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The main reason of course is the individual partners level of consciousness, where his or her own negativity and judgments decrease the connection, acquaintance and love with the partner. Connected with this however is the negative aspect of the male-female polarity itself. What draws a woman to a man is sought after by a woman, but causes suffering to a man and vice versa. Usually the intention (which is often a need) why someone is in a particular relationship defines the relationship and is simultaneously the trap.
This article aims to illuminate this polarity in light of the female ego, to make men more aware of manipulation processes, so that they are able to increase their integrity by being taken less advantage of. It shall be a contribution to help understand women’s behavior which is often puzzling to men and lay it out in a more linear way. But it might also serve women to identify negative patterns in order to be able to progressively let go of them. Furthermore examples will be given for many tactics. In men the reason for manipulating is a bit different, and women are taken as the example because they are very good at it and much better at hiding their ego and the intention behind resulting behaviors.
Women are aloof
What a woman says and does are two different things
When a woman is attracted to a man, this usually does not necessarily mean she will sleep and be in a relationship with him. She will need comfort and when she also has this, she still will usually want one more thing: a man’s attachment to her.
To ensure this attachment the following mechanism takes place :
At the beginning of a get-together things might seem smooth and you get to know each other and might enjoy yourself. However at a certain point, which might also happen very fast, she either completely looses interest in you or pushes you away emotionally. In case she looses interest though she is attracted, she already recognized that you did not escalate fast enough, which shows her your attachment is not strong enough for her to be interested anymore. In the other case pushing you away serves her to hold you in an emotional limbo, at a certain distance. If you, as a man feel confused, uncomfortable or victimized (even to the point of psychic terror), though having good intentions, this process might be just unfolding. Also as a form of one of the multitudinous manipulation techniques. This is called aloofness.
Figure 1 and 2 illustrate this process.
Figure 1 – Push
When the man comes too close emotionally a pushing away will happen. This is indicated by a shield from Captain America :). As soon as it might feel like you are becoming a friend she has to create a distance. A few practical examples on how this happens are:
You might be enjoying a good and friendly conversation and she stops responding (showing disinterest or becoming quiet) She puts you down in various ways. E.g. (in)directly stating that she has no affiliation with you. Disqualifying, arbitrary criticism and manipulation. She will say something like “You are not giving me enough space”, “I need space”, “I am afraid of getting hurt.”
Figure 2 – Pull
When you are about to loose interest yourself, usually because you do not want to put up with the BS and games anymore, the opposite will happen and she will try to reel you in again, often for fear of loosing you. However this will happen only to the degree that you can still be manipulated. In a sense she is like a puppeteer and gains control and power through that process.
Hiding the intention and recontextualizing play a huge role here. The man is supposed to think that something was his fault. To bring him back she might also offer sex or pretends to be friendly and courteous for a while.
“You have to fight for me”. By saying this she puts the weight on the man’s shoulder, so that he now keeps leaning in by himself again and catches the carrot.
Why does it work and what does it explain?
What a woman says and does and what it means are again two different things
If a man can not be manipulated, this means the woman can neither push him away nor reel him in, she will likely not be interested in the relationship anymore or to begin with.
This process really works because of two things:
1. The man’s ignorance about the matter. And women’s ability to hide the process.
2. His attachment and thus allowance of mistreatment because of his desire (i.e. lust).
Women are much more intuitive than men. They know perfectly well what is happening, which allows them to control this process. It is fascinating and explains many things:
1. Why women have no friends, and why it is said that women hate each other.
2. Why no woman likes his man.
3. Why a woman has to be conquered and courted.
4. Why a man usually feels compromised, uncomfortable and bossed in the presence of women.
5. Why women like badboys.
6. Why a man can and has to steal a woman from her boyfriend or husband.
7. Why there are problems in relationships and why relationships aren’t fun.
8. Why a man has to initiate contact and is burdened with responsibility of the overall situation.
9. Why a man cannot talk with women about certain things and why he will not get an answer to certain questions.
10. Why a man can read endless self-help books about relationships and go to couple therapy and will still experience struggle.
