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[–]happy_waldo 292ポイント293ポイント  (7子コメント)

Wait...so when I jokingly said I wanted to marry David Bowie....I was actually serious??

Oh no, AM I BISEXUAL?!

My family also likes to air out all of our secrets over a nice Thanksgiving turkey, so this will be great to tell them in November!

[–]Applesauceinmypants 74ポイント75ポイント  (3子コメント)

We wait for right before funerals. That way if we shock anyone and they die we can try for a 2 for 1 service.

[–]M0TUS 11ポイント12ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thrifty! I like it. Those flowers ain't cheap, so might as well add an extra name to the little card that goes with them.

[–]_0x20 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

We can send off two little caskets - one for dignity

[–]MemeLovingTrash 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

/r/frugaljerk

[–]lead-holder 8ポイント9ポイント  (2子コメント)

If there is one kernel of truth to this story, it's the fact that no one is kidding when they say they want to marry Bowie.

[–]squeak37 5ポイント6ポイント  (1子コメント)

I dunno, the relationship would fall pretty flat in his current state

[–]Mred12 377ポイント378ポイント  (6子コメント)

I mean, it's great that you're accepting and all. But you dad, at 50, coming out as bisexual should probably warrant a bit more than snorting "cool" at him from behind your phone.

[–]petersutcliff 193ポイント194ポイント  (2子コメント)

Not if you're sharing a 100% true story showing how progressive you are.

[–]GnuMag 41ポイント42ポイント  (1子コメント)

Oh, so you're sharing the biggest secret of your entire life. Something that you've borne with you for close to 40 years in fear of being mistreated, laughed at, or shunned by your family. The only proper response to that is:

Yeah, cool... No one cares. Would you pass me the gravy, Gracie?

[–]GayWarden 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, I don't know why a lot people think this is an ideal response to someone coming out. Even in a pretty accepting family people anguish over being gay for years. When they finally have the courage to say it out loud, this is coming from a long journey of self acceptance. It is not a time to be dismissive or indifferent.

[–]codeloss 96ポイント97ポイント  (4子コメント)

Ah yes, the famous Thanksgiving confessions.

[–]False-Dmitri 31ポイント32ポイント  (3子コメント)

Just after the Airing of Grievances!

[–]Pacman97 17ポイント18ポイント  (2子コメント)

Is that before or after the Feats of Strength?

[–]IAMA_Drunk_Armadillo 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

After, I believe feats of strength is first.

[–]KomradeKoala 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

No, last. Festivus isn't over until the head of household is beaten in the feats of strength

[–]03mark87 35ポイント36ポイント  (0子コメント)

"Look how tolerant we were! Our acceptance bordered on apathy!"

[–]lanternsinthesky 52ポイント53ポイント  (1子コメント)

You know if this really was their reaction, then they would actually just be really shitty people. If a loved decides to come out, especially at age 50, then you should probably show a little bit more support. You're not being progressive or open minded by acting indifferent to someone coming out, like at least try to be happy for them.

I get that this is a fake story, but this is just a really dumb thing to lie about, like

[–]selfmadequeen666 520ポイント521ポイント  (33子コメント)

Unless dad is planning on dating a guy, it's completely unnecessary to share this information with his kids.

[–]PrinceOfTheDam 328ポイント329ポイント  (4子コメント)

100% agreed. Seems more like a "I wish my dad wasn't straight so that I can prove that my family is diverse, when in reality my family is just boring and I made up this story to create a false sense of excitement for me and my friends"

[–]charlesthechuck 62ポイント63ポイント  (3子コメント)

Honestly its feels like those uber fake ass posts that people make to prove that they totally knew the celebrity before he died.Just kids getting on in the circlejerk

[–]LiiDo 28ポイント29ポイント  (1子コメント)

Nothing like circlejerking with kids

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[–]w00tious 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

It honestly doesn't look like it's attempting to be real, just a story.

[–]MihrSialiant 16ポイント17ポイント  (0子コメント)

Maybe he felt like he had been living a lie and not being honest about who he was. So telling is important because it's part of being honest with himself and his loved ones.

[–]Deepcrater 30ポイント31ポイント  (3子コメント)

Well he could have recently gotten a divorce or his wife could have passed away, just an fyi before they start dating again.

