My best friend of 4 years has recently begun to slowly cut me out of his life because I have been verbal about my feelings on women, relationships, mating strategies, etc.

We have always had our differences and in fact in most ways we are polar opposites in regards to politics, religion, beliefs, etc. Most of our beliefs are on opposite sides of the spectrum.

The point I'm getting at, is none of our differences have ever been a problem. In fact, we enjoy talking about them and we're both very open minded to each other. We've always been able to share our beliefs to each other until recently, when I've become more vocal about my thoughts on women. Because we were both just out of really bad breakups at the time, I thought now might be a time to test the waters and see if he's someone I can share my thoughts with in regards to women.

He was open minded at first and while he disagreed with some of it, he actually agreed with most of it and would share his thoughts too. He was always very neutral, however, so as to be able to keep his "plate" clean and not devote to any certain side of the belief spectrum. What I mean is he never committed to any main conclusions on women and often concluded "everything is case by case".

So, months go by and we're both still single. My sense of humor has begun adapting more of my thoughts on women into it so I made lots of jokes on them and thought all was fine. It was a big way we bonded: I would make a joke, he would retort and all would be laughing. I'm comfortable in my MGTOW life and while he never committed, he seemed a little MGTOW, with one major catch: it was only cause he was holding out for his "unicorn". You bet your ass I gave him shit about it, too. But he held firm that he believed his unicorn was out there and clung to that. He said and I quote, "I don't care if I have to wait forever, I don't want anyone except my unicorn" (yes he used my terminology of "unicorn").

Fast forward a few weeks from that conversation to about a month ago. He tells me one day that one of his classes has him sign up for a "penpal" website to exchange letters with someone in a foreign country as a class project or something. He never clarifies what class made him do it, what the project was for, and why. So it smelled like bullshit but I play along. He says he has foreign girls contacting him all the time trying to get visas and stuff. And then one day this girl from New Zealand (we are in U.S.) messages him and they start talking. From talking on the site, to texting on the phone, to having phone calls, now they are sending gifts to each other through the mail. He confides in me a few weeks later that they've made it "official". I start probing a little bit and find that he truly believes he's found his "unicorn". A quiet and modest Asian virgin who has never had a boyfriend even at 20 years old. He tells me she didn't even know that there was more than one sex position, I'm like "what?", and he says: "yeah she thought there was only missionary, that's how much of a virgin she is, mentally and physically!"

Now I've been redpill for a few years and I know exactly what's going on. This girl is looking for a provider. She knows he wants a unicorn, so she made herself into that unicorn. He's taking the bait. He says he now has plans to move to NZ after college in 2 years and they're going to go on trips together and be a thing. I'm like....alright, dude.

Anyways, we have a group of guys that hangs out together weekly and we're all always together unless it's just me and my friend. I guess my friend realized that with me being all "sexist" and all and him now being in a new relationship, I'm just some bitter misogynist asshole who told him he'd never find his unicorn. So he's stopped texting me, initiating any contact with me whatsoever, no longer invites me to the hangouts, and doesn't inform me when the group is going to concerts, etc. What he's begun to do is have another guy in the group be the "messenger" man and text me stuff like "hey man, think the guys are hanging Tuesday night at ____'s place". This has been this way for a few weeks now. My friend has not invited me once, while the other guy has invited me every time.

And the funny thing, I do still come, because I value our friendship and have a great time with the other guys in the group. My friend doesn't really participate much in the group anymore, even with the other guys. He just texts his girlfriend in NZ constantly (literally every 2 seconds, if he's not writing a message to her, he's picking up his phone as soon as he gets a message from her to read it) and plays video games when waiting for texts. Me and the other guys are joking, laughing, listening to music, planning cool shit to do. When we hangout, my friends will mention things they've done during the week and I found out they've had hangouts where I wasn't invited and had no idea about it. My friends have no idea of the tension between me and my best friend, which is weird because one of the them is now the "messenger" and still doesn't see what's going on.

I'll probably try to address it eventually, but it's weird. My friend is very anti-confrontational. In fact, once I show up to these hangouts it's almost as if there's nothing wrong. He'll joke with me a bit, we'll chat and have a good time, etc. but once I'm gone I won't hear from him until the other guy messages me again to hang out. I've toned down on my comments on girls quite a bit just because I value our friendship and don't want to alienate him or something (in fact I've even been supportive of his relationship just because I want the best for my friend), but he's known this girl for only a few months while he's known me since he was still an edgy teenager going through his experimental phases.

Not sure what I'll do about it but just wanted to share this with you guys. Don't share your beliefs with even your closest peers unless they have already been unplugged. The world does not want its fantasy to be disrupted. If you disrupt it, you are the asshole for waking them up from their sleep. It's 2016 and guys still believe in unicorns and will ditch their best friends of years for girls they've never met and have only known for a few months.