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ADVICE22, pregnant, dead fiance and considering and abortion. (self.RedPillWomen)

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about two months ago my fiancé was killed while on duty, he's in law enforcement. We were together for about one year. Shortly before he was killed we found out.

I feel very scared right now because I am aware how bad it is for a child to be raised with no father figure and I am considering an abortion. My brain tells me it's the right thing to do, but my feelings are telling me to keep it because it's his child.

I don't think I'll be ready to date for a long like after this, but I know I need to start working on myself again. I'm just scared that good men will stay away from me if I have a child.

Is there any women who where single and pregnant or used to be single mothers who could give me some advice?

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[–]VigilantRedRoosterLate 40s | LTR 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

This isn't a decision that should be made based on who might date you in the future. Let's put that reason aside for the moment.

More pertinent, how tight of a support network do you have? Family, in-laws, extended family, friends, flexible employer, secure housing situation moving forward?

[–]historystudent_[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I have not told his parents about the baby yet. My parents know about it. I am sure his parents would help out but I dont want to tell them that and then get an abortion. My parents would help me out and I know that I will have the resources to support the child. I'll get maternity leave pay when I have the child.

The lawyers and the the person running his estate are still deciding where his belonging go, I know I am going to get the house, but I don't know if I get his life insurance. Money is going to be tight soon for me, and that is worrying too.

[–]Grumpi83 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

It sounds like you would have a much more robust support structure than most single mothers.

Also ask yourself, what would he want? Assume he was alive but totally out of the picture for whatever reason. Would he want you to abort his child or raise it?

[–]VigilantRedRoosterLate 40s | LTR 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

The lawyers and the the person running his estate are still deciding where his belonging go

If there's going to be another heir to his estate, that needs to be presented to the lawyers and trustee, like immediately! It's a total game changer to the probate process and bringing this forth after the estate is settled will limit your options.

As to the effect this might have on your future dating life, I reiterate: this should be the least of your worries. Since you're worried about it anyway, I'll tell you this: In the hierarchy of single moms in the sexual marketplace, the young widows fit somewhere near the apex of desirablility.