I'm sure there are some location differences. But I always have to wonder what these young ladies are offering that their older colleagues are not?? I have a good friend who I'd classify as successful, smart, beautiful, funny, and fit at 37 years old...she can't keep a man to save her life. I love her to pieces but she's fucking psycho when it comes to men.

I also stand by the fact you don't want to mingle with men who prefer ladies their kids age or younger...screams red flags to me.

Well, it's a numbers game after all, and you're posting that you are having trouble. Supply and Demand. I find it very hard to believe that the few fit/non-obese men in your age range only want to date younger. Maybe this is all you're seeing because you are attracted to a superficial type of man. That's what it sounds like to me. Or maybe you have an unhealthy viewpoint of what men are like, and just are making assumptions. Why not consider dating someone who's slightly shorter (5'10"-5'11")? Or younger? Or a really fit guy who's slightly older (50-60)? You may feel that as a tall fit attractive person in your 40's that you deserve to be with a tall fit attractive man in his 40's, and accept nothing less. There's nothing wrong with that, but going back to the supply and demand thing, you may never find what you are looking for and end up alone. Or you may find what you are looking for but it takes time and patience. Have you considered expanding your geographical range? If you are single, in your 40's, tall, fit and attractive, I really don't think you should have any trouble at all. There are short obese women in the same age range that can get a date! Try the free weight section of a local larger gym. Go early in the morning, or right after work (5:30-6 pm). Most men in your desired age range, that are employed, have to work out early in the morning or right after work. The fit ones will be there regularly, so you can get to know them without "dating" them at first. The worst place to meet men is at a bar. Who goes to bars regularly? Alcoholics and men who like to pick up younger women.

I definitely see more men than women. I think women get overloaded with guys writing them sorts hard to keep up

Man, this is hilarious.

I'm 6'3. I don't really like the bar scene but I do go sometimes. I have a pick-up artist friend and we've agreed to wingman for each other. My friend is considerably shorter than me, but admittedly more attractive and usually better dressed. To date he has always picked up a woman when we went out (sometimes two!), and my score as it were is still zero. One of the last times we went out he said he didn't particularly want to pick up, just hang out. He wasn't impressed with the women there, and picked out one out of the crowd as the only one he'd want to talk to. Wouldn't you know it, 20 minutes later she came up to him! And they had sex the following week. Me? I played wingman...for her male buddy.

So I have Tinder. I kind of hate Tinder, but I'll go through the motions anyway. I default to right-swiping. I have to see something really off-putting to left-swipe. I went for weeks/months at a time without ever getting a match. I recently just improved my profile thanks to suggestions from my pick-up artist friend, and got a handful of matches, but it's still swiping to the max number allowed twice a day and rarely ever getting a hit.

I got myself a new AP two weeks ago! It was relatively easy, and one of the easiest pickups I've had in awhile. She's only the third new AP I've gotten this year. Of those three, one ended up being a one and out, despite her claiming that the sex was amazing. The other one is one I kind of want to end things with. I've struck out 4 times since the beginning of the year, but I'm only counting situations where we met in person. If I were to factor in women I traded emails with but it fizzled out before we ever got to meeting...at least 10 if not more. Keep in mind getting those 10 to email me involved wading through 100 women who never replied.

Not trying to make this a pissing contest, but you think it's easy to be a tall man? Ha! Conversely, I'd love to live where you do, where apparently women regularly approach men. Where is this valhalla?

I agree with the other poster that it seems like you have a confidence issue. Work on being happy in your life without a man, and men will find you attractive. I am not quite 40 yet (late 30s), but I have no problem meeting men. I am a fairly confident person, so if things don't go past an initial date, I try not to get my feelings hurt. I work out regularly but do not necessarily have what society would deem a "perfect" body. I am not tall and thin, yet I still have no trouble attracting tall fit men, among others who I find attractive for other qualities beyond superficial looks. My range typically spans from early to mid 30s to 50 as a cut off. Perhaps it is because I'm in a different part of the country. But I do think you can find "good" people, male or female regardless of where you live. Be patient, re-evaluate why you find men who desire much younger women attractive in the first place. If I see a man going after a younger women, it's an immediate turn-off. I know what I was like as a 20-year-old: young, dumb, superficial, insecure, and terrible in the sack...I may have been considered good looking. I prefer me better now, and it seems like the men I date now are more appreciative of who I am and what I can provide. I wish you the best of luck in your pursuits, and hope you find someone who makes you happy.

I'm not even 5'2" so most tall men usually trip over me before they recognize me :D

"For a tall man, over 6' 2", I believe he has NOTHING but women chasing him. I see it all the time, the very few tall men at any bar, dance club, etc., have the choice of women. Oh, and conversely, if you are a 5'2" woman, you have the choice of men."

Funny! Even though I'm not young, also I'm at east coast, I'm 5'2". Just as you said, I have the choice of men. SO is 6'4", I don't think there are a lot of quality women chase him...Bottom line, your theory is so not true!

Wtf? Come over here!

You do realise only 14.5% of US men are 6' and taller? Are you in the top 14% of women?

Maybe I'm in the minority of women...but I want a genuine response which takes longer than a second to look, assess, pick jaw off floor, maybe fap, and then write back which assumes he had nothing else on his plate but to take a looksie at my picture.

I've said it before, self confidence is sexy. Men don't want to deal with buckets of insecurities. Believe in yourself and the qualities you possess. You don't have to be perfect but believe in what you've got. :)

Uh, you understand that not a lot of us guys enjoy Chippendales events, right?

See, now I'm curious.

Why are you allowed to have a height preference (requirement by your verbiage), but men aren't allowed to have an age preference?

I'm a woman, younger, with an older AP. So this entire thread makes me twitch. But THAT sentiment was a bit much for me to ignore, and now I'm genuinely curious 😛

Lol. Glad it didn't keep you from your gym full of women! 😉

I am 6'5...tall women are hot.

In every joke there is a hint of the truth.. ;)

He's nice, but as expected, he doesn't live in this open-aired prison/circus I do. I am meeting him tonight, and he will be in town until the end of the month, so maybe that will help me to get over that other stupid guy.

I am avoiding thinking about the syndrome you mentioned, cause when you do meet someone you really click with, you won't let that person go. That's how I operate, but you know it's irrational for folks to follow the "bigger, better", shiny object syndrome. It's like chasing a rainbow and the minute you get there, the treasure is gone.

Oh wifeswap, I read that book last year! I love Aziz Ansari. Have you watched the series? He's so funny. Thank God for humour, cause this whole dating and adultery can make us go so low. I don't expect fireworks. I met that married idiot and was expecting NOTHING, no fireworks, but I was expecting that the dude would not be married. What are your expectation these days? Mine are just that the guy has character and is not married :) oh, and that he likes to work like me.