I've been lurking, and posting a bit here, so I thought I would share a true story of my last breakup.

For the record, I'm a working professional who has travelled a fair amount and lived in 4 countries. I speak 3 languages. When I talk about my last breakup, I'm talking about my wife of 10 years. After we officially divorced, we decided after a break to get back together again. This was all before finding MgTow.

So we're back together again (I mean after being divorced, not now), and things are going fairly well. But please if you want more horror stories I can start a series of these posts. This one is mild in comparison to the true horrors I had to endure. But I digress.

We're back to together and the last thing I remember was that fateful Monday morning. You see I had taken the day off work, and we had stuff to sort out. Stuff for me and I needed her help with it. To prove things were good, I will mention that the night before we had gone to see a movie together. In my mind, perhaps finally some stability.

But no. So I wake up and she tells me "The plans have changed". She had rearranged the day slightly which means she would help me earlier. After that she wanted to take her Mom places and go get her hair cut.

All of this is fine, and I'm digesting this news slowly with coffee, and since even though I took the day off work, I still actually have work to do. I tell her. Ok once we're done with my stuff, I'm going home to work (yup I work from home).

Immediately she jumps in with "Someone needs to be here to look after the dogs". I asked her if her brother was in the house. Because he's always there (Again if you want the full story, ask).

So here is how the conversion went - almost verbatim.

me: "Won't X (brother) be at home?"

her: "Yes but only till 2pm"

me: "Ok and what time are you coming home?"

her: "3pm"

me: "Ok so the dogs will be home alone for 1 hour, it's not a problem right?"

her: "Ok, so I tell you what, if you don't want to help me with this. I won't help you with your thing, infact I don't want you coming around here anymore, this is the last time and we're finished".

me: "What, over what exactly, that the dogs can't be alone for 1 hour?"

her: "That's it , we're finished"

Now at this point, I lost it, because it feels like she can throw away or destroy the relationship over very minor disagreement.

So I said "You really are a stupid fucking bitch, you know that".

I also asked her "How can she do this?" and I asked her "Are you fucking kidding me?" - well you get the picture. I was upset, and I freaked out - verbally.

BUT HERE'S THE CATCH (and the title of the post) : The logic.

So later once the dust had slightly settled we spoke over the phone about this. And except now she claimed, she is ending the relationship because "No one deserves to be spoken to that way".

"I was extremely disrespectful, and for no reason".

I was also accused of being stupid many times for not understanding the point.

So I said "Ok you're smart, or you claim to be, so let's walk through this chronologically".

At which point we discussed, who said what and when. Once she realised I actually had a point, she just changed the subject, or refused to play along or give me even a bone.

&TLDR: She broke up with me because I wouldn't look after her dogs for an hour. I called her a stupid fucking bitch after this, later she claimed the reason she broke up with me is because I was disrespectful to her.