11. Why a woman rejects a man and simultaneously and secretly hopes that he keeps pursuing her if he is attractive.
How women control man
Let’s look deeper into the various tools women use to control and hide this process. It can be recognized that basically all tools are used to pull down one’s frequency and mislead by leveraging weaknesses, to invoke some kind of negative emotion like pride, jealousy, guilt, shame and so on. She intends to cause a reaction and suffering to her behavior. Because only then one becomes vulnerable and easy to control. When someone is happy, he cannot be controlled. Women know a mans weaknesses right away after looking at him. They are men experts. They get it through presence.
Figure 3 gives an overview.
Figure 3 – Female Ego and Manipulation Techniques
Interrogation – She asks questions to gain critical information that she can use to hold against the man. “Do you love me?”, “Are you my friend?”, “How important is sex for you in a relationship?”, “Why do you want to be with me?” Or to better determine your social status. Trying to find out if you are congruent. “Where do you work?”
Ambiguity – It will not be clear if she wants to be with you or not. Indirectness in communication. Saying one thing and doing another. Communicating one thing and then changing it.
Undermining Reality – She puts the weight on your shoulder. Either directly or indirectly pointing out that a happening was your fault, your responsibility or shortcoming. Blame. Disagreeing. Manipulation through guilt. “You are thinking too much about it. It is not that way.” “I think you are just silly.” “Don’t be silly.” “Soccer seems to be more important to you than I am” (blame and guilt) “You are such an egoist. A relationship cannot work with someone like you.” (pretending to be guilty and insulted). She laughs about her manipulative behavior as if it was a joke (recontextualization, also hiding).
Directing – This entails occupying your consciousness with irrelevancies and giving you commands. She may command you to do some gardening work with a very negative and commanding tone. “Give me a drink”, “Take the bag into the basement”. She dictates and instructs in various ways. She determines common activities and meetings. She implies being in need of help, and asks you to do things she could do on her own. She asks you a few irrelevant questions serveral times in a row. Like “How do you like my dress?” And even if you answer it, she asks again, sometimes right after the answer. She talks a lot and makes you do things.
Hurt – Anything that makes you suffer and what you are sensitive about. E.g. if you are fat or bold, women will repeatedly bring that into your awareness in fierce ways. Sometimes it may not appear fierce, but inwardly you will feel like a bomb just dropped over Hiroshima. A sublte way may be touching your bold spots, or repeatedly looking at them. The intention here is to harm deliberately. Every weakness and sensitivity you have about any issue will be brought up and used to stab. One example: “How much money do we still have?”.
Drama – 1. Poor me drama. Draining energy by complaining and implying that one is responsible for their troubles. The purpose here is to make you feel guilty. Often it works even though you know that it is not your fault on a deeper level. They talk about their illnesses, mistreatments or sufferings.
2. Pure negativity drama. Aggressiveness, being loud, insulting. The intention here is to get some kind of control back, to dominate and to reel you in.
3. Negativity dumping place drama. They just go on talking, transmitting pride, anger, sadness and judgementalism.
Waiting – They let you wait. Or they tell you or ask you for a specific time to meet or have dinner ready and then do not comply to this time.
Disqualification – She implies that she has more value than you directly or indirectly by putting you down.”You never change.”
Being Condescending – Insults. Showing Disrespect. Talking bad about you and putting you down. Complaining. “You never put down the toilet seat.” “I don’t want that. Stop it.” “You are never of any help.”
Dominating – In this category also belongs their attitude of “only what I want shall be done.”
Increasing Value – Increasing their own worth and market value by creating competition with other men. Even if there are no man in their lives right now, they make one up. They tell you various stories. They are also increasing their value by being aloof and pushing you away.