[–]BreadCrumbles 26ポイント27ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, I've seen this before and I always assumed that that was the case, especially because no mother/step-mother appears to be in the picture. I just thought it would be fairly realistic for a single father to give his kids a heads-up about it so they're not totally shocked when he introduces them to his boyfriend or something.

[–]bredoub 12ポイント13ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, my childhood friend's parents got divorced and his dad came out right after and started dating guys. My friend hand his siblings liked his partner, they were accepting, but it was completely shocking as hell for them.

[–]UsernamesAre4TheWeak 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

The reason I thought it was fake was because of the clunky sounding exposition at the beginning.

[–]FixedDecay 50ポイント51ポイント  (2子コメント)

Love the setup exposition by the dad too that would have been completely unnecessary for the people at the dinner already aware of tradition

[–]ArttuH5N1 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

DING!

[–]gordo65 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

So, since it's sort of a tradition to leave a supporting comment when you see a comment that amuses you, I think I ought to let everyone know how I feel about this comment. LOL.

[–]Bojarzin 23ポイント24ポイント  (0子コメント)

You don't need a reason to share personal information to your closest family

[–]free_chalupas 68ポイント69ポイント  (5子コメント)

I disagree. Bi people don't get a lot of visibility or respect, even from other LGBT people, and by coming out the dad is showing his kids that it's okay to be bi, and that he would be accepting of his kids if they themselves were bi (often sexuality isn't a topic that LGBT people will broach with their parents for fear of being rejected). Plus, knowing a bi person humanizes them for his kids, which has been a huge factor in why LGBT people have seen such huge advances in their rights in the last ~20 years.

Plus, I'm sure if the dad (and obviously this is all hypothetical given the subreddit we're in) had been pretending to be something he wasn't, however minor, it would be a relief to get that weight of his chest and feel like he could be open about his identity.

So, sorry for the wall of text, but I hope you can understand there are reasons why a bi person might want to come out even if it didn't affect their current relationships.

[–]PharmaDee 24ポイント25ポイント  (3子コメント)

Right? I'm bisexual and married to a man and I plan on telling our kids. I think it's important and I want our kids to know that we are accepting. Which is easy to do with "mom's bi."

[–]JackMoney 21ポイント22ポイント  (2子コメント)

Dad's high and mom's bi

[–]PharmaDee 10ポイント11ポイント  (0子コメント)

Lit AF

[–]Fyrsiel 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

But Momma still don't dance and Daddy still don't rock n' roll.

[–]KomradeKoala 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yep. Knew my friends wouldn't care, still was a huge ordeal for me to admit to them I was bi

[–]suckmyballs420 13ポイント14ポイント  (0子コメント)

So people should stay in the closest and keep an important part of their identity from their kids? Nah, first off, what kind of example is that setting for the kids. And second, no one should have to live in secrecy their whole lives. There's nothing shameful or wrong about being a proud open bisexual man. I'm so disappointed in how many of upvotes this comment has.

[–]Olpainless 13ポイント14ポイント  (0子コメント)

And this attitude is why we still need to come out.

"Out of the closets, into the streets"

[–]Sharknado_1 19ポイント20ポイント  (7子コメント)

I disagree. That's sexist first of all to suggest that men should keep their personal troubles to themselves. Secondly, I am not sure about other people here, but I am gay and it feels terrible to keep something like that to myself, especially to members of my own family.

[–]ethebr11 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

I would be inclined to agree with you as well. Here's a story for you people who can be bothered to read it.

I was absolutely terrified to come out to my parents, to my dad in particular, they're not religious or anything but my dad was slightly bigoted against LGB folk, he didn't believe they were going to hell or anything, just that they were worth less than straight people, and I was scared of what he'd think. It's telling that the only time I felt brave enough to tell them was after I'd gotten so drunk at my brothers wedding (at 15 years old mind you) that I cannot, for the life of me, remember actually coming out to them, only my dad storming off and me not really caring because I was 15 and absolutely hammered. After that for the next year I dealt with a relatively "oppressive" atmosphere when it came to my sexuality, and we've never really been close again after that.

