offmychest, blackladies, skincareaddiction, okcupid, twoxchromosomes, etc.

Damn, I thought they only banned if you posted in "offensive" subs aka KotakuInAction, TumblrInAction or ImGoingToHellForthis or something else don't like. I know me_irl does it too. I don't get the part at all - I'm a frequent user in a lot of "offensive" subs, especially KiA because I want free speech to be a thing and that people shouldn't be shamed shamed over being games - I'm a woman, I like playing games and I love having characters that seem to be a "sexy" version of me but as soon as I even post a pic of my stuff online I get horribly harassed because I'm "shaming women" and "enabling rape culture" etc. when all I did was post a character I love to play with.

But the point I'm trying to say, I don't get the point in banning based on someones history. I think it's just plain mod abuse. "I don't like you, you can get banned" it doesn't work that way IRL either and the fact that one can't say ones opinion nor even have the chance to tell their own story because they are banned before they can even say a word is just plain stupid. I post in childfree because I like the humor, I post in subreddit OffensiveX to say it isn't cringe, I post in subreddit OffensiveY correcting someone with facts. That doesn't mean I support that subreddit, it just means I found it through my bookmarks or /r/all and I started reading the comments. Just because I've made one post correcting someone in, let's say a very-borderline-shady-subreddit it doesn't mean I support what they are doing, even if the post was just "I don't support that" it still makes no sense. You can't judge a book by it's covers and definitely not a user by it's subreddits it has posted in.

It seems to be a trend to bash people who are childfree though, like they are the plague. Every time I browse no matter what subreddit and childfree is mentioned people just shit over it. "Oh i'm going to have kids just to spite them" or "they are insane people they should seek help" or "wow grow up you childhaters". uhh... Imagine being sensitive to bananas but daily exposed to them, day and night from every corner and place. By the end, you need some place to vent in. And if you mention it anywhere else they will bash your idea with "But you are X" or something else that makes you doubt yourself - I think childfree has been one of the best communities to support the decisions of other people and help them feel that their opinions matter. I don't see people logging on to parenting to post "but you should get an abortion" but I see people posting "I hope you get pregnant" here, so I just don't get what the point is. Why does people get so angry when someone else disagrees? I think like 90% of the violence would be solved that way, I respect the opinion of other people but I also keep my own grounds and unfortunately if someone gets mad at me for having a different opinion I have no idea what to say.