones.) Don't be connected 24/7. Disable notifications off your apps. Reeks desperation.

Good post, but I don't agree with part of this.

I do agree that in person > online dating, but I don't agree with cutting out all online. Sure, if you're in the top 10%, you'll clean up, but I've seen plenty of regular guys do just fine with minimal effort.

Also, online dating and general social media should be two separate things. Definitely limit SM usage, set accounts to private, and disable notifications. And I don't get the point of the 100 limitation. If you do the first three things, this isn't necessary.

PranksterLad · 2ヶ月前

Saved. Downloaded f.flux too for my mac. Legend. Any other cool apps or things, I love little things like this

saiyanmentality · 2ヶ月前

Saved, one of the more useful posts since the last few days

ArtistBlock · 2ヶ月前

Good post, do you have a before and after pictures? No offense, all these points are great but anyone can theorize and put together a list. Any videos of you learning dancing? Whats your profession? Do you have any proof that this works or is it YMMV? I'm not hating at all but I've seen self improvement list like these on this subreddit. What's your ethos? Your word?

GentlemanGengar1 · 2ヶ月前

This is a gorgeous post, good job my man.

Warrior_For_Hire · 2ヶ月前

Best fucking post on the red pill. Much appreciated.

orangepolenta · 2ヶ月前

Incredible post. Thanks. Saved.

Dont touch the eyebrows unless your rockin the unibrow. My experience with woman is the shit guys get for pluckin brows is serious. Theyll know if you do, nothing wussier. Be proud.

2c

PM_Your_8008s · 1ヶ月前

You said you couldn't sit and think of nothing without falling asleep, but I'd highly highly recommend trying that kind of meditation. With even just 20 minutes a day it's pretty helpful in cutting through the bullshit running through your head and helps so you 'respond' to a situation rather than 'react', which is huge for me because I have a real temper and some of the shit girls say and do can really bother me, but not so much anymore. It helps keep that amusing, light attitude towards stuff, so you can shrug it off easier.

Anyway that was my little bit on meditating, rest of the post was great and I saved it in case I want another read through now and again. I appreciate it

DoofusCPA · 1ヶ月前

Hello, I am a Asian American, male,

So you're good at math and have a small pecker?

I kid, I kid!

JesusTheCridge · 17日前

I know I'm reading an old post but you have some great advice and general reminders that I can always improve my life. Thank you man

drew967 · 2ヶ月前

OP im also Asian and lifting. Like you I also started off very skinny, but how long did it take you to reach 160?? Currently at 151-152lbs from a year and a half of lifting.

Were you just on a constant bulk like me?? Or did you have periods of cutting?

mikeylongshanks · 2ヶ月前

Awesome write up. Two men that went unmentioned (and deserve an honorable mention) are Chad Howse and Brett McKay.

Chad Howse usually posts motivational videos specifically for men and Brett McKay's (Art of Manliness) blog covers everything in this post from being frugal to how to boost testosterone to how to dress.

PantyLiquidation · 2ヶ月前

OP - I was thinking about getting a vasectomy, but I've heard a couple of horror stories about how some guys have excruciating pain down there for years after the procedure. Do you regret anything about getting a vasectomy? Is there any pain or discomfort that you feel? How much did the procedure cost?

MrSimple333 · 2ヶ月前

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Kingofmyworld909 · 2ヶ月前

Sleep naked and also on hard surface, help with back pain and better posture.

Deadlifting and rowing (with proper form), and other accessory movements focusing on back, will also help reduce or eliminate back pain.

When I was a 250 pound fat fuck and even when I was lighter but hadn't started lifting, my lack of back muscles (and strength of my back) was horrendous and I would always tweak my neck and back and also accumulate more pinched nerves than necessary.

A_Crabby_Patty · 2ヶ月前

Canceling your credit card because you max them out is stupid, just spend less.

Credit cards offer you anywhere from $0.01- $0.05 per dollar of spending. It's literally free money.

Credit cards also offer you protection against theft. Lose your debit card and the thief spends your money? Shit out of luck.

apexofexcellence · 2ヶ月前

I heard creatine converts test into DHT speeding up male pattern baldness. Anyone know if this is true or not?

Churoflip · 2ヶ月前

Not all drugs are bad, some can help some can break you. Rejecting them all is not wise in my opinion

WolfofAnarchy · 2ヶ月前

I don't agree with the insignificance but great post!

AlanAmpersand1 · 2ヶ月前

Hydrate motherfucker. Love it.

skuuurtt · 2ヶ月前

Why do you think that the "tabula rasa" is a valid theory?

David_029_Tredecies · 2ヶ月前

"PUA is basically bluepill mindset"

Why is PUA and effective on meeting women considered a bluepill? Is it because of routines or even some NLP stuffs? That reminds me...some of my friend while chatting about Mystery. I thought Mystery is awared in his social situation after he got master the art of meeting women and his alphaness after he has slumbered from his introvert state. The last issue I recalled is Mystery having a custody issues with his daughter Dakota while his wife Amanda (I think) took away his two beloved children.

IronManAlan · 2ヶ月前

Great submission OP, much appreciated. I'm glad you touched on personality type, turns out I'm an INTJ (3-4% of the population) Just reading up on this has given me a better understanding of "The way I think and how I perceive the outside world"

eatgodseeacid · 2ヶ月前

Near choked on my coffee when i read 30 minute commute per day.

net_ripper · 2ヶ月前

How did Dragonball Z inspire Image training? I'm very curious

gsmate · 2ヶ月前

where can I get the 48 laws of power blinknotes

the1mancircus · 1ヶ月前

If I may make an addition you cats may find to be of value. Wim Hof, "the iceman". He, on the Tim Ferris podcast, episode 102, expounds upon what he and his team of research scientists, take to be a potential cure from things spanning depression and disease. All things that inhibit us from living life maximally. He's also on the Joe Rogan show along with, I'm guessing, a whole host of other interviews.

A teaser of whats on the podcast:

Methodological breathing is hugely important. Combining that with other activities, e.g. cold showers etc., combine to recalibrate the regions of the brain surrounding the brain stem, in such a way that ailments like depression more or less can disappear, along with restoring pH levels to where they ought be, etc.

Give it a listen. I think you guys will dig it.

Episode 102 of the Tim Ferris show.

2polew · 1ヶ月前

Much obliged. Found some really good pieces of advice there.

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