There is a reason that gay men are looked down upon. As the manosphere noticed, women have an incredibly valuable sexuality because they are the limiting factor in reproduction because a man can shoot out thousands of babies in his lifetime where as women can only have a few. Because of that, societies value women basically just for showing up and being able to produce the next generation, whereas men are expected to provide some value to society beyond reproduction in order to compensate.

Most straight men realize they need to impress women and so they work incredibly hard, get the best jobs they can, and build societies. They get a wife, keep her safe, impregnate her, and lead the household. That compensates for their lack of reproductive value and helps society. Gay men don't do this. They realize that they can't have kids and that they'll get laid no matter what, so most of them don't try to do shit and they just wander around like poz'd degenerates. They don't do the things a straight man does to impress a woman and they don't do the reproduction that a straight woman does for society.

Some gay men are better than that and so they're more accepted. Milo might be a degenerate, but he's actively fighting for the white race and so most of the alt right (especially the more moderate parts) like him pretty well. Oscar Wilde might have been hanged, but his work was also loved and accepted long before gays were generally accepted. If you're gay and want to be a white nationalist, then you need to be one of the good ones. You don't need to be Milo or Wilde, but you need to produce as if you were trying to impress women and you can't just be a poz'd out nightmare. Leave us better than you found us and you'll be accepted, just like everyone else. There'll realistically still be stigma, but we'll be nicer to you than the muslims.