I have by realizing there is so much more to life than being desired by a woman. I can be desired by a lot of friends in a non-romantic way which has significantly improved my self esteem. My friends think I'm funny, smart and always want to hang out with me. I know do a lot of sports and go hiking all the time. Not having a girlfriend allows me to do this because I don't have to worry about whether a girl will be able to handle a challenging hike (i know for a fact that none of my exes would've). I can dress however I want without worrying what women will think because I don't give a shit about them. I now wear $5 shirts that are comfortable, collect my sweat and allow me to move freely. These are a few things that I could come up in the top of my head but there are plenty more.

Either way I've never felt for free after I detached myself from the desire to be wanted by women. I remember spending hundreds of dollars on designer clothing, going on boring ass dates in parks and movies and always having an empty wallet.