Negative Compliance Tests – They try to let you do things you would normally not do, but would do especially for women to gain their sympathy. Ironically (and that’s the point) the result will be the opposite of what you intended. “Can you hold my bag real quick, while I go to the toilet.” “I need socks to play the game. Do you have any?” (looking at yours, that are on your feet). “Do you want to drink something?” (handing you her cup with just a sip left). She starts holding your hands and takes notice if you let go or not.
Jealousy – She goes out dancing, and talks a lot about how other man are interested in her (implying it indirectly). She hides details of things and she is vague, especially when you are pushing for an answer. She is flirtatious with other men in your presence.
Responsibilities – They own your responsibilities and make them their own. This is a subtle enslavement. My secretary for example has to do some paperwork and some organizing for me. So occasionally she comes and I have to fill in some additional information on those paper sheets. And right in our conversation she manages it to turn it around and give me instructions what to do and when it should be finished. So of course I have to provide some information but she changes the energy and context as if she is the boss.
Role Adaptation – They take on a certain role. Being your parent for example. By expressively playing this role they are able to enforce the effects of the role.
Agreeing – After an argument you will see that they start argreeing on various things to end the argument. They are in control of starting and ending it.
Hoops – They throw a psychological hoop and see if you’re jumping into it. Often it is to deprive you of your power. She gets some feeling of superiority from knowing how you will respond.
Rejection – This is also often just a way to get a hold on you. Ironically women reject even men they are interest in.
The information gap – This word was termed by psychologist George Loewenstein. It states that there is a painful gap within our minds that we desire to close in order to relieve us from this pain. This gap is supposed to steer curiosity. This gap is created by questions and puzzles, unknown decisions, false expectations, access of information from others, remembering things you forgot. Women seem to know this even before it was discovered!
Panic Reactions – Once in a while they go for what can be called a panic reaction, when your brain gets short-circuited and you usually just blow. If the man gets physical, she turns it against the man and emphasizes how she really did nothing. And this works pretty well because her intention to short-circuit is well hidden. One example: It happens that she has bad breath and talks to you. You allude that she has bad breath and that she should please keep a distance while talking to you. You do that twice. She backs off walks around in the room a little bit then comes back close in order to relocate some things and then again to blow her breath into your nose.
Trolling Expectations/Perceptions – This is also a very subtle one and it can be said to happen on the level of thought. Three examples: She walks towards one side of a double door (holding the thought in mind to enter there) and you step aside in expectation she will now cross that path, but instead she now changes to enter through the second door. Secondly, the man expects her to behave mean in a certain situation but she is suddenly nice. Or you might know that she is attracted to you and expect her to touch her hair, but as you notice and pay attention to it she suppresses the movement and waits until you look away (may also be hiding in other situations).
Aloofness and Push – Pull – This was introduced at the beginning and though aloofness is something fundamental and innate to the female psyche it may be contextualized as a manipulation as well. Many techniques are supplemented by push – pull. They are preceded by a pull and finished with a push.
False Cause - Usually a woman blames and criticizes you exactly for what she is the cause. For example she complains that you are never doing anything with her. But when you make some propositions for activities she denies your suggestions without further ado. She is not interested in a constructive resolution of the conflict.
A Special Case – When you are arguing with some fact based reasoning in good will, what will often happen is that she implies in her argumentation that your fact is a generality and she gives an individual case for the purpose of disproving you as wrong (the individual case is also often a lie which is based on missing information that you do not have). Example: In a gender debate a man argues that men are often insecure in talking and approaching women because they are often not sure what is ok to do and what not. And that a man is supposed to do the first step because women never do it. The woman responded laughingly questioning what women he means and that she often makes the first step and speaks to men.
Caught Unprepared – One pattern is also that women strike when the man least expects it or is most vulnerable. Examples are when you come back home from work and are exhausted. are tired and start going to bed or leave a conversation with her.
