How Can I Convince My 3-Year-Old They’re Transgender? – Go Ask Jane

Dear Jane,

I’ve been in such a state of perpetual turmoil ever since giving birth. My child, pronoun “they”, is now 3-years-old. I have been mired in a heinous state of chronic depression because “they” do not want to play with girl’s toys. It destroys me that “they” might be another white CIS male, and another future agent of the patriarchy. That’s just not the type of lifestyle I can support or agree with. “Their” father has also been deeply despondent over our child’s reluctance to conform to our stance and ideals on gender. My husband identifies as gender neutral, and whenever “Xe” (my husbands current pronoun) witnesses our child playing with toy trucks and trains, it triggers “Xer” so hard that “Xe” crumbles into a quivering pile of inconsolable PTSD jitters.

My question is, how can I persuade my child to blossom into the fabulous transgender individual that I know in my heart “they” truly are? All I’ve ever wanted was a trans child, and the fact that “they” seem so drawn to boys toys and refuse to don the lovely dresses I so painstakingly choose for “them” just crushes my soul. What can I do to make “them” understand the harm that they inflict on our family through their identity as a CIS-gendered white male? Please Jane, help us, it’s tearing our family apart.

Sincerely, Ariana

Ariana, thank you for your touching letter. Truly the phrase, “a mother knows best”, has never been more appropriate than here. No one wants a white, CIS male child, and the people who pretend they do are merely deluding themselves.

But do no fret. There is still time for your child to see the light of femininity. One of the best ways to do this is to deprive them of male clothing, toys, TV programming, ect. If they never know toxic masculinity exist then it cannot tempt and/or hurt them.

I realize it can be difficult to completely block out offending influences, but that’s when you need to sit your child down and explain to them all of the ills in the world perpetuated by men. Explain why they don’t want to identify in such a way, and it’s also important for the child’s father to reinforce these ideas. It is up to “Xer” to demonstrate that femininity is the way to go, and will be the only acceptable route for them to identify as under your roof. When you interact with the child’s father, always be the dominant force, and allow your child to witness that. Even if “Xer” does not identify as a male, it’s important for your child to see that even the micro-displays of masculinity should be snuffed out at the root before they spread like the cancer that they are.

Let me just congratulate you on taking a proactive and progressive stance in your parenting. It is mothers like you that are helping usurp the disease of masculinity and dismantle the patriarchy at it’s very core.

If you’ve got an issue and would like to ‘Go Ask Jane’, feel free to contact her via Facebook, Twitter, or email her at janemagnijournalist@gmail.com

Jane Agni

Jane Agni

Jane M. Agni is a professional journalist residing in the rain-soaked city of Portland, Oregon. She freelances for several prominent news sites such as Everywoman Weekly, Civic Tribune and United Media Publishing. She also serves as Senior Journalist for National Report, providing her unique perspective on today's events. Jane's second book, "The RFID Jounrnal", is slated to be released in time for the Holidays. Expect another round of the hard hitting investigative journalism that made Jane Agni a household name. Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, and Google Plus for daily updates on new articles and more.

314 Comments

  1. you sick crazy bitch! how DARE you tell this other monster of a woman that attacking her childs gender is the proper way to be a mother! you should be dragged through the street by your ears! you and this dumb ariana bitch!

      • Are you out of your crazy ass mind? – Both of you! Ariana – You act as if you wont take anything less than a transgender child. If you continue with this ridiculous behavior and non-acceptance, you will be burying your child in his/her teens. You both need serious help. Do the world a favor and don’t have anymore children. And it would probably be best if you put yours up for adoption so they have a real chance at life. You both need a labotomy.

      • You are the problem not him! Do you want me to get twenty other women to tell you you are fucked in the head. Easy the first 20 will all tell you. Give it up.

        • +1. These feminist/SJW wackos are all mentally ill. I think the Salem witches were just women who held these absurd beliefs. Instead of discouraging this nonsense, we spread this cancer by hiring these loons to be our liberal arts professors. The only thing they produce for society is degeneration. Japan is doing the right thing defunding state-sponsored liberal arts programs. The U.S. should do the same thing with its schools.

          Fuck this clown world.

      • How is forcing him to be transgender different than forcing him to be cis? YOU are perpetuating this “construct of society” that is gender. YOU don’t know what he will identify as. If he choses boy toys, then it’s clear what he chose, and you are opressing him through your bigoted ideology of deciding for him how he must act, think, and present to the world. Fucking shitlord.

        • Difference, you don’t have to force someone to be CIS. This article proves that point strongly. The mother wants her son to be a girl, and even against her, and her father’s wishes, he STILL wants to play with boy’s toys and do boy things. A boy wanting to do boy things, WHODATHUNKIT EH? Fuck.

        • This guy right here, absolutely correct, crushes any filthy sjw nonargument. I’m appalled, I hoped this was satire but I think she’s serious!?!?!

      • The irony is that you are bigoted AND against straight, white males. Check your privilage, shitlord.

        • No remember, according to feminists, white cis men can’t suffer. Because… idk patriarchy or some shit.

          • Don’t let them find out about or magical patriarchy powers, that prevent us from suffering.

      • Poe’s law. I suspect this whole thing is a parody of modern feminist/progressive talk, though who can really tell, considering how much of a farce it is on its own.

        • Wait, the hell? What is this comment-hosting service and why does it have my avatar from like three years ago?

          • The comment system is built into WordPress and it uses avatars from Gravatar, where your avatar is tied to your email address.
            Usually Gravatar is part of having a WordPress.com account, so you can login to Gravatar using that to change it.

      • There is no patriarchy. Your feminist movement has become a religious cult with fictitious enemies and no evidence. You are the christianity of the 21st century. You are not advocators of equality. You are man haters. You are advocators of femininity above all else. That is a superiority complex. It is not healthy. It is not appropriate.

      • Tammy, you are a fucking moron. You guys preach equality and letting children live in their true skin, but want to FORCE a CHILD to be transgender? It is fucking disgusting. Everyone should act as they feel. I’m white, I’m comfortable with my sexuality, and I don’t force others to be “straight” or “CIS” or whatever new term you tumblr folk come up with. My child will be raised to be comfortable with who they are. They will not be forced into a specific lifestyle, like this disgusting excuse of a mother is trying to do to her young son. What’s worse is this disgrace of a writer to encourage such terrible parenting.

      • I don’t think this is right either. What this woman is doing is damaging to the child and that this other woman wants her to brainwash her little boy the same way some people do to those who are trans or bi or lesbian or bi or anyone who is even a little bit different… it is monstrous. Absolutely monstrous. If you cannot accept that little boy for who HE is rather than who you want him to be then you do not love him, you love who you want him to be.

        All this is going to do is cause years of therapy, possibly suicide at some point, depression, and a lot of other issues, probably some identity issues.

        I would like to point out… the boys get the cool toys anyway most of the time. I played with dolls and I played with the boys toys and yeah, im female… but it didn’t effect my sexuality to do so and it isn’t going to effect his, just give him lots of issues that your forcing another identity other than his own on him. That is not even remotely healthy.

        Crap like this is sick, absolutely sick and to be encouraging it like that… beyond sick in of itself.

      • do i have the right to raise my child the way i wish and i think is the most proper?or i have to comply to what you say?ofc i dont mean a child abuse or violence.i would love to have an answer :)

      • you’re a weakling dependant on the patriarchy and I can only hope a war breaks out and you’re forced into the front ranks
        EQUALITY

      • And you are a intolerant idiot who should be shot. Ricardo said nothing that would constitute bigotry. Sit the hell down. There is nothing wrong with ‘cis white men.’ They are as they are made, just like black, female, gay, trans, etc people are as they’re made.

