lawd, idk where to start with this. everything you said is totally loaded. I'm about to head out and meet my boopiece, so I'll summarize quickly.

But he is seriously abusing his naturally superior strength, and is undeniably less of a good person, less of a good husband.

This is a bias. YOUR BIAS. If you don't want that, fine. but some women don't mind a man being physical towards her. Some women THRIVE AND GET TINGLES from a man who is physically dominant in that way. Reserve your judgments.

And no good father would set such a bad example for their children, teaching kids that violence solves problems will only lead to a more violent society.

EXAMPLE: So men should never encourage their children to join the military? What do people think the military does all day? They ain't rescuing bunnies in the Middle East, I'll you that right now. Personally, I think some women out here in these streets need a good slap or two (maybe even a backhand) to calm the hell down. Women acting out of pocket is not helping families at all. I think society demands a more masculine energy and strength, not less of it.

so "man up" is a more effective way to discourage asocial behaviors.

The only time I hear men say "man up" is when they are encouraging men to not be cucks, to accept their responsibilities as husbands and/or fathers, or to stop behaving like women. WOMEN use "man up" when they want men to respond to things like women would. Men and women arent' the same.

Why would you want to live in a society that encourages domestic violence?

What a SJW tactic. I can't even.