Hiding and Enforcement
Lying – They lie from trivia to major things. Also to hide manipulation and aloofness. Often they tell you the opposite of what’s actually the case, “Men are pigs”, “You have to try to understand me”, “Men want what they can’t have.” When she bails out on appointments she talks about reasons of higher magnitude like it was raining or her mother did not let her. She does not respond.
Disguising – Disguising the process of aloofness and manipulative behaviour. Recontextualization. Basically all manipulation has to be disguised, otherwise it looses its function and purpose. “I am just trying to help you.”
Frame Control – This is a major one. Women almost have a super power here at their disposal. They are able to express their emotions and themselves unimpeded. They are at ease with it and do not fall into doubtful self-reflection. This is also why they enjoy dancing so much in constrast to many men. By being expressive and having a strong frame, it allows them to steer opinions and behavior. Women can even make an entire room consent to a certain preconceived belief just by holding a thought in mind.
Utilizing Needs and Positionalities – They know when a man likes something and use this knowledge to satisfy their own needs. Basically this is the foundation a woman works on: “her man is her kitchen.”
How do men cope with this knowledge?
All that is necessary to fully understand women and solve many relationship issues is to understand that women oppose and resist every ego weakness about a man and that they mistake power for love
Should men condemn this behavior? No, instead it is better to have compassion and forgive, especially ourselves in order to heal these aspects within our own psyche. It stems from women’s deep need for security and issues of abandonment. It has to be understood that women had much less power than man in the past and that it is mostly the source of all their power.
How do you protect yourself from this manipulation and respond?
A usual way to deal with these issues would be to point out that you do not tolerate this behaviour and align with this attitude (cal. 300′s). However, women will not comply to this request, will use the various tools mentioned above and keep on going.
Women are so good at these tests, that they know that you will suffer from it and that you cannot really protect yourself from it. Because whatever you say your inner state will be known and to be kind in anger is pretense. Of course you can build a ‘thick skin’ and pretend, but ….
The only way to really master these tests is to become loving. If you have transcended the emotional field that is being exploited you will likely not get these kind of attacks and even if you do, you usually just have to laugh. Because you instantly get what is happening and you are not subject to it. This is a good response, because it denotes more humility and compassion.
We will end this article with a few calibrations:
This article calibrates at – no permission
The average level of consciousness of men and women is the same – true
There are no spiritual differences between men and women – true
A woman perfects her intuitive side before the man does – true
Some of the manipulation techniques were completed from the german book “Lob des Sexismus” from Lodovico Satana, which lays out manipulation techniques in much more detail (only available in german).
so did my gf break up with me because our LOC was too much apart?
Your name is Enlightenment you should know! Or get a better avatar like Please SIr?
This is basically bull shit made by a man who really needs his ego brought down, you cant categorize all women , that's crap , its like saying all men are rapists , there not, just like all women aren't controlling, manipulative and over bearing.
All humans manipulate. It's part of our evolution as a social species. He is just laying out some of the strategies that your gender employs. You are perceiving what he is writing as an attack on women, which it is not.
In reading this… It seemed like this was an Opposite written article. AKA.. let’s write out how men manipulate women and just reverse all the gender pronouns and see if anyone notices.
A agree with other commenters that all folks have some element of manipulation tactics, when they are afraid and not being aware that some tendency or fear is controlling them, feel out of control or too vulnerable and thus may fall into manipulative behavior.
The aloof, carrot maneuver seems way more a guy tactic then a female one.. My experience of women’s aloofness has been something one can understand (and get women to clarify pretty easily) that they have been hurt before and want time to build trust. it’s at this time that one can start seeing if they are real themselves and can walk their own talk and be vulnerable when I am being… aka if they can show up too or want to be more controlling (just as men show their controlling maneuvers at this time).