      • Tammy, you’re an absolute retard and I hope they sterilise you before you or any of your peers with the same victim complexed, borderline personality disordered, Psychologically unstable thought processes before you have a chance to spread this plague into the gene pool.

        • Not everyone with BPD is an SJW who’s out of control. I’m borderline and I’d say my views on things are quite normal. Please don’t classify me with Tammy. :-( I’m far more intelligent than that.

      • you realize the irony of you calling someone else ignorant/bigoted right? read a book bitch.

      • Why does the patriarchy need to be destroyed? This woman is a horrible parent for this. If she doesn’t like that her child is male and is preferring trucks to dolls, she needs to give that child up so HE can have can have a normal childhood.

      • He may be a little aggressive but he’s right, how dare you force your own child into being something they aren’t. You can’t force someone’s orientation upon them, that’s something they have to discover for themselves. This whole page is sickening and it gives feminism a bad seriously bad rep. I hope someone can find away to get that child into protective custody before they are subjected to anymore ignorance.

      • What, because he’s defending a three year old kid from a psycho who wants to force him to be a woman? You do realise that was one of the big plot points of Insidious 2 right? Just from that point it’s a fucked up idea.

      • Lol it bothers me that people like you exist. I mean yes the guy posting above you is crazy. But…everyone involved in this blog seems to be mentally ill. What is wrong with you people? Go see a doctor.

      • You also should consider never having children.
        You don’t screw with someone’s identity, children aren’t play dough for you to shape and mold. This is dehumanizing.

      • You’re ovaries need to be destroyed. So you stupid Fat Lesbian Feminist ass can’t reproduce

      • Ha. Wow, Tammy. Very intelligent response. I hate to say it, wait.. no I don’t. It is radical feminist like you that are the reason level-headed people cannot take the movement seriously. Comments like what you just made are a joke and will only ever be taken as a joke.

      • Jane makes me ashamed to be from Portland, Oregon, while they BOTH make me sick to my stomach. There is no such thing as all these bat-shit insane “genders”. There is male and female. There is straight and gay. If a dude gets a sex change operation, he’s now a chick, and vise versa for women. That is it, you fucking retards. I really hope her child gets taken from her. Your twisted version of feminism will get snuffed out eventually, as it should. Now, just shut the hell up and go make me a sandwich.

      • actually, the patriarchy will be destroyed. However, because you are a typically narcissistic white lunatic, you assume that the white patriarchy is the only patriarchy, when in reality, just about every other group, and even subgroups of whites have patriarchies. i.e., Russian white patriarchy is as alive and kicking as Arab patriarchy.

        So what happens after you’ve managed to destroy your patriarchy? That’s easy, the other patriarchies move in, kill or catrate all the remaining males, and then take the rest of you women as chattel.

        So at this point, in your feral hypergamous little rodent brain you are thinking “great! I get to exterminate all these inferior males, including my son, trade up for a better class of male c*** and don’t even have to feel guilty about it because I can pretend I had nothing to do with it even tho I betrayed all my men completely and utterly.”

        Not so fast deary. You see, the other patriarchal structures also have women, and those women have invested quite a bit to get their men to where they are. They will understand that their alphas want a bit of extra reward for the work, and not being insane like you, they will go along with it. However, they are going to make absolutely sure that you are at the very tippy BOTTOM of the pecking order. And they are going to remind you, and any half breed descendants forced on you by their men about that fact EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

        So enjoy!

      • Assuming you are real, you are another leftist womyn dupe who needs to be put into a cell with a gang of muslims. Then again, I can’t believe this is anything but brilliant parody! Good show Tammy!

      • hahahahahhahahahahaha so fucked tammy u cant beat the patriarchy because you live in a world built by it 😉

      • Chick those Marxist accusations are so played out that they have so meaning anymore. You losers need to grow up and realize that the only reason you get the chance to act so ignorant is because of strong men that stand on the line to protect your dumb asses.

      • Feck you. Without the so-called patriarchy, women like you would not be living the cushy, relatively work-free lives you live now, with dishwashers, microwave ovens and a whole bunch of other labour-saving appliances that made women’s lives easier, not harder.

        And trying to force a child to adopt your sick, twisted idea of what gender is should be labelled for what it is: child abuse. Let the child develop at his or her own pace, and when they are old enough, like 18 or so, let them decide for themselves whether they are heterosexual or homosexual or whatever.

        This whole business of gender paranoia that you espouse is just hatred of men attempting to masquerade as something else. Gender does not mean one is unequal because one is a man or a woman, but don’t tell the men-hating feminists that.

      • Who are you kidding. They are attacking the boys identity. What’s wrong with liking trains? Why do Xe and Xer have to attack “it.” and fail to realize that their son actually has desires of xis own.

        This is some of the worst, fascist, hysterical shit I have ever read.

        You all need to be left on your own personal island to deal with eachother. When you find out just how friggin insane all three of you are. We will all not have to worry about hearing your asinine explanations of how crazy you were. Because in your desire to silence everything masculine, you will have no way with which to survive.

        And we will all be better off.

      • Three months after you have destroyed the Patriarchy, someone out there will be hunting you for food. Think about it for a while…

    • Go murder your husband “Xe” and kill yourself immediately. Leave your son in the forest with a pack of wolves. He will have a better chance of growing into a civilized human being raised by wolves than if you two twats raise him.

    • This must be satire and if it isn’t, you, Ariana, are the most disgusting and vile piece of fucking garbage in the developed world. You can’t force a child to be transgendered and if you do, you’re an intolerant shit head. He’s a fucking boy, deal with it you cackling cunt. I hope someone has him taken away and you’re tubes are tied cause you shouldn’t be allowed to ever have children again you disgusting piece of shit

      • i seriously hope this is satire, but its so fucking hard to tell, honestly like what the fuck, its some law somewhere that if you cant tell the difference between real and satirical stories things have gone too far and everything needs to be just down

      • Seriously. These pieces of filth are having offspring in order to create some commune where everyone is as demented as they are.

        I wish these fools had the balls to give their actual names and come out to the public. Even their assumed allies would turn on this shit.

        They are the epitome of a psych ward gone mad.

    • Fuck this post, satire or not.
      I agree with Ricardo, and Tammy, you wail and wail about acceptance and that the “patriarchy” keeps oppressing you sad oxygen thiefs. Can you not see the mind blowing hypocrisy in this? We’re mean for not accepting your bullshit special snowflake standpoints, and you just go “lol oppress his masculine side he’ll turn into a woman”

      You people make me sick.

    • I’m 90% sure this is satire considering the writer of this article also writes for other satirical news sources. That and actually doing this to a child is equivalent to mental child abuse as it hinders the child’s development.

    • I hope someone calls CPS on this person. Trying to force a child to be transgender…there was an episode of Law & Order: SVU just like this. Hint: the parents didn’t get out well.

    • Obviously, this email is a goof, and this clown, having no sense of humor like all Gender Warriors, had no clue. As all you other GW’s on this site have no clue. Pwned.

    • Surely, both the initial letter and reply are examples of irony, along the lines of Jonathan Swift’s “Modest Proposal”. I cannot believe that there are any people who are really this pathetic and hateful, well, outside of ISIS anyway, and I don’t think even that are that wacked out.

    • Wait, I’m so confused. This ISN’T some sort of joke to show the hypocrisy of the LGBT? This is actually real ignorance on display for the world to see?
      … I’m so embarrassed for humanity.

    • There is no way this can be a serious letter and answer. I cannot believe anyone would possibly try to create a transgender child nor would any right thinking person endorse such a maneuver.

      • You hope it is! Yet in today’s world, deep down you know it might not be.

