The whole idea of there being "the one" or a "solmate" for everyone is total bullshit and just another example of how spoiled rotten both men and women have become. "Her nipples aren't the right shape" or "he doesn't talk enough at breakfast" have actually become valid reasons for rejecting a mate. It's alalagous to eating 1/3 of the food you order at a restaurant and leaving the broccoli because "I don't like the texture of this particular overcooked broccoli." Spoiled brats of the modern era. In 99% of history you licked your plate clean and got down on your knees in thanks that you had anything to eat at all. And in the same way with fucking and forming a family, if your parents didn't pick for you, you considered it a luxury if you had two or three choices at all.