The article lays out a form of manipulation but fails to put it in proportional context, aka, this sometimes happens. It also gives little or no help in discerning when someone themselves are vulnerable or triggered (which can look like manipulation but is often when one is being openhearted and requires careful, mutually vulnerable contact). The articles absence of contextual advice silently leaves one in a manipulation arms race with little sense of alternatives…
Hahaha I’d have to agree here and say he was obviously a victim of some sort
Relationships are complex and there is always a "give and take." People can find they are dissimilar in ways that do not work to maintain a relationship. It is not nessassary to mentally and emotionally look at every partner as an eventual marriage companion. Both in the relationship are growing, changing. Sometimes it is together or it maybe apart. In any all cases be greatful for what each teaches the other. No time is wasted. There is always opportunity to learn and practice love, compassion, forgiveness. Even if it does not work out well, all involved can still love each other. It's not needed to hate the person to end a relationship that no longer seems right.
Thanks for sharing, Paul.
Frank this is a great post. can you explain in further detail about "women oppose and resist every ego weakness about a man and that they mistake power for love"
and can you provide more examples of how to be more loving, humble and compassionate when faced with these tests. with female friends and co-workers as well.
and finally what do women gain from this behavior if it doesnt benefit them really.
a simple way to avoid being controlled is to just watch and observe, also letting the manipulator think that they are controlling you helps a lot, then simply proceed to do whatever it is that you want to do and never say yes or no and never argue, always say "hmm" then nod and then proceed with your life
zero ego=maximum power
Excellent advice. Don’t react. Play your cards close to your chest. Just do what you’re going to do.
I ask the police for their opinion, they said, "all women are cunts" I hope they are wrong
"The only way to really master these tests is to become loving. If you have transcended the emotional field that is being exploited you will likely not get these kind of attacks and even if you do, you usually just have to laugh. Because you instantly get what is happening and you are not subject to it. This is a good response, because it denotes more humility and compassion."
Translation: Women should not be held accountable for their manipulative actions. Women should not learn to communicate with honesty and respect. Women should continue to practice manipulation, and as a response… men should practice love, humor, humility and compassion.
What a terrible double standard to endorse. The advice above is insulting to men, and disempowering to women.
How about an article communicating the importance of ending manipulative behavior in relationships? How to live with integrity. How to say what you mean, and do what you say. How to communicate clearly and directly, with honesty and respect… like an equal partner. How to be an equal contributor to a happier, healthier relationship, free of manipulation.
Keith it's true that if something pisses you off, you've got to express it – the article states this also. The quote you mention is basically saying instead of just resenting manipulative behaviour and trying to stop it from happening, use the fact that it's out there as an opportunity to grow and eliminate weaknesses in yourself, then the manipulative behaviour won't even be encountered. That's a great place to be, because the potential for manipulative behaviour to be directed at you will ALWAYS be out there. And I'll re-iterate what I said earlier – if a woman does find a genuine weakness and abuse it (i.e. you get pissed-off), sure of course you should express that and if she's a good person she will take that seriously. Alternatively, she'll just leave you if she finds too many weaknesses. That's just nature – just like we'll leave a woman if we decide we don't like her anymore.
And just how do you plan on ending manipulative behavior? By exposing it, by confronting it? I have been married for 19 years and exposing it creates more manipulation and rage.
I hope that no man reads this hoping that using this context will give him access to intimacy in a relationship, not only with a woman, but with any person. While there's certainly validity to it, the context is completely off, creating more drama and in-fighting.
An inconvenient truth. Let’s just ignore it.
I hope not all men will read this and think these are the only reasons why a woman may pull back and ask questions.
I myself have done this because of being afraid to trust again after being badly hurt…when my bf has asked why I am pushing him away I explain this.
I would totally agree some women can be manipulative as some men can be, but just a female perspective here.
My apologies if I have missed something
No, it’s true! It’s too much of a coincidence that people across generations, languages and cultures–largely with no contact with each other–have made these same observations. Women have no intention of being objective. They will take whatever position on a topic that is most strategic. You deny this because you’re a woman.