    • dude this is a parody they are going to milk for comments, only the truly insane think like this

    • So let me get this straight-this silly bitch and her silly bastard of a husband wants to derail their son’s straight sexuality because ‘“they” might be another white CIS male, and another future agent of the patriarchy.’? This is straight- up fundamentalist extremist garbage, but from the other side, and just as bad.

      I hope that both of these ‘parents’ are denied whatever it it that they are planning for their son , and that control of him is wrestled from their grasp. Otherwise, I see a similar suicide case to that of trans teens but-again-from the other side.

    • This is why the Mexicans will take their land back. How can these weaklings prevail? The white man is beyond contempt, and with foolish ideas like this stupid women has; we shall take back what is ours.

      The age of the White is over

    • We need to do a cull. Start with tumblr and twitter users and work our way down until we get a little more sanity in this world. Or just IQ test men and women and if they fail then they get fixed like the dogs they are.

  2. seriously, the child needs to come to terms with it and realize it themselves, first.
    The child may actually be a cisgender male, and that’s okay, too!
    Love your child for who the child is, no what you want them to be.
    LGBT people have had to pretend to be cisgender and hide their true selves from their families for so long. We shouldn’t do the same to our children who may be straight cisgender.

    • Yes, Tony, I agree. Let what’s good for one be good for all. Let the child be what and who they are. Tolerance should go both ways.

  3. WTF did I just read? I have lost I.Q here folks. This is the most unnatural and ill-fated thing I have ever read. Such ignorance. seems like Darwin was right..the heard needs thinning, and this craziness is just the answer.

  4. The father needs to grow a pair and stop this insanity of child endangerment and cruelty. Depressed and quivering pile of inconsolable PTSD jitters, you should be doing this to your son, where is your compassion and love for him, trying to make him something he is not because your want a transgender child. I hope someone rescues this child from such a destructive environment. May GOD bless and protect this boy.

  5. If we wait long enough, say one generation, they’ll see where their mistake is. That’s not parenting, that’s changing the world to fit their stinkin’ thinkin’.

  6. This person is obviously not suited to being a parent, and is actively abusing their child by forcing them to be something the child is not. You claim the “patriarchy” is so bad, but this is absolutely worse. I’m disgusted, and I feel physically ill right now.

  7. Reading this found me in absolute horror and concern for the mental health of this child. First off, the attitude of the mother is not of love and acceptance, it is love, yes, and bigotry. Let me ask this. If a child tells his or her parents that they are homosexual, and the parents reacted as Ariana has, would not the LGBT community be up in arms about letting the child be who and what he or she feels? Then maybe, just maybe Ariana should follow the same pattern in raising of her son. Since California has now said that conversion therapy is illegal, their is enough precedence in that state to apply that law to conversion therapy in the other direction. That is equality.
    If you try to force a child to be what it is not, you can have so many problems in your relationship with that child, but you will damage that child, and he will suffer the most consequences of your tampering.
    Part of the ethics of psychology is to respect the feelings and thoughts of the individual, and apparently both parents and the advise columnist are showing absolutely no respect to the boy in such a tender age. Horrible question and advice.

  8. Sounds like mom hates all men. Ended up having a son. Is projecting her hatred onto her son. Reaches out to someone else who hates men, and asks advice as to how to convince her son he is something he clearly isn’t. Gets advice that enables her man hatred and continued projection on her son.
    This is clearly child abuse and Mom is severely mentally ill. In no way is she qualified to raise anyone other than a serial killer, and this site should be reported for child cruelty.

    • My God this is a 3 year ols child why noy let him be just that 3 years old?My son went through a stage where he stole his sister’s holly hobby dolls but it didnt confuse him or turn him into a girl he was a scout played little league and foot ball.. I think because he was allowed to be a kid and do things that kids do…

  9. Wow, don’t worry I am sure you circumcising him will effect him more than enough. However as any human rights activist knows it is not your place to tell a person who kr what they are. Let the child be who they are. You are merely forcing youself on the child.

    Also seek help.

  10. This kid needs to go into his dad’s custody now before this wacked out bitch has a chance to fuck him up more.

  11. Who the hell cares , it’s a “village living ” idea that says I’ll keep you from ruining your child ,anyway,( which they stole from taking acid and living in communes (and calling it church , if the child that your responsible for on this earth is that unfortunate as to be accidentally “queered” up by some fag’olio, then TOUGH SHIT , they’reS or anyone’s that resembles IT ,isnt MY responsibility anyway nor anymore!

  12. If I was this child
    I would be pissed that I wasn’t aborted.
    And I’m still contemplating my gender. Don’t force gender onto someone because it is about COMFORT!
    NOT FORCE!
    This is communism
    Pure, tyrannical communism. How can we call this the land of the free when we are forced to be something we don’t want to be?

  13. Well, it worked as click-bait. I clicked the bait. Congratulations.

    Still looking for the “Onion” logo… where is it hiding?

  14. You sexist feminazi scum cease to amaze me. Why are you bigoted against straight white males? Racist much? AND sexist, since you all hate males for being male.

  15. What you’re implying with this article is that gender is in some way a choice or a decision made by the individual or the parent. You are detrimentally effecting trans people who actually have had to suffer in their lives to gain acceptance in the few places they are now comfortable. The only thing you’l be doing in the long run is making a very frustrated and confused young man. He’ll likely be traumatised by this and may well end up with psychotic issues due to his unhealthy relationship to women through his controlling mother. I would not be surprised if your attempt to stop him from becoming a white straight male actually push him further in that direction. Perhaps even to the point where he associates all women to you and loses all respect for them. Maybe even becoming a rapist or a murderer. It’s a very common trend that children from unstable homes become criminals and I can’t think of anything much more detrimental to a child’s mental well being than their mother forcing them to pretend they’re the wrong gender. I feel like this should be a satirical post parodying the obscene levels some people will go to to seem forward thinking. You are destroying a child’s life.

  16. Okay, I could be a troll, but that’s pointless. Let me address some issues I get rather belligerent about.

    People make a big deal about gender identity and it being the right of the individual to choose what gender to identify as. This is the correct and smart way to go about it. Everybody can choose. Why not Ariana’s kid?

    Why on earth would you want to confuse your child at this point? If they are who they are, let them be. I mean, how are the actions of Ariana any different to these religious camps which essentially tell people that being gay is wrong? “Cisgender males cause all the worlds problems” Yeah, in the same way that every American is responsible for the unrest in the middle-east and sketchy international relations with Russia. That’s a pathetic argument at best.

    If you said something along the lines of “I’d like my child to choose their own gender” then yeah, I’d get that, up to a point. However, you’re telling them that they’re a girl? Some people are Cisgender. Get over it. Try convincing someone that an apple is actually an orange. You’ll have just as much success.

    I fail to see why you’d be ashamed of your child for sticking to a gender. Jesus Christ, you’re making just as much of a deal out of it as a super conservative Catholic who’s just found out their son is actually an MtF trans. Mothers can be wrong, folks. That’s why Child Protective Services exist!

    Being a parent, you should accept them for who they are, rather than inflicting psychological harm and gender based bullying.

  17. what in the fuck is wrong with you people

    have people seriously lost their damn mind? holy crap. We need the Muslims here so this feminism bullshit can finally be stopped with a healthy dose of Halal Arab dick, it’s the only way to save us now.

  18. Ladies, both of you are friggin fruitcakes and your children deserve better than mothers that try to mentally warp them. You’re out of your tiny shiny minds.

  19. This is child abuse at best, and quite possibly child endangerment. And unless this is satire, you, Ms. Agni, are complicit. You have some explaining to do, and you will.

  20. How is this not child abuse? You are essentially oppressing your child into being something he is not to conform to your ideals on gender identity? Reminds you of something? You are sick and need a psychiatrist, not a columnist…

  21. Great read if this is satire, if this is however serious, you and your cuckold husband should strongly consider putting the child up for adoption, as their life will most likely be ruined under this cringe worthy liberal tyrannism.

