My at the time gf started taking hormones about a week ago. On Saturday, she sat me down and told me she just wanted to be friends/didn't think we would work out. After lots of crying and talking, I came away with it being that she wants children and would like to raise them vegan/Wiccan. I have stated that I would like children too but not right now, however she wants them like yesterday. The conversation has been about adopting, but neither of us are in a place to adopt right now. I am trained in social services and know that if we showed up in our current situation asking to adopt, we would be laughed out of the room, due to our employment and living situations, as well as the fact we are in one of the least LGBT friendly states in the midwest. Note that days before we broke up, she and I had been at a wedding and talking about how what we would like our wedding to look like, who would be there, etc. I'm not sure about the vegan/Wiccan thing as we haven't really talked about it a lot.

A number of people I have talked with have said that they don't know if this will be a permanent thing and that it seems like she might just be adjusting to the new hormones. I understand that hormones can have an effect on things like this, but I'm not sure if that is the whole reason or what. We have also been friends since we were in middle school so I also want to continue to provide support but I'm not sure how.

I guess I don't have any direct questions, I'm just full of a lot of thoughts and was hoping that people might be able to give me some insight.