It's funny that even the women posting on here are lying, and taking offense, and turning it around, and say other women do this, but refuse to admit they do it themselves. This Post has given me a good understanding, and taking the Red Pill, I will never be manipulated again, and have already stopped before reading this post and others today. My own intuition has been growing and I have been seeing through the drama and illusion and have just stopped giving a shit, because it's true. What a woman says is not what she means. Lived it, have to deal with it, but what is twisted can not be made straight no matter how much love and understanding you have.
Always the same with articles that expose this kind of BS, the women who comment either take offence and turn it around onto men, or they say others do it but not themselves, very very rarely will you see any kind of admission, which is testament to how deeply ingrained it all is into the female psyche, they take it as an attack on the very core of who they are, which results in denial/anger/rejection/projection or whatever.
I agree to an extent that yes some men are equally manipulative, but generally speaking, and from my experience, the men who do it are usually sociopathic, or have sociopathic personality traits to some degree, e.g. lack a strong conscience etc. Men are not naturally manipulative towards women, but weak men can lean towards manipulation due to a perceived lack within themselves.
I could go into great depth with this subject, as I have spent the last decade working with hundreds and hundreds of different women and girls, unfortunately waking up to the reality isn't that enjoyable, because it largely goes against what men are conventionally taught about women. However arming yourself with knowledge and experience is the only real way to gain a life of peace and enjoyment, unfortunately that can mean recognizing self evident truths, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant, and dealing with them accordingly.
This is exceptional. Outstanding and thank you.
No men are not as manipulative as women. Fk the political correctness, women in general are manipulative cunts. Period. Men are generally direct, sincere and acting in good faith. Don't be manipulated otherwise. Of course we know that women select for the assholes, but that is a distortion of the norm. The reverse is not true, men do not select for cunts, it's just inherent to the creature.
This page has a lot of useful information. Women, in general, are manipulative. It is how they get want they want. It starts when they are young girls, crying to Daddy to get something. They continue with this manipulation when they are adults and in a relationship.
When men get tired of the manipulation they start to employ these strategies to regain some control over their own happiness. Unfortunately, women cannot handle being in a relationship if they are not in total control and will sabotage or exit the relationship if they cannot be in control.
Many women are unhappy and alone because of their ego and their need to be the boss 100% of the time. Men find out, usually later in life, that they are happiest when they are alone and not being bossed around. This is all due to women and their need to dominate.
Excellent article. This a great start for a man or woman that is looking to understand what kind of people are out there and how to avoid them and to watch out. Great people don’t want to get married to an individual with these issues and there are lots of them from all walks of life. My best advice is if you looking for a woman or a man you must learn what kind of person they really are so you don’t became miserable from leaving 24×7 with on. If you do your homework you will have better chances to be happy with the person you married. Personally, love been single. Good luck to you
Thanks John. The way I am going about it is also to become as happy and independent as I can be, which may then eventually attract a being on the same level into my life or not. (This works only if one knows how to apply the letting go mechanism, otherwise how to become happier?) After all it seems that being miserable in marriage, is just one's own misery reflected back to oneself.
Thanks Frank, soul search studies and understanding of detachment will lead to a greater understanding of the world we live in and to appriciate and love all forms of life and let it be the good and try to reroute the missed guide to greater good since the many appear to fall for the fears planted by their own “families ” or the known sociaty main stream we all live in.
Generally speaking, individuals with these fear/ issues cope by controlling their environment by placing gullible an unprepared victims. However, the victims that do soul search realized their predicament in horror after years of marriage and what kind of life style they have signed for. The solution is of course, desolution and remove himself from harms way; since been in a pretentious environment is harmful and even fatal after years if not decades of gracefully crafted concealed means by your dear soul mate. The current divorce batles means and strategies can only endorse the mind set of the deceitful. For the informed man or woman that did their homework and walk away from harms way happy that did no fall for the aware or unaware cunning misguided soul. After, all true happiness comes within ourselfs and NOT by who you sorround yourselfs with.