    As for the professional victim pretending to be a writer or journalist, please do not project your white guilt / mental illness tier altruism onto other people

  22. Your child will learn to hate you if you continue to raise them this way. Why would you force your child to be oppressed? Why would you force your child to be subjected to transphobia, even if they did grow up to be trans? Your child is not a clone of you. Your child doesn’t hold your ideals. Do not force them to. Love them as they are.

    Even as a gay woman, I do find your misandry absolutely disgusting. That is not the right brand of feminism to be going down.

  23. This is so severely fucked on multiple levels. A, if your son want to play with toy that are designed for that designated sex, let him. B, if your son “wants” to be a boy (which it sounds like he already is) fucking let him. If my mom ever did anything like that, i’d call CPS right away. He wll know his “gender” when he is young. You never force your kids into something like that.

  24. You people are disgusting. I hope someone calls child protective services so the boy can grow up a normal kid and not be toæd a mental disability is desireable

  25. If the child, which you are referring to as a white cis male, wants to be a male who plays with boy toys, then you have nothing to change.
    The fact that you want to change the gender of the boy is what is troubeling. Perhaps even more troubling is the demented answer you received from this so-called journalist.

    “No one wants a white, CIS male child, and the people who pretend they do are merely deluding themselves.”

    What kind of a response is this?! You tell the woman to refuse her own child or brainwash it into whatever she feels “best”? If the journalist is not flat out racist, she cannot be trusted especially after calling masculinty a cancer.

    You have a boy, treat him as a boy. Or else you will suffer.

  26. I don’t think you understand what the word transgender means. It means changing your effin gender. If your boy is still strictly a boy a does not show signs that he wants ti stop bing a boy then dont fuxking force it btich.

  27. Patriarchy ?, no the truth you Women whom want to destroy others lives, we are living in an age of matriarchy and it needs to be destroyed. You are cruel and mean to this Child and you are destroying his mental health were he will never develop his own identity and suffer from confusion. Allow him to grow and decide for himself who or what he is and stop being selfish.

  28. I would like one Woman to tell me how “feminism” is superior to live and let live ?, Go on Destroy all Men, than complain about who will build your Homes or shovel you waste at the sewage plant while you all sit on your rear ends stealing money of of victims so you can live in luxury. May ISIS find you and teach you how well you have it.

  29. This seriously makes me want to fucking vomit. I’d watch both of these women lynched on the 6 o’clock news if it were legal. How can you not see how wrong this is? To try to shape ones identity in such a way is disgusting and wrong especially at such a young age. Your robbing your baby of their TRUE identity. Shane on you. Hopefully one day you see the error of your ways. May God help us all.

  30. Dear Ariana and Jane
    I have been reading your blogs and i’m simply amazed by the quality of your content. I also have been trying to cope with some of my gender qualities. You see i was born what you call a cis gender male, and as you know that comes with it’s own penis, a beard only to differentiate from the right gender and a manly voice to oppress. Not only having a problem with that, but having the proper mind set to change this and having read up on all the literature i have decided to become the first Astro Gender-Fluid Decepticon, and who doesn’t agree can gay(not to confuse with straight)-up suck my non-existent split up dick/ clit/ crotch blaster. As for your problem Ariana, i believe the proper and also humane thing to do is to just waterboard the baby with the formula of your choice (pro tip: i prefer peas making it look like the baby choked on it’s own vomit), do that for about 30 seconds until the bubbles are less frequent. I believe this is the only solution because let’s face it no baby would like to live a life where it’s own mother is trying to convince it it’s a transgender sexual platypus you PSYCHOPATH. And then kill yourself with a note attached to your back via knife making it look like your husband did it.
    Legalize gay weed, 9/11 did nothing wrong.

  31. LOL. WOAH THIS IS DEGENERATIVE THAT’S WHACKY

    child abuse. check! cashing this all the way to the bank. DOUBLE CHECK!!

  32. Hello there Ariana and Jane, I would firstly like to say that I understand the struggle, for you see, I identify as a pan-dimensional trans-flower astrosexual, but my left foot is other-kin (only of Tuesdays though, every other day it’s a fury), my palms are multi-gender special snowflakes, left elbow is cis scum but it’s ok, cuz the right one is an open-minded spiritual cosmic flower and my fingers identify themselves as fully loaded Akula-class nuclear submarines and also I like to be referred to as “Qwy, qwym, qwys”
    Now that we gotten formalities out of the way, I would like to say that I applaud you non-gender repressed creatures, it’s great to see when parents want to be a part of their children’s lives. My father was your everyday average cis-scum male and he never accepted mine nor my mothers world-views, the bastard probably just raped her(as they usually do) and afterwards just stuck with her because she’s a wonderful cook and beautiful might I add (>landwhale.jpeg), also she couldn’t leave cus she was afraid that he would rape her again, but luckily, she spent all her frustrations on my, making sure I grow up progressive and with all 10 Akulas in tact. I love my mom, “wru” was the best. She passed away a few weeks ago and I’m sad, but also glad I had “wrur”, who knows, if it wasn’t for her, maybe I wouldn’t have turned out as fucked up as I am now. #neverforgetti

  33. I thought the point of the LGBT movement was self-discovery and the formation of an individual sexual identity FREE from this kind of ridiculous pigeon-holing and demonization of cis-gendered folks… so this article is poison..

  34. Yay, advocating child abuse so that fragile emotionally disturbed women can feel better about themselves and their warped ideology.

    This is what “feminism” has come to.

  35. This can’t honestly be real. Some kids have it really rough, if things like this are actually taking place in society. Women that want their kids to be anything before birth (or men) should be ashamed. They’re people, not your little push toy.

  36. Someone call child protective services on this sick psychopatch. People like you trans morons should be institutionalised. How dare you destroy the life of a child just because you are a degenerate bitch?

  37. What in the wide wide world of sports is going on here? How mentally defunct can you people be. You are sickening examples of humans.

  38. There are now three things thus far in this world that have been so mind blowing that it has earned the title “Jesus H Christ in a Chicken Basket” 1)Landing on the moon 2)robots landing on Mars, and now 3)this disgrace here of an internet page I have just witnessed.

  39. I’m sorry is this satire? Surely what I have just read cannot be true. If it is I hope the proper autorities take your child away from your crazy phyco ass and you get serious medication to deal with your mad behavior. As for the loon giving advice put your head down and run very fast into a brick wall. How dare anyone treat a child like this our kids are who and what they are how dare you push your sick agenda onto your 3 year old son

  40. I’d like to see the response to this parent convincing a girl that she’s a boy. This is mental child abuse you pancake.

  41. This is child abuse. You trying to force your child to be Transgender is every bit as damaging and wrong as someone trying to “beat the gay” out of their child. If you really can’t bear the thought of having a little boy, put HIM, not xe or whatever, up for adoption. He’ll be better off with a family that loves him for who he is. Monster.

  42. I sometimes catch myself thinking if Hitler was really the good guy, and we were the evil axis of powers. I sometimes catch myself hoping the cold war turned hot. I want off this ride.

  43. Omg, I literally can’t believe what I just read. You are actively harming kids and inspiring bad parenting

  44. So your answer is to battle intolerance with intolerance? This woman clearly has issues with her child’s gender identity and is in EVERY WAY the same as parents who try to change their transgender children.
    You are going to hurt your child immensely by FORCING your ideals onto him. He is who he is, ACCEPT that or you are NO different.

  45. Hey, you guys realize this is not a serious question or answer right?
    This is a joke.
    If you’ve looked at some of the other articles and q&a this person has done they are all a joke/satirical.

  46. LOL, nice troll. The sad thing is that it’s hard to tell if this is real or trolling being that the are retards who really thinks like this.

