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Possible TrollOp posts to /r/relationships complaining of "crazy exes". /r/relationships thinks he's just a dick. (np.reddit.com)

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[–]pammerlord[S] 107ポイント108ポイント  (47子コメント)

Saving the Op here before it gets purged

I've recently entered a stable long term relationship with a wonderful girl (let's call her Rachel) a few months ago, after several years of flings and short term relationships. Unfortunately the big downside of having been with such a large number of women is that you're bound to run into at least a few crazies and two of them are starting to cause problems for me.

The first girl (let's call her Tina) was one I met a few years ago. Our relationship had lasted for a couple months before I broke it off when she told me that she loved me, since I wasn't really interested in a long term relationship with a girl like her.

I kept her around as a part time fuckbuddy and hooked up with her occasionally when I was in between relationships but I didn't really spent a lot of time with her outside of that. She often sends me sexy photos and texts and tries to convince me to get back together with her but I mostly just ignored that until now. Ever since I started dating Rachel though, I've decided to try and break it off with her permanently, but she doesn't seem to take the hint. I've tried showing extreme disinterest towards her and even outright telling her that she should stop texting me since I have a gf, but she just seems to take that as me "being coy".

The second ex (let's call her Sarah) was my only serious relationship before I met Rachel. Our relationship was okay at first but soon hit a snag because of our different sex drives. She was 20 years old and a virgin so she wanted to take it really slow. I grew tired of this pretty quickly and wound up having a brief fling with Tina while we were still dating. I regretted this and immediately apologized when I was discovered a month later. It caused quite a bit of tension in our relationship for some time but ironically caused her to start having sex with me which fixed the original problem.

Things actually went okay for awhile after that until I met Rachel, who I felt a much stronger attraction to. I tried to break things off with Sarah and it seemed pretty amicable at first but after awhile she starting stalking me and social media and leaving nasty comments talking shit about me and trying to pick fights. I tried calmly confronting her about this but all she did was flip out and talk more shit so I just blocked her on all my social media profiles. I thought this would be the end of it but as of very recently, she's starting make a few attempts to contact Rachel some of my friends and say more nasty shit about me.

Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with either of these problems? I really like Rachel and this is my second big attempt at a long term relationship so I'm trying really hard to make it work.

tl;dr: Crazy exes are threatening to cause problems in my current relationship and I'm trying to figure out what to do.

[–]cjojojo 166ポイント167ポイント  (23子コメント)

What a dick. Dumps one girl because she loves him but still keeps her around cuz he knows she'll fuck him. Moves on to someone else but cheats on her because she's a virgin but it's ok because he apologized and now she'll sleep with him so problem solved right?

[–]Brutog 154ポイント155ポイント  (6子コメント)

I regretted this and immediately apologized when I was discovered a month later.

He thinks he's good because he apologized, but the fact is he'd never do that unless he was caught.

[–]MuffasaI'm a world class pooper. [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

One month later, I regretted this immediately.

[–]GoodUsername22 [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

One month later, I regretted this immediately. Until we started fuckin' then I was like ayyyyyyyyy

[–]lead-holder [スコア非表示]  (2子コメント)

"Immediately... One month later..."

That doesn't make any sense!

[–]Brutog [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

To be fair, he most likely means he apologized immediately when found out.

[–]Pants_Pierre [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Immediately after several ejaculations later.

[–]MonkeyNin [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

It's not even his fault

big downside of having been with such a large number of women is that you're bound to run into at least a few crazies and two of them are starting to cause problems for me.

[–]MuffasaI'm a world class pooper. 87ポイント88ポイント  (7子コメント)

You missed the part where he then cheats on that girl again and then dumps her for the girl he cheated on her with. He's really good at this long term relationship thing that he is super serious about.

[–]Brutog [スコア非表示]  (6子コメント)

It's feels more like his friends are tired of hearing about it and he needs a new way to let people know he's drowning in pussy.

[–]wightjilt [スコア非表示]  (3子コメント)

He should drown faster.

[–]MuffasaI'm a world class pooper. [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

I think his real problem is that he never told Rachel that he was in a relationship when they met. The ex stalking him online, is him asking how to hide her so it doesn't slip out.

[–]Azusanga [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Yah, she's probably trying to tell Rachel that he wasn't honest in the beginning of their relationship

[–]IAMA_Drunk_Armadillo [スコア非表示]  (3子コメント)

This reeks of a NiceGuy® pickup artist.