What's my point with all this? That going through that kind of shit (nothing compared to some people's coming out stories, I'll admit) is something I'd again, in a million different lifetimes I'd do it again, because that atmosphere that I was worth less purely for my sexuality, that I couldn't be the perfect child he expected me to be purely because of who I liked, that was less painful than not being true to yourself, especially around the people who should be closest to you. Even though it wasn't relevant at the time, and hasn't really been relevant since (I haven't really dated anyone, let alone a guy) it was still like a weight off my back. If the $100% real dad in this story had another real counter-part who was going through this, I'd like them to feel comfortable telling their family, even if they had no intention of dating anyone for a while - or even if they were married already to a woman.

The first step to tolerance is visibility in society, and just knowing that your dad or mum or sister or aunt or cousin is bisexual and still turned out alright, and still raised their kids alright, that would help everyone.

[–]headless_bourgeoisie 0ポイント1ポイント  (5子コメント)

I disagree. That's sexist first of all to suggest that men should keep their personal troubles to themselves

I don't think anyone was implying that.

[–]Sharknado_1 1ポイント2ポイント  (4子コメント)

it's completely unnecessary to share this information with his kids.

That's what they said. What do you think they meant by that? It implies that the father shouldn't share his sexuality with his kids.

[–]Azusanga 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

It implies that any parent shouldn't share that with their kids, due to general TMIness. Is it only sexist because they said "he", even though it's been really clear throughout this entire post that the person coming out is male? It would be weird if it were the mother or father. That's all. That's the end. Full stop. No sexism.

[–]Sharknado_1 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

general TMIness

That is an even worse attitude. Why do you believe it is TMI to simply come out to your children and tell them who you love? It is not like he is going to begin talking about which guys he thinks are hot or stuff or show them porn or anything.

[–]headless_bourgeoisie -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yeah, and he didn't say "AND THIS ONLY APPLIES TO MEN" so fucking keep your pants on.

[–]Sharknado_1 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I say it was sexist because in our society we generally feel it is okay for women to share their feelings and seek emotional support. Comments like that perpetuate the idea that men should not.

If the OP didn't intend it that way, then that means they feel like parents shouldn't come out to their kids in general, which is an idea that I find disturbing.

so fucking keep your pants on

Okay? Someone got angry there.

[–]vanillavodka -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

Especially if they're not even old enough to know what a bisexual is.

[–]Sharknado_1 17ポイント18ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's not that hard of a concept to understand.

[–]decypher666 20ポイント21ポイント  (0子コメント)

And mom clapped

[–]GhostSheSends 53ポイント54ポイント  (4子コメント)

I don't know where the wife is in this story but she is one lucky lady not to be there.

[–]wheezythesadoctopus 15ポイント16ポイント  (0子コメント)

She was in the kitchen, blissfully unaware about her husband and Brian.

[–]strallus 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

Dead? Divorced?

[–]AleksTheGr8 12ポイント13ポイント  (1子コメント)

Unconscious along with the male hooker in the closet.

[–]Kwintty7 44ポイント45ポイント  (1子コメント)

Dad: It means I like girls and boys.

Me: No Dad, that's something else entirely for a 50 year old man. And not cool.

[–]TonyFuckingDanza 19ポイント20ポイント  (1子コメント)

Hmmm.... How can I shoehorn gayness and David Bowie into one bullshit post for maximum internet points?

Should I make my grandpa have the hots for Willy Wonka? Where can I fit a discussion of Robin Williams' hairy manbutt into the mix?

[–]uptonhere 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

Here you go:

"So, since it's sort of a tradition to confess things over our non-denominational December holiday dinner"

[–]PneumaOA 22ポイント23ポイント  (2子コメント)

David Bowie doesn't really count. I assumed anyone would've been with Bowie if given the opportunity.

[–]TonyFuckingDanza 28ポイント29ポイント  (1子コメント)

He looked like a female meth-head with a lazy eye.

[–]ryanasimov 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

"Eww, Dad... How about saying 'men and women' instead of 'boys and girls'?

[–]Cresset 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

"Because I like boys and girls. Hey, where are you going? I thought you were supposed to be tolerant people!"

[–]mrpopenfresh 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

DAVID BOWIE

[–]DeargDoom79 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

"Look at how tolerant and accepting my family and I are. Did I also mention I like David Bowie?"

[–]MrSmeeth23 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

I remember the same story from a while ago, but it didn't involve David Bowie

[–]unaesthetikz 5ポイント6ポイント  (2子コメント)

I bet the account that posted this is one of those cringe LGBT accounts where all the mods are edgy 12 year olds and only post tumblr stories that 100! actually happened.