  47. wtf? is this a parody? I dont get it. if this is real then i am afraid we need to find out where this child is help and call the police to rescue HIM.

  48. You are born Trans, Straight, Gay, not made into one. You have to let the child discover their orientation themselves & it can take until their teens or young adult to find that out.

  49. This, this right here is possibly the most disgusting example of neglect and emotional abuse.
    This person shouldn’t have a child. If you were to take this to DSS, they would surely resolve that problem.
    You don’t fuck with anyone’s sense of identity like that, its something a person must come into on their own, otherwise you face real psychological trauma, this kid could truly develop PTSD (not the bullshit you over sensative biggots push). I fear for this child’s well being and only pray that he finds a person who will love and support him for all he is.
    Teach tolerance, not ignorance.

    Really that’s terrifying how horribly emotionally scaring this child’s upbringing will be. If he is lucky and smart the second he has the chance he should run.

    Equality is about tolerance of all tracks, not just the one you favor.
    And to the editor. You should be ashamed for condoning such abuse.

  50. Frank Valderen This must be comedy…it must be comedy frown emoticon Thel me it’s comedy.

  51. WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS

    Leave him alone you dumb fucking bitch. Damn I pity the child for having a retarded feminazi as a mother.

    • This is OBVIOUSLY satire. How anyone can be clueless enough to take it seriously is beyond me.

  52. Supporting a transgendered person is one thing. Manipulating a person (especially a child) into confirming to your chosen gender identity for him or her is not only wrong, it’s particularly evil.
    If the situation was reversed (a transgendered individual being manipulated into being gender-normative), I’m willing to bet you would see it bigoted and evil.
    If it’s not right for one, it’s not right for the other.

  53. When a bunch of idiots fail to realize something is satire.. even when it says the author is a writer for National Report. YOU FUCKING MORONS!

  54. I was waiting for something that hinted at this all being a joke. But now I’m just dead inside.

    If there even is a Patriarchy to fight, I am now rooting for it to win. You’re all living, breathing mental disorders.

  55. This has got to be a fucking joke. That is psychological abuse of a child. That child should be taken away by Children Services. This is how murderers are created. Obviously, you’ve never seen Insidious. Based on true events. Jesus Christ.

  56. As a genderfluid person, I hope that this “mother” is arrested and her child taken away, and frankly, her husband taken to a mental hospital. If seeing your son play with toys makes you have PTSD meltdowns, you need serious help.

    Jane, you too deserve to be arrested. This is the very things that can cause children to kill themselves. You are the very reason people despise feminism. You are willing to destroy a child’s mental health to fight da paterwacky.

    Anyone who agrees, kindly turn yourselves into the police, especially if you have children. It’s for the good of society.

  57. I kept looking for a header or keyword that indicated this is satire or a farce of some kind. Alas, no sure luck, so I have to presume this may be a legitimate letter and response, both of which go to the core of the degeneration in our society. First, the mother’s letter shows a pathological drive to force her child to conform to some ridiculous invented culture where everyone is some kind of eunuch or sexless, androgynous creature. The wonderful thing about young children is the authenticity and honesty they face life with, and this child, being born a male, is just being what he is. He is a male, with typical male tendencies, likes, and characteristics, regardless of what his psychotic mother may want to impose on him. The “father”, if I can even call him that, is so brainwashed by his “wife” that he won’t even stand up to her to defend his child’s obvious true self, and is therefore an accomplice in this child abuse. Yes, I said it, CHILD ABUSE. If this letter wasn’t anonymously posted, I’m sure it would be forwarded to the local DCF for investigation. Secondly, the response was almost as implicit in this abuse by the obvious radical feminist rhetoric, which in itself is showing how much they (feminists) lie with every statement they make about just wanting equality and that they aren’t a misandric hate group. I’m sorry, but there is nothing you can say that would disprove this. “When you interact with the child’s father, always be the dominant force,” “No one wants a white, CIS male child,” “the micro-displays of masculinity should be snuffed out at the root before they spread like the cancer that they are.” Really? Reverse the gender (and race) and don’t tell me that women wouldn’t go absolutely bonkers with indignation over it. From what I’ve seen and read lately, when “feminism” goes to this extreme it truly qualifies as a cult in every sense of the word, and just as dangerous. Please, please tell me this is just a spoof letter, but if this is real, you and your cultists should be watched and monitored just the same as any ISIS, KKK, Jonestown, or equivalent group.

  58. God help your souls. You are surely going to be held responsible for sexually abusing this child. I pray that God will intervene on the child’s behalf before irreparable damage occurs.

  59. Y’all need to calm the fuck down. Clearly this is a satire site. Good fucking lord, look at the other article titles. Goddamn.

  60. Someone take this woman’s child away!
    PLEASE DON’T EVER THINK THIS IS OKAY
    I WOULD NEVER TREAT MY CHILD LIKE THAT TO FIGHT SOME INVISIBLE THING THAT WE WOMEN ARE BARELY HELD BY IN THE U.S??

  61. I hope this is a sick joke because it is so wrong My son played with his sisters dolls and they played with his tonka trucks and playing with these toys didnt hurt or confuse them

  62. Kill yourself you disgusting and horrible human being, you do not deserve to live. People like you should be rounded up in the millions and executed and shoved into unmarked graves because your existence doesn’t deserve to be remembered.

  63. Hi. being a true feminist is about equality in the genders, not shaming men for having penises and keeping them! I promise you that that this precious little boy will be permanently damaged by this sort of treatment and will be bullied more by other kids. And once he tells a counselor about this child services will take him away. The best thing to do is to have his father treat his mother with respect and visa versa, show him that men and women are equal. Instead, he’s going to be more confused than ever and when he finally gets a grip he’ll be in an abusive relationship because of the poor example he was given.
    I am a true feminist. And you disgust me.

    • She’s a psychopath and will receive the appropriate medical help, unlike what would happened in the eastern world, which probably would have stoned her.

  64. Man, why would anyone attempt to victimize a 3 year old. That is straight up feminist activity. I have so much pity for this parent. It seems as though they are trying to set some sort of precedence for other destructive personalities to come forward and influence their kids to be little “jenners”. Older people that become transgender at least took their time to actually see if they were in fact that way. Children are intelligent until their parents get a hold of them.

  65. Apparently people can’t decearn satire from real articles. The article was funny and the fact that people couldn’t read into the sarcasm gave me twice the laughs, we win in the end Chris.

  66. It is sarcasm. But the problem is, that hardcore feminists actually do talk like this. It is one of the most concerning mysteries for me, why so many women can not see the BS behind it.

  67. ….. GUYS ….. IT’S SATIRE…. OH MY GOD.

    She’s writing this to show how ridiculous it is coming the other way: real parents in real places with real LGBT children freak out and just want to keep them (or turn them) cis or straight.

    Imagine all of this from the opposite point of view: the mother calling in, saying “*gasp* I just can’t handle the idea of a transgender child!” and the response being like “make sure your *son* never gets influenced by those awful gays and their agenda!”

    Like… that literally happens all the time. She’s writing this to show how ridiculous it is. If we’re freaking out over the idea of “turning a child transgender,” **we should be freaking out over real parents denying their children the right to explore gender identity and sexual orientation.** That’s the point she’s making.

    THIS ISN’T ROCKET SCIENCE, PEOPLE, IT’S SATIRE.

  68. Well Adolf was a white strait male and he single handily fixed Germany’s economical crisis

  69. You two give feminism and trans people a bad name, I hope the little boy gets help from the authorities!

    (Coming from a non binary person with a trans boyfriend.)