[–]onemillionidiotkids [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Reeks of abusive partner - just in that never taking responsibility; everything is everyone else's fault, calmly rationalising everyone who disagrees as "crazy", believes deep down that they're really the victim, etc

[–]LiterallyBismarck [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

Nah, nice guys are usually just socially incompetent around women, not emotionally abusive assholes.

[–]IAMA_Drunk_Armadillo [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I am using that term in reference to the guys who think women owe them sex because they're a "nice guy" and get all bitter and jaded when rejected.

Basically the red pill type.

[–]MoonliteJaz [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

This is one time where I can agree with r/relationships

[–]GoatintheOakTree 66ポイント67ポイント  (17子コメント)

I don't get how people like that can't look at their behaviour and see the problems

[–]T3canolisbig liberal softy 78ポイント79ポイント  (6子コメント)

Because they cannot process reality in any way that does not feature them as the protagonist, whose wants and feelings are objectively the "right" thing, and anyone who dares have conflicting wants and feelings is simply an obstacle, and "crazy"

[–]GoatintheOakTree 37ポイント38ポイント  (1子コメント)

I feel bad for the girls mentioned in the post :(

[–]T3canolisbig liberal softy 41ポイント42ポイント  (0子コメント)

So do I. The guy lacks empathy in any meaningful way, so these girls are being ignored, manipulated, and bad-mouthed for acting like a normal person would.

[–]maanu123 [スコア非表示]  (2子コメント)

Is there any hope for those types of people? There's got to be, right?

[–]T3canolisbig liberal softy [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Of course. We all have the tendency to do what he does every now and again, but most people have the ability to recognize it and try to avoid it or atone for it. People who don't have this self-awareness often find it at some point, too, as life usually forces you to take some looks in the mirror. As for OP himself, I don't know if he'll ever realize other people's wants and desires matter because it just never clicks for some people.

[–]YossarionTinfoil Deerstalker [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Sure, they're called "everyone." If you don't think you do this, it just means you haven't caught yourself yet.

[–]YossarionTinfoil Deerstalker [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Everyone lives in their own movie, not realizing that everyone else is also in the middle of their own movie.

[–]fuzeebearcuck magic 43ポイント44ポイント  (3子コメント)

All my exes are crazy bitches! Surely my behavior is perfectly fine, and it's just a coincidence that I keep having the same issues with every woman I date.

[–]RawrCat [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

If the world smells like shit, look under your shoe.

[–]fuzeebearcuck magic [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Aw man, I stepped in egotistical douchebag

[–]MonkeyNin [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

It's because you're so awesome. They can't resist you.

[–]Oxus007Recreationally Offended [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

Because it's a troll

[–]See_i_did [スコア非表示]  (2子コメント)

This guy has got to be a troll. Everything he says is said in a way that is just innocent enough to push everyone in /r/relationships off the deep end.

[–]sirboozebum [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

That's the first thing I thought.

[–]acadametw [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

It's possible except that I know for a fact those people exist in real life /=

[–]YouThinkYouFaded [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

http://archive.is/46Sjt

[–]strolls [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I wasn't really interested in a long term relationship with a girl like her.

A girl like her? Did anyone else hear alarm bells upon reading this?

[–]mynameisacoolname [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

When you meet an asshole in the morning, you met an asshole in the morning. But when you meet assholes all day, you're the asshole.

[–]All-the-downvotes [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Sorting by controversial in the relationships subreddit is my go to for drama

[–]onemillionidiotkids [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I know a dude like this. I bet we all know a dude like this. Satisfying popcorn.

[–]imnotlegolas [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

What surprises me most is that people believe the guy - and actually invest time in giving him advice. I can completely believe that there are good looking guys out there who will run into issues like this, but the way he is writing it, adding in details of how fucking them, how much they want him, how great he is... I feel amazed people take it seriously.

It's like on Reddit people create this fantasy world where these outrageous things happen consistently.

[–]predpilot85 [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Obvious troll is obvious.

[–]RawrCat [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

This drama is always a lot less fun when somebody posts from a throwaway account because it's a big red flag that they could be trolling, especially when they say outlandish things like that.

It's totally believable that somebody could be so unaware of their own shortcomings but this popcorn lacks the butter and salt that comes from checking a user's previous comments and realizing they've been crazy for years.

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[–]Skeeterboro [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

What a fucktard.

[–]FamishedHeart [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

TL; DR: OP is kinda sorta a cunt.

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    [–]Oxus007Recreationally Offended[M] [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

    Don't flamebait in SRD