>>There are no spiritual differences between men and women – true
This presumes the existence of a "spirit". How was this measured?
I believe a basic introduction to evolutionary psychology for young men and women might help explain a lot of the confusing behavior by both sexes during the pair bonding process. Schopenhauer's "Will to Life" is nothing more than raging hormones. How else can our species continue to thrive? A man's social status and access to resources is what any smart woman should look for in a potential mate if she wants children. It's biology pure and simple that involves the exchange of a lot of messy body fluids. Not very romantic, I know.
Dear Readers, I am a woman . . . and have always relied heavily on statistics. I note each time I encounter a new group of spiritual seekers that the majority of them are women. (Just thought this was applicable to balance out this conversation).
A Special Case – When you are arguing with some fact based reasoning in good will, what will often happen is that she implies in her argumentation that your fact is a generality and she gives an individual case for the purpose of disproving you as wrong (the individual case is also often a lie which is based on missing information that you do not have). Example: In a gender debate a man argues that men are often insecure in talking and approaching women because they are often not sure what is ok to do and what not. And that a man is supposed to do the first step because women never do it. The woman responded laughingly questioning what women he means and that she often makes the first step and speaks to men.
Women have no friends, they hate each other? Not outside the US. In more traditional mediterranean cultures they have way, way more friends. Suprisingly enough, they get along quite well with each other.
You say women oppose every ego weakness but the same time women want males attachment. A male who can easily be manipulated and attached to female is mentally weak. Mentally strong can not be manipulated and won’t sell their mind by being reactive to external control, for example. In fact, it seems the like female chooses male that can easily be controlled and manipulated. That’s how evolution works. That’s how most males are chosen. An independent male is a threat to female because she wants male to labor and work for children and family which needs certain amount of attachment and in fact tolerance to suffering.
I thought this was an interesting article as were the replies. To all of the women that have commented or will comment in the future, just remember that there are many articles on men, how we act, and what opinion the writer has which usually is some form of how inadequate we are what we need to change. Way too many articles if you ask me, written by women that don't know shit. Let us have our articles that talk about women shortcomings too. Also, in every generalization or stereotype, it is not saying ALL or EVERY person, but a vast majority which make up more than 50%.
If you really think about it, no one is perfect whether to be a man or a woman. There are @ssholes on both sides that have hurt someone which is usually what prompts these types of articles to be written. There is nothing wrong with calling a spade a spade. Women manipulate. That is what they do, even the good ones manipulate on some level. Men like to f*uck multiple women. That is usually our fault, even the good ones. Why do we spend so much time blaming the sun for shining? There is nothing we can do about it. If we all found a way to accept each other, the good and bad, and not expect perfection, it would be much easier to forgive the one you love when they hurt you. If you can forgive, through understanding and insight, than you have a better chance of getting to resolve, and moving on with your life, together. This may even stop the cycle of people that get hurt and change into the people that will hurt someone else.
Anyway, thats my 2 pennies for what its worth.
Many techniques you described were used by my exgf, she has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Guys, please run away from these kind of women who one day see you as their knight in shining armor but the other they don’t even want to see you for no apparent reason. She will pose as the unicorn and will start mirroring you (as she really doesn’t know herself [weak self-identity]). The objective is to make you infatuated with yourself. Just wait for the honeymoon to end…
This is not Bipolar Disorder (as she used to say) because she had a lot of difficulty being emotionally intimate with me. Boy, now I know what vaginismus means. They are impulsive and usually have a past of sleeping around (a consequence of the first and you could observe that by watching how many random males she has in her facebook account). If she says that her past does not matter: RUN!
I’m lucky she didn’t get pregnant or that I didn’t get some nasty STD.
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This was so interesting to read as a woman, I definitely agree that myself do use the tool of jealously against men who don’t show interest or have hurt my feelings. Even I see a lot of these in my friends. Men are equally as bad though as I’ve read apon, the human race works in crazy ways.