    • Feminism gives feminism a bad name. Most girls only claim to be feminist to follow the herd in justifying their biologically driven narcissistic desires for instant gratification until deciding to marry just before their eggs are completely useless. Then, they end up being alone and miserable because no one wants to marry them. If they do get married, they end up initiating divorce 75-80% of the time because studies show that each sexual partner a woman has, the more likely she won’t be happy in a monogamous relationship. Otherwise, they work meaningless jobs out of “empowerment” and leave their kids to rot in childcare to become maladjusted.

      Feminism literally killed marriage and destroyed the fabric of civilization (the family). And don’t forget the blatant misandry and the rigged family court and rape laws.

      CLOWN WORLD

  70. Even though this is clearly satirical. Its still edgy. Plus this post gave me cancer thanks

  71. I..I dont even want to know what i just read, First off the child needs to be removed form these abusive parents, secondly they need to see professional help as they are CLEARLY damaged. And the finale, Tammy, WHAT THE EVER LOVING SHIT IS WRONG WITH YOU? How in the hell are you going to give advice that is not only sexist but racist too? I’m a Black Male, and it drives me fucking crazy to see white men blamed for all the worlds ill’s (because you know.. people cant be cunts for the sake of being cunts regardless of gender and race). Both these parents need help as does tammy and the entire religious feminist movement

  72. What you are doing is actually child abuse. He should be removed from this house for his safety. If we argue that conversation therapy doesn’t work for homosexuality, then it would certainty not work for the Cisgender.

    • This is correct. Shame there’s some degree of anonymity, Child Services exists for people like the aforementioned.

  73. This child should be taken away from you and your “Xena” “Husband” as soon as possible and given to a nice couple who wants him for who he is regardless of who they are. You two are batfuckingshiit crazy.

  74. If this isn’t satire, the parents involved should be prosecuted for felony child abuse.

    “usurp the disease of masculinity”
    Do you think you got pregnant on your own?

    “dismantle the patriarchy at it’s very core.”
    So the kid wants to do what boys do, and it’s patriarchy? It’s shit like this that has America laughing at the new feminism 2.0. I wish you guys would get rid of the patriarchy, just so I can see what you would complain about next when you actually had to do some of the hard work yourself.

  75. Anyone who thinks this is legitimately good idea needs to go study the case of David Reimer. You will fail, psychology already knows it. I hope this is satire, otherwise I hope someone calls protective services for this child in the near future to prevent or stop the child abuse that is inevitably going to occur or has occurred.

  76. Do you have a tumblr account? Are you fat? Do you own a cat? Do you own multiple cats? Do you have children? Are you lesbian?

  77. You are both horrible human beings, and you should be truly ashamed of yourselves. The end.

    Full stop.

  78. You two are both scum of the earth, let her figure out she is trans and see if she wants to act on it. Don’t funnel feminism into that child, in this world we are all people not genders. gender does not predict everything in your life.

    What if the child turned out to be a boy, abortion? Yeah fuck this bitch, especially you Jane, you are adding poison to this little girls life.

    She could have so much anxiety and depression and not even know what it is.

    When I was about 8-10 years old my dad told me that my uncle came out to the family and he said he was gay. I asked my dad “What if he wanted to be a girl?” He said he wouldn’t ever talk to him again.

    No I’m not completely trans yet, I’m pretty much pre everything and that thought still hurts the fuck out of me. But I know my father and family would love me if I explained it and didn’t just run off with a nice pair of tits.

  79. Is this satire? This has to be satire. Please saint Poe, lord of internet trolling, please tell me this is one giant joke.
    The use of quotations makes it seem very strongly that writer is attempting to express sarcasm and that it’s over the top nature is all a joke. But people keep telling me this is actually serious. If so, it’s insanity.

    To spell out, my views on “trans” are not important here, but even if you are pro-trans, then accept your own movement. Insisting on forcing your own gender barriers, even open terms like gender-neutral, onto a 3 year old child flies in the face of the trans movement’s desire to allow individuals to choose their own identity.
    Your son is choosing to be a boy. Deal with it.

  80. if this is satire, i congratulate your for its brilliance. it is the height of Poe’s Law.
    if this is not satire, you are both living, breathing proof that [some] women are worth less than men on a base level, and that you belong nowhere but in breeding pens. even being limited to sandwich making duty in the kitchen is too good for you.

  81. An experiment was conducted many years back to determine if the upbringing of an individual would effect that individuals gender and sexual orientation later in life. The subject was a man that was castrated during a botched circumcision. All his early childhood life he was given girly things and girly clothes and told to wear them as if he was a girl. The child however, was a he and he didn’t want to wear girls clothes or play with girls toys. This forced upbringing scarred him mentally and he later committed suicide. So I mean, if you want your kid to kill himself there are other ways of doing that but I strongly suggest that instead of that you jump off a bridge yourselves and leave the child with an adoption agency.

    • A while back I let one of my chicken hens set on and hatch a couple of duck eggs. One of the things the little ducks did the first time allowed outside was to jump in the water bowl and swim. They loved it and did it instinctively. Mother chicken seemed a bit shocked. She didn’t like her babies swimming, but accepted it without freaking out. One of the now grown ducks is a mama’s girl who likes to cuddle up close to her chicky mama from time to time.

  82. This is hilarious. Are people really this fucked in the head in this decade? Oh my it would be comedy gold if it weren’t for a 3 year old who is about to become an innocent victim of his malicious and scheming mother. I can only hope child protection services does something in this situation to remove the boy from his mentally ill and evil parents.

    Protip: XX chromosomes = female, XY chromosomes = male. Anything else is just a prenatal abnormality causing homosexuality, transgender issues etc and is not normal. I think what the parents have though is just outright mental illness since they have a delusion that homo sapiens did not evolve to procreate as males and females. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3296090/

    How cuck would the father have to be for this to happen anyway. I bet he has to ask for permission every 5 seconds to keep his dick in his wife when they fuck.

    • Haha, 100% the father is cucked (if this is real). No matter how much of a feminist /SJW harpy a woman is, she can’t avoid the biology-inducing tingles generated by an alpha male.

      And yeah, a bunch of those studies clearly show that transsexuality is linked to prenatal testosterone exposure in the gender defining region of the brain. Not sure about homosexuality, but I’d bet it’s a similar process but with the sexual attraction region of the brain. In other words, they are literally congenital mental illnesses.

      The types of people who are straight but adhere to this ideology are psychologically ill as well, but probably because they were rejected one too many times by the opposite sex or were raised in that environment.

  83. What in the fuck did I just read?

    You can’t force a child to be trans. That just doesn’t work. Just like you can’t force a gay person to be straight, or a trans person to be cis.

    These dipshit parents ought to have their kid taken away.

    • It’s just so ironic that these same people who firmly believe that you are born straight/gay/trans/etc. are forcing their child to be trans.

      This clown world needs to be destroyed.

  84. PLEASE tell me this is satire. I can’t believe otherwise.

    But just in case it isn’t…don’t you want your child to naturally choose what they are and what they want to be? Isn’t forcing your child to behave as a transgender (if they don’t want to be) as bad as forcing them to behave as male or female, if they don’t want to be? The argument has been made in the past that parents who discipline their children for certain conservative choices and ideals will push them away, but can’t this do the same thing?

  85. Convincing as gay or trans a child they should be straight is bigoted. convincing a straight child they should be gay or transgendered is bigoted. You are a bigot . This is child abuse and you both should be locked up.

  86. This HAS to be a parody. It can’t be serious. The scary thing is, can you even tell anymore?

  87. Is it just me, or does this ‘letter’ actually read more like the introduction to a certain kind of porn story than a real life situation?

  88. So you want to overturn the patriarchy, which is bad because it imposes its will, by imposing your will.
    You owe it to your child to think through what you are doing before you attempt mold him in a direction that he clearly does not want to go.

