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I feel depressed about The Wall (self.TheBluePill)

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Despite knowing that The Red Pill is a misogynist philosophy, I can't help but think they are at least correct about The Wall. I don't look forward to getting older, especially as a woman. At least when men get older they get taken more seriously and can look distinguished. I heard that age discrimination hits women harder and they society sees them as invisible. Can someone prove me wrong? I don't want to wallow in depression due to something that's not even true.

I wish I could turn back time. I wish I could go back 10 years and do whatever I can not to be a 27-year-old virgin with no career, no friends, and very little to look forward to.

I am emotionally stunted at 18 years old. While most teenagers were hooking up and going to house parties, I spent my formative years alone in my room, spending all my free time on the internet. Sometimes I have fantasies about having sex in a dorm room or doing PDA in front of school lockers because I never had that opportunity. I know I sound creepy. I'm not proud of these dirty thoughts. Social anxiety has ruined my life. I shouldn't blame social anxiety for everything, but it's part of the reason why I fucked up in life.

I'm not even sure if I like men enough to actually want to marry one. I have never bonded with a guy close enough to want a relationship with him. Whenever I kissed a guy, I became less interested in him. I've kissed eight guys so far and felt nothing for them. Does this mean I'm a lesbian? I feel like I'm too old to question my sexuality. I feel that my chance to experiment ended when I graduated from college.

Even though I'm almost 30, I get treated condescendingly. People often assume I'm younger than I really am and see me as naive. I can't relate to people my own age because I'm years behind them emotionally. I feel that I'm stuck in limbo. I'm emotionally stunted compared to people my age, yet if I try to befriend or date younger people, it will be creepy.

I see the lives of older people like my parents and co-workers, and their lives are bland at best. I'm not looking forward to living the next few decades.

How do I move on? How do I come to terms with growing up?

TL;DR - I'm nearly 30 and still unsure about what I want and would like in a relationship. I feel like I'm running out of time to get my life together. Feels regret over not having many of the same experiences growing up as women my age.

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[–]TheEgregore 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

The wall is bullshit as well.

Im in my 20's and I used to have casual sexual encounters with a woman in her early 50's. It was the hottest sex ever.

In regards to your social life, try joining a club that shares your same interests. Once you make one friend it leads to another and then another and soon relationships follow.

[–]IAmaMateriaGirlUnfuckable Feminazi Whale 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

For starters, the RPs are stupid. Look at all the dumb shit that they say about women being children, women being dogs, women being like toasters. Look at the stupid shit they tell each other. Now, do you really think that these dumbasses have the best ideas about what it really means to age as a woman? These dudes are teenagers and college kids that cannot get female attention. They clearly know nothing about women.

Being fuckable does not define you as a woman. Also, the "Wall"? Yeah, men hit it, too. Look out in real life, NOT Hollywood and the media. How many 40+ men do you see with women 15-20 years younger than they are?

All of that said, with anxiety, the brain will latch on to these sorts of things as another thing to fret over. If you can, looking into therapy to help with social anxiety would likely be a good idea. Especially if it is impeding you in development of relationships.

[–]paracog[🍰] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm a old guy, with a lifetime of observing women and how they fare in the world. If a woman is limited in her power in the world to just being fuckable/fertile, then the wall is real. My mother, a fashion model, hit it, and retreated from the world. On the other hand, older women are--and always have been--more powerful as they age, if they are not focussed on their most basic biological usefulness. The very reason beauty is treasured in women is because it's fleeting. Let's look at British actresses vs American actresses. There is a huge amount of moaning about women aging out of the business in Hollywood, but in England, where actors learn the trade much more thoroughly, you see women with no break in their careers. Please do not take on this projection that you are only as valuable as your fuckable image or as a fetal portkey. Find what you are passionate about and find out the sorts of people you like to be around.

[–]rileycakes5invested in a curling iron 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

How do I come to terms with growing up?

I think there is a lot more going on here than you being afraid of the alleged shelf life you have.

Feels regret over not having many of the same experiences growing up as women my age.

This sounds like something from TRP would say. This is what fuels their magical revenge fanatasies - you know, the one where they turn into George Clooney on their 30th birthday and every woman who ever had the audacity to reject them becomes a weathered shrew that should be locked in a closet.

These fucks have spent years feeling like they've been the victim of evil feeemales. Terpers will only feel powerful if they are actively trying to undermine women in their lives. That's it.

I'm emotionally stunted

You bring this up a few times. What is this about?

[–]thepanichand 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Don't let the erectile-dysfunction-with-personality-disorders subs of terrified little man children influence your quality of life with their collective brain poison. Life and relationships are 99% not what they claim they are. They're like Lord of the Flies in their black and white distortions, and they feed off each other's exaggerated commentary, trying to justify their personal misery. It's not about women or men, it's not about gender or relationships, it's not about sex, really. It's a group of dudes who don't know how to be vulnerable and open and honest in a relationship, and construct a batch of lies to themselves and others to justify their failure at being something more, doing the really hard emotional work of relationships. Anger and reactionary behaviour is so much easier than peeling back your personal layers. They're just guys who have failed as human beings and use reactionary and manipulative tactics to conceal their inner terror.

Don't let them define your quality of life for you. Anxiety is hard, but setting limitations about what works for you and doesn't is far more important than trying to live up to some absurd standards some really intellectually stunted dudes banded together on the internet to bask in their poor coping mechanisms together.

And as someone beyond the 'wall', I will pass on a piece of advice a therapist once gave me years ago; that when you get into your forties you stop caring what people think about you. It's entirely true. You can't change it or turn back time, so the best thing you can do is deal with your own carnage and live well.

[–]no-cars-go 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

TRP is a steaming heap of poop that a bunch of internet man-babies who have no idea what it's like to be an actual man regurgitate so they can feel like superior beings to make up for whatever feelings of impotent failure and insecurity they feel in their real lives. It's sad.

The wall is no more real for a 30 year old woman than it is for a 35 year old man. Life has stages, but not a wall where things just stop and you're done. I'm 30 and in a relationship and honestly am approached by men who are way more attractive now for dates than when I was in my TRP "prime" years of 16-20 where it was pretty slim pickings and I was still an awkward teenager. Maybe I should write some field reports...

It sounds like you're unhappy with the way things were in the past and that's why you have fears of the future. I think that's perfectly normal to experience those doubts about what the future has in store but it does sound like it's causing you a lot of feelings of anxiety and that you need to speak about this life transition with someone.