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Am I doing the right thing? (self.MGTOW)

pooshhMao が 投稿

Hi,

I suppose I'm preaching to the choir here, but I would like some objective opinions regardless.

I'm an adult male. I have been diagnosed with both ADHD and Asperger's syndrome, for which I take medication. As you might have guessed, women hate me, and I hate women.

When I was 5, my parents divorced, and I went to live with my mom and older brother. Ever since, they have made me endure an awful lot of both mental and physical abuse, for which I'm under psychiatric observation now.

You wouldn't believe some of the sick, vicious shit these people have perpetrated on me. Needless to say, this has left me with permanent trust and self confidence issues, even after therapy.

My brother's a fullblown, violent sociopath. He regularly beat me up and basically enjoyed making life hell for me. When I was 13, while I was reading a book, he entered my room, pinned me down on the bed, took a pair of scissors, and started cutting large chunks of hair from my head, laughing like a cartoon villain, foaming at the mouth. My mother then punched me in the face afterwards once she saw what happened, but didn't even consider disciplining my brother. Did I mention this was the last day of the summer vacation, right before I went to a new school?

She also dated violent psychopaths that made life HELL for me.

Anyway. I have tried to 'forget' about it, as society expects from a man. But I can't. I want to settle the issue by receiving acknowledgement that what she did was outright abuse, but she refuses to give me acknowledgement. She uneasily attempts to downplay it as 'unimportant'.

I do not accept this anymore. I simply want this woman to admit, nothing more.

She is completely, totally, utterly unable to do this. The situation has been escalating dramatically, and I'm prepared to escalate it further until she admits that she was abusive.

Of course, being a woman, there's no way to have a rational, calm, mature discussion. As soon as I verbally corner her, she starts coming up with the most fucked up arguments I've ever heard anywhere ever. She simply doesn't know how to face responsibility, and even when I catch her lying red-handedly, she'll attempt to redefine the meaning of 'lying'. She'll do absolutely anything - and I do mean ANYTHING - to avoid owning up.

So, what is your view on this? Am I right in rocking the boat? Should I just 'let things be' and pretend nothing happened?

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[–]Eyes_Of_The_Dragon 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

You will never get her to acknowledge it. I have known some women who did similar things to their kids, and it wasn't until on her deathbed that she even broached the subject if at all.

Her ego insists that she has never done anything wrong, and somehow it is your fault or society's fault. If she is religious, she probably won't admit any wrongdoing until she's afraid of going to Hell.

In my opinion, your only option is to cut off contact with the family and never look back. It may get you what you're looking for, but I'd also stop expecting it. She'll probably just tell everyone you're an ungrateful child and she doesn't understand why you turned out that way since she was a poor hardworking mom that always did nice things for you.

[–]realpra 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

(Disclaimer: I am a stranger and not you)

Forget she even exists or pretend she died. Reconnect with your father AND your brother. You have to remember that your brother has been warped by her too.

Your father was most likely the good guy, but got divorce raped and lost custody.

Most importantly stop all your meds, none I have heard of are proven and the side effects range from:

10% reduction in brain matter (ADHD meds)

Cancer (Ritalin)

Suicidal behaviour (Anti-depressants)

A lot of those meds were even developed for something else and then once patented (but proven worthless) "re-cast" as psych. meds (because that is harder to definitively test).

[–]aanarchist 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

just hold your frame dude. my mother will never truly break down and give me the apology i deserve for choosing a fucking degenerate for a father for me, and for her own share of abuse and neglect towards me. what she can understand is that there's no fooling you. i don't seek her validation or her acknowledgement, i simply speak truths to her with an iron clad frame, and she has no choice but to admit her part in it.