It feels like far too many men hold the mentality that they have to get laid, otherwise their lives are meaningless. They will do whatever it takes with the ultimate goal in mind that in the end they will get laid. "I will go lift in the gym for the next six months so I can score", "I will do nofap so I become more attractive to women", and "I will start approaching women non-stop, till I am able to seduce them back to my place." They do activities, they might not even enjoy or care for with the ultimate goal in mind that once this is done they will get laid or get a girlfriend and then they will mean something. I hate this mentality, it leads to nothing, but frustration and unhappiness. Yes you might start getting laid, and you might get a girlfriend, but who gives a shit if you don't enjoy the activity you are currently doing. Your self worth relies on external validation from the most emotionally fickle human beings, women.

What you should be doing, is judging your self worth based on your internal judgement. You should aim to find an activity or activities that you truly give a shit about and pursue them. Something that ignites your masculine fire that requires hard work, dedication, and passion. Playing music, coding, juggling, running, swimming, solving rubix cubes, playing chess, drawing, etc.. whatever, I don't care as long as you care about it. The process of slowly getting better at an activity you find meaningful, is far more rewarding than getting laid. Set yourself goals that are achievable, but that challenge you within reason. Spend whatever amount of time you need to inorder to reach this goal and enjoy the experience. Goals can be stuff like: program tic-tac-toe in java, learn how to play your favourite song on guitar, be able to juggle a 5-ball-cascade with hundred catches, finish a 400 meter race under 65 seconds, etc... Once you achieve the goal you set, set an even harder goal and repeat the process. Achieving these goals isn't actually the goal, it is the experience of pursuing these goals and doing whatever it takes to reach them that is truly enjoyable. I am currently playing guitar and coding. I enjoy life, because I get to experience making progress on activities that I find so much meaning in, everyday. I have achieved goals such as releasing a couple of my Apps on the App Store and Play Store. Also being able to play some of my favourite songs at full tempo on Guitar. Will I make it big or get laid by doing these activities maybe, maybe not, but who cares.