The above passage in this article spoke to me on a very deep, personal level.
I (f) am legally married to a man and we were mono for about 5 years. Since opening up 6 months ago, we stopped using the terms husband/wife (instead, we are 'partners') and I stopped wearing my ring. We are more committed than ever, but these symbols of traditional marriage no longer felt right for us. I know that 'rejecting traditional marriage' is not a requirement to be feminist and many feminists wear rings and use the terms husband/wife, but for me, practicing polyamory has allowed me to become more self-actualized, more 'myself.' I feel more free to define my own relationships and be my true self. For us, this means that we don't wear rings and we refer to each other as 'my partner.' For others, it could mean that they do exactly those things, and what is right for me/us isn't necessarily right for them. We can each do our own thing and not blame or shame the other.
To me, this is the core of feminism -- that we should all be able to express our unique selves freely without the pressures, violence or prejudices of patriarchy (this goes for all genders, btw). It also hearkens to what I see as the core of poly -- the passage in The Ethical Slut where the authors explain that, instead of people trying to fit themselves in a pre-conceived standard relationship model, poly is about creating relationships to fit the people who are in them.
Whether or not you are hetero, do you feel that practicing or living poly is inherently a feminist act?
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