  89. the problem with this article as parody, is that this kind of things actually goes on. Not often, but enough.

  90. Brilliant satire, bravo!! By far the funniest thing I’ve read on the ‘net in a while. And the number of people who are commenting as if this were a serious article stands as a testament to how ridiculous we’ve become. We are so far down the rabbit hole, you can’t be ABSOLUTELY sure this is a joke, but of course, that’s the hallmark of great comedy.
    The author has a future writing sitcoms …

  91. What does it say – about me and about modern society – that I can’t really tell if this is supposed to be satire or not.

  92. This whole thing is a parody, right? It’s satire, because no rational people think this way. CPS has removed kids from homes for less than this.

  93. I pity this emotionally abused child. These intolerant parents should be ashamed for forcing their social constructs onto this beleaguered boy, who should be allowed to be himself. This is the hateful, intolerant, bigoted, and totalitarian tendencies of “progressivism” on full display.

  94. So, if you can train a child from birth to be trans, that would mean you could also train them not to be gay if they were inclined that way.

    Is being gay something genetic or not? If being gay is not genetic, how do you feel about all of the people tying to “break” kids who think are gay? Why is that not just as wrong as forcing a child to be trans if they are not.

    From what I can tell, you are raising a serial killer.

  95. I’m pretty certain you might have a lawsuit coming your way… advice columnist John Rosemond’s can tell you all about it.

  96. People – so much hate!
    Why are you discouraging this womyn from raising xer son exactly as xe sees fit?
    Hopefully, xe’ll slit hir throat before xe reaches voting age.
    All leftists should be encouraged to follow Ariana’s example.

    • Brilliant. Hopefully the womyn won’t buy a short rope and find a tall tree before xer son accomplishes xis mission.

  97. You have got to be frickin’ kidding me! What a crazy twisted undeserving fucktard of a parent this person (and I use the term loosely) is. Your child should be removed from your care. You are not a parent; you are an activist. How about loving your child more than your stupid fucking agenda.

  98. The sad thing about society is that this obvious piece of sarcasm just might not be sarcasm.

  99. This letter is either a joke, or the author is deeply mentally ill and the child should be taken by Dept Child Services.

  100. Liberal Progressives…the largest group of child abusers in the United States. Sowing the seeds of authorized hate, normalcy confusion and envy of those who have worked for what they have in generations of people since William McKinley.

    This was, quite frankly, the sickest exchange I have ever had the sorry luck to have read.

  101. Is this satire? I hate satire. I’m not sure what its purpose is? Who are you making fun of here? And what does cis mean? Criminal Investigative Service? So strange and odd. It used to be we encouraged people to be who they were meant to be or “normal” not all were, but to encourage insanity for the sake of schizophrenic desire is lunacy. I might not like your truth though I will tolerate it if you tolerate my truth though you might not like it.

  102. The best way to prevent a child from playing with inappropriate toys is to remove the child’s fingers. The can be easily accomplished at home with a cigar trimmer and a hammer. It is also good preparation for the removal of other appendages at a later time. You cant be a good progressive parent without forcing your children to be just a effed up as you are and that can require force. Viva Che

  103. I … I can’t tell if this is a joke or not. People are so loony and asinine anymore, yet there are tons of sites like The Onion who make their livings out of satire. The terminally stupid and the funny crossed streams a couple years back, and the world has been spinning ever since. Can there actually be this many selfish, destructive morons in the world? If so they should have their child taken from them due to abuse, and the oh so helpful journalist should be shamed until she retires to a nunnery.

  104. People like this are the reason that no one takes modern feminism seriously. You are just as fucked up as people who try to force their children to be Cis. Let the kid be who they want to be, everyone is equal. Sure women are great, BUT MEN ARE GREAT TOO. No matter what someone’s sexual orientation/gender/skin color they are PERFECT, just as long as they aren’t forcing other people into being someone they’re not. And for those people who are going to argue that I’m being a hypocrite by attempting to force my feminism on others, there is a difference between defending someone’s right of living a life equal to that of someone of the equal gender and denying someone the freedom of being who they really are. You should be ashamed of trying to force your child to be someone they aren’t.

  105. Readers should look at Jane’s whole ouevre on this site before putting mouths in gear. It’s small and only takes a few minutes. If you still can’t figure it out then . . . go hunting.

    Your stuff is great, Jane.

  106. The worst part about procreation is that ANY idiot can have kids. I just hope social services safe this child before he becomes a violent raving lunatic, or worse, a feminist.

  107. A person is or isn’t transgender, it’s not something you can be told you are. The title of this might as well be “How do I convince my transgender child he isn’t transgender.” I hope this is a joke because if this is serious it’s the most offensive thing I’ve read in awhile.

  108. “No one wants a white, CIS male child, and the people who pretend they do are merely deluding themselves.” – What racist, sexist and heterosexist commentary this drivel is and yet for some reason this is okay. Imagine anyone writing that nobody. One self hating lunatic speaking to another and the poor child will suffer for it.

  109. You are sick and you need serious help. You should refrain from having children.
    Someone please save the child.

  110. Child abuse, plain and simple. You two “ladies” should not have children. You don’t like them anyway, and are all about the “choice” for killing them in the womb. So why bother?

    And “Ariana” – you should keep a screenshot of Jane’s advice. At a minimum, it will help you in your later court case when you need to request damages that help pay for the psychiatric help this poor child will need later in life.

  111. “Agent of the patriarchy ” gave it away.

    Great troll though. This really got people going. It’s well done as it’s almost as bold as some of the tumblr posts you would see.

    Yes folks, this is satire. Read the other articles on the site and her bio.

  112. Now we need a parallel question wherein a woman recites the meme in which she says she was a Tomboy when she was little, and she’s sure glad they didn’t have sex changes when she was little (apparently she was born c. 1910), because then her parents would have forced her to become a Transgenderite Boy and take Testosterone, etc. etc., and how can we Save the Tomboys?

    I’ve read this shaggy-dog story fifty times and it still breaks me up.

  113. Both the query and reply are chilling. The child is not being nurtured by either parent rather he is being forced into something twisted. They had a child for their own societal agenda. This little boy will grow up dancing in front of a mirror with a dress made of who knows what when he gets older. Just like the character in silence of the lambs. Rather than supporting the blessing and innocence given them they are twisting it to their f’d up societal beliefs.
    Ish ish ish. This is frightening. This little boy is being crushed my his mommies dearest. Someone just might end up dead, the boy suicidal or the hoy killing his wacko parents for subjugating him to such crap
    Where is child protective services. Seriously. Can’t believe I am going to say this but Government should step in.

  114. This… This is a joke right? Please tell me this is a joke. Please tell me that the person writing this letter made it up, and the person responding to it is a caricature of a real person.

    I would really like to be told that.

  115. This is so true, I regret that my parents were so bigoted as to let me grow up as a male, what a cruel thing to do !! Thankfully modern parents can look to this website as a beacon in the dark.

    And to all the bigots in the comment section, I can’t tell if you’re serious or trying satire, but it’s hurtful !! maybe if you were raised in the proper, non-gender-conforming way you would be sane individuals … but such is the power of the patriarchy, I wish it was a joke, but the patriarchy is as real as this comment section.

  116. This HAS to be satire. Nobody, just nobody is this utterly stupid.

    Let me go check twitter and tumbler first.

    Nope, it’s real…

  117. Hahahahahahahahahaha, this gave me a good laugh, though the scary thing is there really are feminists that actually believe in shit like this. Sad thing is that they are allowed to express their opinions for the world to see without consequences. In my humble opinion, they ought to reopen the death camps in Europe for all feminists and gas them. :)

  118. ‘It is up to “Xer” to demonstrate that femininity is the way to go, and will be the only acceptable route for them to identify as under your roof.’ Isn’t this the exact same thing as a family of ‘patriarch’ people telling their kids they can’t Identify as a non binary, ramen-kin under their roof? How hypocritical my heart goes out to this kid, mom and dad are jacked up hard core.