[–]ihateradiohead 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

I hate those accounts with a passion because I know that it's not an accurate representation of actual LGBT people these are more like people who act as if being LGBT is a privilege

[–]unaesthetikz 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

" it's not an accurate representation of actual LGBT people these are more like people who act as if being LGBT is a privilege"

my exact thoughts about them

[–]TonyFuckingDanza 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

Ahh yes: Thanksgiving. Turkey, cranberry sauce, and awkward confessions of a sexual nature. So many festive traditions.

[–]whambulance_man 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

The bit about Bowie is dead serious though. The rest fits entirely appropriately for this sub.

[–]jamesf797 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

<laugh track>

[–]KayeChan 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Eh, kinda believable. My best friend came out as bi last Christmas to my husband and I. We were the first people he told. We were all playing video games like normal and he just dropped the "bomb" . My husband and I were like, OK. He always joked about wanting to fuck other men.

[–]Rev_Up_Those_Reposts 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

David Bowie is so hot right now. Just ask this person's dad.

[–]gaytechdadwithson 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

%100$ true

source: how i did it

[–]tacobleh 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

hi, I'm also bisexual and have never officially "come out." I'm not hiding it; if the topic comes up I'll mention it, I'm just wondering...did any of you other bisexual bros have an actual factual "time to sit down and tell the family I like both genders" moment? I always kinda assumed that was more for the LGT of LGBT.

[–]LeviJenkinsTheFirst 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yeah, I always figured that "coming out" as bisexual was kind of unnecessary.

[–]Cresset 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

For many hetero/homo people, bisexuals are just indecisive perverts who fuck everything that moves. And depending on the place it might be the same as being gay.

[–]Aameba 3ポイント4ポイント  (3子コメント)

This is fake and stupid.

[–]bolognahole 43ポイント44ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think your in the wrong sub, friend. The stories shared here are $110% real.

[–]boot20 13ポイント14ポイント  (1子コメント)

This is %100$ mod approved and real. Would people go on the interwebs and LIE!!!?? I think not.

[–]maxximillian 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Since when is thanksgiving a day of confession?

[–]Gorkymalorki 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Reminds me of the Gay Dad from the Kids in the Hall Movie

[–]Jlt9801 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

"Cool."

[–]DJMattB241 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Mike Phirman's song seems appropriate here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=00XJuVvM2dw

[–]say_cumquat_again 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Can someone explain why this is so unplausable

[–]Zinski 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

This just reminded me how much I hate thanks giving diner. 10 hours of preparations for distant cousins to pretend we care about echother. and there is always that one who has to make a big deal of something... gah.

[–]Awkwardcriminal 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

And the dad's name was.. Albert Einstein.

Really makes you think.

[–]LsDmT 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Honestly, why do people do this?

[–]jb4427 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

David Bowie is dead so he can't date David Bowie and even if he wanted to he's cremated

[–]SancZero 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Everyone come clean with your sexual preferences and thoughts, as is Thanksgiving tradition.

[–]andhowsherbush 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Wanting to marry David bowie doesn't make you bisexual. I'm straight and if David bowie wanted to fuck me I would do it

[–]vickie_la_mechante 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

What is the big deal with bisexuality in the USA ? Seriously, I just don't understand . It as been around for so long, just like homosexuality and heterosexuality. It's a packaged deal, even animals who, we all know, don't live with our social stigma of sexual orientation, have the same tendency to be heterosexual,bisexual and homosexual.

[–]cnaiurbreaksppl 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not only were they at Thanksgiving, but they were also at everything.

[–]willmaster123 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

tbh tho im straight and i would marry david bowie at his prime

[–]fiendzone 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I was skeptical of the veracity of this story, but the pic of Bowie in the background ended up clinching it for me.

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[–]ParmesanHomeboy 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

https://www.reddit.com/r/thatHappened/comments/4105t6/david_bowie/

:(

[–]MyTeamSUPREME 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

An overreaction and lack of reaction are both things you do not want to display when somebody comes out to you.

[–]alexxerth 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Wanting to marry David Bowie isn't proof of being bisexual, everybody wants to marry David Bowie.

[–]ihateradiohead 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

"I'm just going to come out and say it: I've always wanted to be with a black man"

"Fuck me!"

"That's what I've been wanting to do this whole marriage"

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