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Why is society so obsessed with sex? (self.MGTOW)

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Okay this is gonna be a non-coherent rant, I'm just venting.

When I graduated high school, I was top of all my classes except English. I was highest in maths, physics, chemistry, etc. I got multiple awards from the school and received the awards for the highest exam scores in my city.

Yet I was considered a loser by everyone in my school. People used to mock me cause I'd never had a girlfriend or never had sex. I didn't see what the big deal was, I chose what I wanted to focus on during high school, I focused on that, I achieved it.

The kids who failed every exam but were banging the hottest girls in school were considered the popular ones. The ones who routinely got detentions and suspensions. They were the ones everyone envied. I was the one who "gee, your life sucks, I wouldn't want to be you."

Okay fine.

Out of school, in university. I spent weekends studying. In my spare time I'd do hobbies I like, reading, video games, computers, jogging, going for bush walks. Yes, I spent a lot on video games, because I enjoyed them.

Everyone else: "lol, video games are for kids, I can't believe you spend so much money on that." "I can't believe you stayed in all weekends playing games instead of going out like other people." Even my family would say that. Okay? God forbid I spend my free time doing things I enjoy.

What do the other people my age do? Go out drinking on the weekends, spend upwards of 50 dollars on overpriced shitty drinks mixed with coca cola and sugary flavours, end up getting blackout drunk they remember nothing, and depending on their luck, they may or may not have sex.

Okay, if that's what they enjoy, good for them.

Why am I a loser for not pursuing sex? I don't know why its considered cool to blow away so much money pursuing sex and getting blackout drunk, but not considered okay to blow away money if you happen to enjoy forms of art such as video games.

Girls at school used to call me "asexual" because I didn't spend 24/7 bragging about how horny I am and how Jennette is hot or how I want to fuck Camilla or how Chloe has big breasts. Just because I don't openly divulge my sexual interests to every single person, does not make me asexual, and if I am asexual, it doesn't mean I am worthy of mockery for that.

Another thing: kids at school used to tease me cause one kid once asked if I masturbate (I was about 16). I answered truthfully and honestly, no, because that was the truth and I didn't. I don't know how but the entire school found out. Some accused me of being a liar, some accused me of being weird and abnormal. Even the girls who themselves proclaimed they didn't masturbate would say I was weird for not doing so, just because I'm male.

I don't get this thing about society. If you're not a horny testosterone-filled neanderthal trying to chase pussy at every corner, you're mocked by people and considered a loser, no matter what you're achievements are.

If you're a 40 year old virgin with a doctorate and published several research papers, you're still primarily a "40 year old virgin." As if the only thing that matters in life is if your dick has been inside a cunt and no other achievements or pursuits matter.

You see it on sitcoms all the time. On the tv show FRIENDS, Ross is like "Didn't you read Lord of the Rings in high school?" and they respond "No, I was having sex in high school." Like, haha what a loser, he devoted time to reading one of the greatest and most influential literary works in the English language instead of getting his dick wet.

They make movies called "40 year old virgin" like being a virgin at 40 is worse than being a criminal. They have movies like "40 days and 40 nights" where they act like males are horny animals who can't realistically abstain from sex for that long.

I will never understand this.

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[–]wellheytherefreckles 9ポイント10ポイント  (0子コメント)

Because they're projecting their own insecurities onto you, and are jealous that you are pursuing what YOU want in life instead of giving into the social norm.

[–]jford6i8 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

To enslave men...horny men take out overpriced loans to buy ugly houses for fat chicks...banks love this...thus the promotion of sex everywhere.

[–]thoriumpoweredwatch 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hey man listen I graduated from high school a few years ago and the same case as you. Played games, studied, top of the class etc. The so called cool kids that always made fun of me for being a virgin and not getting girls?

Most avoid me because they have gone nowhere or the more decent people openly approached me and gave a genuine apology. They are jealous of you man and immature kids project that through bullying. You're going far in life and they know it. You'll look back and laugh in a few more years. I am assuming you're in STEM like I am.

Cheers brother and enjoy the freedom of not conforming to society's bullshit.

[–]Xtr81 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

without sex you would be here, get it?

[–]spencers6-94 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I never understood this either. I'm still a virgin at 22 and everyone I know has already had sex multiple times. Some who are my age already have kids. Even when I was 15, there were some kids who had already had sex at 13-14. That's just fucked up IMO. It seems like everyone is in such a rush to have sex before they turn 18, otherwise "they aren't adults."

Don't worry man, this society really is messed up because if we don't conform, we're considered outliers. We're not though. We have brains. They are the outliers.