  119. Is this another example of Poe’s Law? I see no indication that this is satire or even clever, just another example of the pink-colored idiocracy we live in.

  120. This triggered me in a big way. Triggered me to cry. Tears of joy! Jane. Thank you for understanding this complex and very real issue. I don’t know. I just feel like, if more people could focus on the CIS darkness that we all face and how it impacts the life of strong feeling people like myself…we would all be SO much better off.

  121. You can’t be serious?! If you want a sexchange as an adult… then by all means, go for it, but don’t force one on your child. I recommend this poor boy go live with his father… as far away from the bat-shit-demented feminist that calls herself a “mother”.

  122. I just wanted to say, if you read this article and then replied to it thinking its real, you are a complete fucking moron.

  123. Great to see that feminism is now so fucked up as an ideology by its supporters, that the majority can’t even tell the difference between obvious satire and their usual whining points. Just means its days are numbered now, and I can finally start looking forward to opening this decade old bottle of champagne, saved specifically for that occasion.

  124. I can completely sympathize with the query by Ariana. Right now we’re having similar difficulties with our own young daughter. My partner and I wish for “him” to identify as a straight male in order to fully optimize advantages provided by the patriarchy, yet so far we’ve been unable to find a doctor willing to do a strap on graft to provide “him” with a permanent penis. We keep “his” hair short in a classic crew-cut military style, no skirts or dresses are allowed, and we’ll be having “his” first tattoo put on “his” neck on “his” third birthday next month. With all we’ve planned, there will be no objectification in his lifetime, no sexism, no worries. The full weight of our institutionalized misogyny will come to bear in support of him through his entire life. I can’t wait for him to roll in success and be able to provide me with everything a woman deserves! Go men!

  125. This article is the very epitome of feminist/SJW Poe. There is absolutely no way to differentiate the satiric from the serious. This is hardly as crazy as the craziest feminist babblings anyway.

  126. Though I suspect this article is satire, I cannot say with certainty one way or the other. And that, folks, is the most damning indictment against modern feminism possible.

  127. I only wonder about one thing. Did “Ask Jane” ever hesitate for a minute when “They” wrote the answer? The OPs question just seems to perfectly fit a POE, but the answer leaves me uncertain. Did “Jane” actually consider for a second that the OP might serious? And the harm “they” might cause by further manipulating a three year old into a damaging, sexist ideology? Did “jane” ever consider that this type of Feminism might hurt women and girls, too?

  128. Ultimately, all hetero-cisgender males must be eliminated – it is only after the irreversible physical destruction of this elite-elitist substratum that we can begin to combat the cis-heteronormative, hetero-ciscentric, ultracissexist, dualistic-binarian Christo-fascist patriarchy they have constructed and continue to sustain.

  129. WTF! Time to call social services. If you have them in America. The child will develop into exactly what he is, whether he wants to be in contact with you when he’s grown, is another matter.
    “all I ever wanted a trans child” is that so you can gain some kudos down at the anti patriarchal disco?!

  130. Ariana, I hope this is a joke. If not I predict that when you SON is in his teens, you will be afraid to sleep if he is in the house. When you try and make a gender non-specific human into something against its nature, it will kind of go crazy.

  131. Is this from the Onion or something? If not, both those bitches need a bullet in the brain!

  132. Is this satire?
    Seriously, tell me this is a joke!
    Both you and these “parents” should be arrested for child endangerment and abuse.

  133. I haven’t laughed so hard for many weeks, brilliant piece of satirical parody ! I salute you and your great creative writing (and a little trolling) talent.

  134. I came across this trying to find information for my transgender child. As a feminist, this whole thing makes me sick!! It’s idiots like you that make women like me look bad. Without a man of some sort, you wouldn’t have your children.
    Like I said, I am indeed a feminist. I never changed my last name when I got married, hell, even my kids have my last name, i don’t believe i “need” to shave just because I’m a woman, etc. But as a feminist I know that I’m equal to a man. My husband is my equal. And he knows this and I love him for that. I’m no better then anyone; man, non-confirming gender, black, white, anyone!!! That’s what feminism is about!!
    The problem here is that you need to think logically. Not all men are the root of this evil. We are being oppressed but you need to focus on who is doing this. And it’s not every single man. If you realized this then we wouldn’t need to “fight” for equality anymore. This would be an old issue.

  135. The extension of legal protection as a class is predicated on it being an inherent characteristic. Yet “gender is a social construct”.

    I would like to thank the author for justifying “gender identity” not being a “protected” class…

  136. We thought that accessability to things such as technology, liteature and knowledge in general could allow the technological development to leap forward. We thought that the classes in society could be brought down. We thought it would turn the average dumb peasant into wise nobleman; somebody who could change things for the better. No longer improving of conditions and means should be a priviledge. Instead it turns out that intelligence doesn’t come with knowledge. The two can walk hand in hand, but also seperated. You can speak the language of knowledge without truly saying anything intelligent.

    This has always baffled me:
    In the western civilization it’s very possible to be literially insane and not be hospitalized, if you have money and support of others. (Maybe insanity is a social structure?) Either way, there is truly nothing to save in the western civilization. Muslims invasion or not, it’s going to crumble sooner or later, we’ll be stuck in the dark ages. The only good thing that comes out of this is forced reality check on the population. Some claim that the evolution of man has stopped – it hasn’t: this collapse and the events which follow will kill most of the dummies who can’t or won’t evolve with the times.

    It’s a damn shame we won’t get to populate space before shit hits the fan. This could have been a way to save the achievements of mankind, and more importantly allow people to escape these chaotic events that spin out of control. Instead, the collective population thought it was more important to focus on developing fairytales around the means of reproducing.

  137. You are mentally ill.
    The people writing in are mentally ill and should have child services take their child away from them.
    It seems neither parent is capable of actually being a parent.

    This advice is atrocious. You should be sent to a mental home with the parents.

    You people are vile filth,

  138. Recent research has shown that what we used to call ‘corporal punishment’ is actually the best way to raise your child right. If you beat the child regularly they will become more docile and obedient and then it’s just a short exercise in hypnotic suggestion and they will be properly feminized in no time complete will a propensity to produce baked goods for you in show of gratitude for you utmost diligence and devotion to duty as a politcally conscious parent. Try it tonight! I think you’ll be pleasently surprized with the results. You may even want to get them used to viewing any of their own orifices (or the picked scabs on their knees) by their harmonious nature as female early on. One example of how you could impliment this is your own home for free is by having the child practice holding their feces at a point halfway out of their anus for a sustained period while potty training. Careful don’t drop it too soon! Bless.

  139. You people are all insane. My son thought he was a Tyrannosaurus Rex when he was four years old. I guess I should have found him some roadkill on some Highway somewhere, plopped it on his dinner plate and said bon appetit. After all, he thought he was a predatory dinosaur, I guess I should have encouraged that. Ohhhh wait, children have fantasies and play…
    Wtf is wrong with these people…BRUCE (CAITLIN) JENNER IS A MAN. JAMES (JENNY) BOYLAN IS A MAN.
    Whether they get their parts snipped off or not, they were born with the male chromosome and they will die with a male chromosome. God does not make mistakes. And when they stand before him one day, he will tell them that it was people like me that tried to get through to them and they didn’t listen. So they can’t try and tell God they didn’t know…. go ahead and laugh, and call me a crazy Christian. I welcome it. Because I know I’m right, and so does God. If these people don’t get it together, they will regret it. Perhaps not in this life but I guarantee you in the next- -they will regret what they’ve done.

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