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No expectations not lowered expectations (self.MGTOW)

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As I sit here at home after a weird day at work on my 52nd birthday, and a few people telling me they would get a hold of me earlier in the day to see about getting a drink or two, I've come to a place in my life where I have figured out expectations.

First off, never lower your expectations. That only sets you up for disappointment and puts you in a position to be used. Instead, expect nothing and be ready to just do for yourself. Then the only person who can disappoint you is you.

Don't be passive aggressive about the failed plans that others tried and failed to set up for you. Just let it go and be ready with your own plans.

If you allow others to make you feel disappointed with their actions, then you have given them the opportunity to do it again. Just move on and continue with your path.

Any viewpoints on this would be appreciated. I'm in my own little "happy birthday, I made it another year" evening of relaxation and some good Irish whiskey and would be open to hear others thoughts on expectations.

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[–]arcesious 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Seems like a very grounded way to live. Good for you, I hope you've had a pleasant birthday.

Funny thing about plans, in the distant past when they didn't work out I used to get rather upset about it, but now after discovering Mgtow ideas, it's not so much anymore unless if it was something quite important. Someone cancels on something? Great, guess I get to spend the day doing as I please. Loneliness just isn't a concern anymore, which is rather liberating.

As far as disappointment goes, I've never really been one to be disappointed in people per say. I've always seen actions and results rather mechanically, like 'this was the inevitable result of such and such factors, being disappointed in it would be like being disappointed that simple kinetic physics continued to be predictable'.

Life's really only disappointing if you can't see most of the forces in motion within it and something hits you out of nowhere in a way you didn't expect. Even then, the 'no expectations' mentality could probably help with that too.

When something goes wrong for me nowadays, reaction to such tends to go in a 'oh well, it happened, time to figure out what best to do next' line of thinking.