[–]bushwhackerrr 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

There is a couple different ways to look at it. One is that the reason the romantic relationship has been pushed so hard into society is so that you have people injecting more money into the economy. Sort of a top down "conspiracy" to get people to consume. Married people with kids spend more money than single people. So basically all these people pushing you to do what they think is "natural" have simply been brainwashed. Another way to look at it is, yes this is a natural part of being a human. And maybe it is. Maybe they're right. But for some people in some situations the reality of relationships is not as good as being alone. The cost/benefit analysis that you hear so often in the mgtow realm.

People, in general, don't seem to like it when someone doesn't place as much importance in something (in this case sex) as they themselves do. It forces them to think outside of their box. It's easier to say "He's a weirdo" than to use critical thinking and empathy to try and understand a perspective that is different from what society has deemed normal.

[–]IAmNotAlwaysRight 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Sex is almost a rite of passage for many people. Also advertisers want to portray it as an ideal becasue it invokes a visceral reaction that makes you want to buy their product to get it.

Mate its really interesting, just start observing the patterns of human behavior - both men and women, you learn alot about them- their strengths weaknesses, securities, insecurities.

[–]retrobuddha 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Because we are animals and like all animals we can't control it. So learn to recognize when you like a woman it's not be cause you are in love, it's because you want to mate and fuck.

[–]skeletonized [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Wow, this is a great post that will be relatable to many community members, especially the younger ones that are growing up increasingly inside their head, disconnected from their body. There is a long answer that you deserve that I could write, but it would be like summarizing the core concepts of the few influential books I've read. Where to begin...

You should be able to observe your surroundings as the science experiment they really are. Look at the rest of us as if we were bacteria in a petri dish or rats in a cage, recording conflict and gene variation that lead require different types to play to unique strengths that will help them fulfill their biological imperatives over the next 60 years of life in competition for Fame, Power, and Resources.

Puberty is messing with everyone in high school. The girls have just gotten breasts or hips that advertise their fertility, and their observing how social interactions are changing from when they were androgynous kids. The guys are having growth spurts, gaining muscle, becoming less androgynous. They notice that girls can't just be friends anymore because people are watching now, they are waking up to realize that their is an actual Dominance Hierarchy and they may not be able to tell so obviously where they fit, and not fitting at all is even scarier. They are just starting to accrue the 10,000 hours of mastery that Malcolm Gladwell wrote about in Outliers. Each day is an experiment to see what variable can I introduce to my social interactions that will make people do what I want and give me things for free with the least amount of energy expended. THAT is the whole of life and the underpinnings of Psychology, Sociology, and Game Theory.

Everyone wants to control you. For most guys their penis getting touched will completely override the rational part of their brain that can resist those manipulative tactics designed to enslave you to them.

Spend some time on Youtube looking at lectures and programs from

Alex Jones

Mark Passio

Yuri Bezmenov

Patrice O'Neal

Red Pill Awareness Will Save You

[–]WingedVirtue [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I have a lot of same history and perspective as you do. Always, intellectually minded, interests in areas like: art, gaming, technology, math, etc. I'm a virgin at 30yrs old for various reasons - mostly social apathy towards female personalities, disgust for how dating / romantic culture is preferential treatment, long-term health issues, no interest in kids/marriage, etc.

I'm above average in attractiveness and I could very well get a one night stand with someone of equal attractiveness or if desperate, someone of lower sexual market value. I have no shame in my choice to be celibate. A woman allowing you access to her "wet hole" for a short period of time isn't an accomplishment, much less a life defining milestone of masculinity. If anything she's doesn't value you for your character and is only vetting you as a provider of some sort.

The reality of societal emphasis and pressure surrounding sex is simple - sex sells. It is a carnal addictive drug like experience. That as others have said, leads to relationships -> marriage -> children, which in turn stimulates men to work hard and keep the economy and government from collapsing. Sadly the self esteem of many men lies within their ability to achieve sexual conquests.

I similarly wonder why we focus so much on alcohol consumption once we hit legal drinking age. How many people do you know that have social gatherings and don't drink alcohol? Once 21, it's consumed like it's as natural and necessary as oxygen. Most people drink alcohol without even questioning it up until they're diagnosed with a chronic degenerative illness that requires them to take medications. We spend tons of resources to produce it, tons of money to purchase it. Yet in reality all it actually results in is risks for DWI induced deaths, disability, addiction, poverty, etc.

I think our society as a whole is in cultural decline, the great dumbing down as some call it. Most of which is fueled by unhealthy lifestyles such as perpetuation of ignorance, depravity, and gluttonous indulgence. Any meaningful philosophy has been corrupted with hedonism.