Awesome. I like your blog. I totally agree with you we manipulate our men. I am a drama queen with my hubby to get his attention because i know he is always afraid of it.
women can make men do even things not in their line of hobbies by way of manipulation
This whole article is frame control with the supposistion that women are a certain way and men are not. We are universal spirit and have untapped potential at the very same things whether man or woman or for light or the darkness. Imagine this. A woman is born into the world with a blank template original innocence, same with a guy….dont you think that certain expectatiins like the ones above set up a mold that turns into a self fulfilling prophecy? Which happened first? The manipulating nature of woman or the nature of woman having been manipulated. Keep in mind their is a full scale effort to create divisivness amongst humans whther man or woman, green or purple. I happen to be a man when it comes to my physicsl being, however having died many times unto my true Self I am very closecto universiality right now….hence the God geniusness i just laid out right now. We are all god and i will tell you right now…100 percent of the stuff listed above belongs to one thing and that is not man nor woman nor humanitycitself. It is dark unconsciousness and you need not a book of skills to be real creative at busting it widecopen. Be awake, know thyself, andvall that is good will come and all that serves darkness will go. Great article by the way at describing 3rd dimensional tactics, spot on, howevercwhen youcare flying in 5d and sometimes 7d well things get REAL simple as many dynamics no longer apply because they cease to exist in the higher dimension of being and this experience. I wrote a book called the spiritual atom bomb by Michael William Springer. I think you can find it online for free as a pdf. Anyways bombs away…i dunno lol.
This is a bunch of BS. Your stating that ALL women do these victimizing things to poor little ole guys. Guys are as manipulative as women. Not ALL women are manipulative, just like ALL men are not abusive di**s. I hope it didn’t cost you money and hopefully not a lot of time to sit there and dream this crap up. Your saying this BS based off what studies and evidence? I’ve been married 22 years. My husband and I have had our ups and downs. EVERY up and down WE have EVER had, was due to “a partnership”, a coupled, two person miscommunication; we broke our communication as a couple and we fixed it and our relationship as a couple. It takes two ppl in a relationship. Not just one. I refuse to believe that a female is always the manipulator and the problem in a relationship. Your bat sh** crazy for believing what You wrote. What you wrote has zero validity that if all women are accepting that they are demanding and put their men down, that if they accept and realize they are these trolling (feed The the troll), mean, controlling, guilt causing, horrible creatures…that they will just automatically fix their relationship. Whatever. What needs to happen is for the COUPLE to communicate, respect each other and don’t go doing things to your partner that you wouldn’t want them to do to you. For the female, one side of a relationship, to accept what your staying… That isnt going to solve ANY relationship issues. Respect and love for each other will. Humility and caring for each other will. But what you wrote; I now feel dumber for having read THIS! No wonder your female relationships have issues. Thanks for wasting my time in reading this. Manipulation, demanding, controlling, demeaning people (not females, not just males either) are the majority of the population… But I refuse to believe that ONLY the female is the one to blame. So if the female just accepts all the blame in a relationship, all the relationship problems will be solved. Great. Now I feel guilty for having been manipulated and controlled; put down and abused by you. Thanks for ruining my perspective on life. There is something seriously wrong with you. Oh, I have NEVER used a comment box by the way. After I read that, I couldn’t stop myself from replying to the very first one in my whole LIFE!
Actually a few of the ppl that replied are pretty much WAY out there!!!!! They just let anyone post BS Psyco crap on this blog.com. I’m gonna go get me a blog and start spouting BS from the rooftops! Yay! Let’s all say crazy sh**!
yeah u sound traumatized.or ure attracted to these kind of women. you know the way some women are just attracted to jerks. not all women are like that and it’s unfair to stereotype us all. it also sounds like uve got a problem with your ego. some kind of bitterness in your tone and your examples. kkkkkkk. get help. there’s plenty of great women out there. wat u did here is tell us the kind of women ure attracted to.