I've been married and miserable for the last 10 years. Have two kids, so no way I am walking out of this crap-trap at least for another 10 years.

In the beginning things were great. She worked, cooked, cleaned, actively sought out to do things with me. It seemed like we were barely scratching by financially, but we were happier. Things started to slowly deteriorate after we had kids. The wife decided to stay home after our first baby, which meant I had to work a lot harder. In the last 10 years I've consistently worked two jobs and built my own business. I've done well enough financially to buy a decent house, send kids to private schools, go on annual vacations to expensive but crappy tourist traps, and have enough saved up that we don't have to worry about bills.

In the meanwhile my wife has gotten fat, entitled and resentful. She "chauffeurs" the kids back and forth from school, but is otherwise checked-out from the marriage. Cleaning the house with two kids was "too much" so we have a maid service. She is too tired by the time I return from my 10- to 12-hours of work, so I'm a misogynist for expecting to have dinner ready. On weekends, she doesn't get out of bed until noon and then is too tired for anything.

But somehow all of this was my fault. Our relationship was going downhill because I was a "workaholic" or "controlling" (when I suggested she get a part-time job when both kids were in school so I could ease up on my schedule) or "verbally abusive" (when I pointed out that she was watching 5 to 6 hours of TV per day). When arguments got bad, I was accused of "domestic violence." This was all BS. I told her she needs to call the cops if she thought so, but of course she didn't. Each time she threw out the accusation of domestic violence, it was she who was the worst culprit. She broke our TV or stomped on my cell phone or threw out the china. My crime - my "domestic abuse" - was that I attempted to stop her from breaking my things.

Worst, she has created a toxic family/social environment around me. She has told all her friends, and both our families that I was abusive. In the beginning I just ignored these because I thought nobody who knew me would believe her. I still think neither of our families believes her. At first my parents were upset, but now they see thru her BS. Her own father has told me he is sorry for how she has turned out. But it still is demoralizing to have that kind of rumor floating around about you.

She has also attempted to "separate" in terms favorable to her. Saying I should just get an apartment close-by so I could "see the kids." I think she meant, i should move out and still pay for everything. I refuse to leave my kids, my house and my hard-earned possessions. She of course has no interest in every getting back into the job market. She works 10 hours a week at a grocery store that barely pays her gas money, but she says she only does this to "comply" with my wishes (her words).

For a long time, I was guilt-ridden as i thought this was all only happening to me and somehow I had bought it on myself. Having recently found MGTOW and read other accounts on this sub-reddit I am strangely relieved.
1) I am happy to see I am not alone 2) I am glad to have an outlet where I feel understood. The mainstream social narrative always assumes the woman is the victim. Now some women might be in abusive relationships - and I empathize with them - but it is more and more clear that men suffer just as much. But often lack the support structure or sometimes even the language to speak about our issues.

As for me, I've been in the blue-pill world for far too long to make a clean break of it. I've been saving money, engaging in hobbies and intellectual pursuits that keep me happy. The nagging, gas-lighting, guilt-tripping don't work on me anymore. So in a way, I am already free. I love my kids and will do whatever I can to provide for them until they are adults. Then, I am truly free.