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TarStill in the abyss (self.MGTOW)

awesomelittlebuddy が 投稿

This post might not be so MGTOW, but I just don't know who to talk to. TRP will just say lift and keep self improving, the blue pill world will just tell me what I want to hear. I tried talking to a couple therapists but it seems like they just use pre meditated responses plagiarized from college psychology textbooks.

Basically i'm dealing with lots of self loathing. Raised to believe i'll never be good enough, and that I need to keep doing better in school to go to a good college to get a good job and be a 27 year old virgin to get an arranged marriage and pop out two kids and be a servant my whole life for their well being (i'm sure some of you can relate to this in some way). However, I broke out of that mold but am still angry and sad more than i'm happy. I think this is because there are so many things about myself i'm not happy with that are impossible to change eg; skin color, height, dick size. Since i was taught I must always be better, but can't change these things, I feel basically fucked.

For 14 (half my life) years i've been dealing with this deprecating self loathing and now its really taking a toll, and i think life is not really worth living. I have some savings saved up, and want to enjoy the next few years and then leave this world on my own.

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[–]Iappreci8thegr8r8m8 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

I think it's difficult to not feel empty.

The weight of expectation from family, friends, and ultimately society to fit that mold of the nuclear family--"the perfect life". How can one not feel like a failure for failing to fit that mold?

The thing about going your own way is in large part, forgiving yourself. You have to stop imagining yourself as a person missing one of the cornerstones of a typical life and re-imagine a you that is complete WITHOUT it. You need to accept that the life you are living is simply DIFFERENT not LESS.

FORGIVE yourself for not fitting the obscene mold of expectations women have for you to be good enough. Forgive yourself for not being the "family man" your parents wanted, you are still a blessing to them and you can do so much more to exceed their hopes for you than just marry and squirt out a couple kids. Forgive yourself for not experiencing something that others have. Focus on creating experiences for yourself that THEY will never experience. Craft an enviable life with yourself at the center and love yourself for what you have rather than what you lack.

I haven't yet either.

[–]awesomelittlebuddy[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'll try to forgive myself and think about what i am grateful for. Thanks

[–]Agamand 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You have a LOT. You're jung, you're healthy, you're a man!

[–]realpra 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

...want to enjoy the next few years and then leave this world on my own

Ok, don't kill yourself. Why? Because death is eternal and compared to that trying some few more years to find any kind of meaning or happiness is not so bad. No need to rush death.

Everyone believes they are not good enough - and hey probably no one is!

You need to find out what YOU care about and what YOU want to be good at and then do it for YOU.

I may have lost hope in finding love, but there are still many things I believe in and care about so I will just try to do more of that and just use women for sex - without too much effort put into it.

Are you on any psych. medication? A lot of that stuff not only doesn't help and isn't proven, but will also give you severe side effects and suicidal thoughts.

[–]awesomelittlebuddy[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Nah never took meds.

[–]realpra 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Ok good.

The most important think is to flat out reject all female and societal expectations. These people will say anything to suck you dry or shame you for not having value to suck dry in the first place.

Even other men will call you a "bitch" or "whiny".

"Be a man and pay up/go die in a war/work even harder" - recognize it and dismiss it.

The red pill advice for working out is good, but don't do it for women who will never have enough - do it for the energy and health benefits to the extent it feels good to do it.

There are bad people and good people in this world. Going your own way you may have realized most are bad - but it can't be everyone or I would not be responding to you instead of doing anything else.

Many people in the world search for purpose, try to help others and spread knowledge to no benefit of their own.

I also recommend the youtube videos by Turd Flinging Monkey. He has a lot on men being shamed and male disposability. He is again another individual who does not benefit from educating others, but who still does it.

[–]Eyes_Of_The_Dragon 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You are looking for validation in these misandric ideas. The only validation you need is your own. Do you want to be single with a fat bank account? Do it. You don't need anyone's approval for that.

Do you want kids? Then find a way to have kids.

Do you not want kids? Great choice. It's yours alone.

Do you want to be married? Bad idea, but it's your life.

Are you a virgin? Do you hate being a virgin? Then go get laid. Pay someone if you want.

You have to understand why you're angry. You were lied to. Accept it and either play the game, or opt out.