One, totally agree that sex becomes less frequent as you go on, that's natural; bills, life and bullshit. But, I've ALWAYS, tried to add spice. Go on dates, actually, get dolled up and dates, like a nice dinner and movie. Or, watch porn together, whatever you are comfortable with to try new things, or just laugh. My point, largely in this comment, is that I'm know narcissist females (and men, no fucking doubt on that, but since this about a woman thinking attractive is causing psychological issues ) MAYBE (and again, this is reddit, I have zero other facts) is many woman I know, simply put little effort into what the guy wants, just because being 'sexy' is enough. Like, just showing up is their only task. Which is a bullshit way to think that you would still find sex interesting. Personally, I LOVE being a committed relationship because I learn my partners kinks, my kinks with them, and we can foreplay for hours or get quickies in at lunch. It takes work from both parties; and sexist as it seems, the more attractive the woman, the less work they want to put into it (in just my opinion)