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Where can I meet a quality girl? (self.askTO)

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Awkward question guys, but I need some help. I was in a long term relationship throughout my University years and then became single as I got into a profession where my off days are shit and it makes things difficult to meet people (very male dominated sphere).

I'm a decent looking guy (people tell me I look like a younger version of Rob Lowe) and take care of my health, but I can't seem to find anything substantial.

I tried tinder for a brief period of time, received a decent number of matches...but quickly realized I was up against thousands of other dudes as conversations would die out, girls would cancel the dates last second due to cold feet and quickly soured my experience. I guess what I am trying to say is I want to move away from this technology stuff and actually have a face to face experience.

I ask out girls in public, but often get told that they have boyfriends... I understand its weird for a stranger to ask you out, but what are my options?

Does anyone have any good ideas where to go/meet some girls? Again thanks for any help.

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[–]quelar 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

The best thing to do is to stop. Seriously.

Stop looking for someone and start enjoying your life. The minute you stop worrying about someone else being attached to you the reek of desperation fades away and you'll be out there doing things you like to do and suddenly...

Seriously just stop worrying about it.

[–]_DeadChillMenorah_ [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Nothing dry's my pussy out faster than Reddit and desperation.

[–]lilfunky1 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Where can I meet a quality girl?

What do you have to offer "a quality girl"?

[–]lilfunky1 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I guess what I am trying to say is I want to move away from this technology stuff and actually have a face to face experience.

There are loads of speed dating events in the city. Maybe sign up for some of those.

[–]p3rviepanda 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

If you have like-minded friends, maybe you may meet them off of your friends? I'm unsure if Tinder would be an ideal option. I've never tried to meet guys off there but then again, there may be the odd one so I won't say anything about that given I don't have first-hand experience. What about meetup.com or something?

[–]Zquestion3[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I've been with the same group of guys for a while. While I love them to death they don't really have a selection to choose from. I've met all their friends and didn't really connect with any.

[–]stampytheelephant 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Expand your social circle, and try to expand it toward other like-minded single people (e.g. singles meetups). If you are expanding your social circle, you are already meeting people who share your interests, and that makes a great starting point.

[–]inc_mplete 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

What's your current lifestyle? Does the young Rob Lowe prefer to be a homebody or does he likes to frequent different landings and king west? Meet new people and ask friends if they know someone with substance!

[–]Zquestion3[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

I find it's tough to make new friends the older you get. People seem to be set in their way and don't want to let in new people in there circle. But fair advice. Thank you

[–]inc_mplete 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

yah definitely get where you're coming from. I also prefer to meet people organically instead of online dating. I've seen the drama my friends go through when they use Tinder.

[–]senorita_topaz [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Do you have a dog?

Great way to meet people

[–]Llemondifficult [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

All women have qualities. Be careful that you don’t fall into “nice guy syndrome”.

Your first priority is being happy with yourself and your life beyond your looks. Being a good fulfilled person on your own makes you the kind of person that other people will want to be with. You don’t want to be with the sad person who is moping in the corner, so don’t be that person yourself. Join clubs/activities/parties/events/sports/hobbies that you’re interested in. You might meet someone naturally this way.

If you’re a happy interesting person on your own, then work at meeting someone. Don’t approach random women, find places where other single people are looking to meet and date. Go to singles events and do online dating (there are other sites that aren’t Tinder), but take the time and effort to do it well. There will always be people who flake out on dates and no one owes you anything (see nice guy syndrome above), but if you take the time to write a meaningful thoughtful messages then you should get some good responses in return (https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/online-dating-advice-exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message/).

[–]_DeadChillMenorah_ [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I'm a decent looking guy (people tell me I look like a younger version of Rob Lowe) and take care of my health, but I can't seem to find anything substantial.

That sentence I quoted above speaks volumes. So you're a good looking guy who's physically fit and can't understand what the issue is with women? It's likely your personality, or the way you express yourself to women when you communicate with them.

I have ghosted many online dudes who were hot fit and had good jobs because of the interactions I had with them. Your probably lacking keeping their interest or have problems keeping conversations going.

When communicating with someone of the opposite sex always express your thoughts and end it with something that is a question for them not a statement. Ending in a statement makes it harder for the other person to respond to, questions keep conversations going.

Anyway I don't know what that 'quality girl' thing means but that really rubbed me the wrong way.

Also girls aren't looking for just fit hot guys with good jobs so again that is maybe why this is surprising to you that you're single but you don't know what women want. A fit good looking guy with a decent job to me sounds boring and just like every other bozo I see in the path at lunch. What on earth are you offering that is different?