I definitely agree with your overall point, yeah. My husband and I have probably made hundreds of inconsequential compromises like this over the few years we've been married. I'm seeing a lot of people alarmed at the idea of having to follow the "rules" your SO makes for you, but honestly what jumped out at me was kind of the opposite side of the coin. If you both genuinely want to make each other happy and you're communicating well, it doesn't seem to me like these things ever rise to the significance of "house rules." For example, I know that my husband is a light sleeper and has a hard time falling asleep if it's the slightest bit noisy, even if it's just white noise. (He used to sleep with earplugs in, but when my health problems started to include issues with aspiration/choking at night he started just putting in one earplug so he could still hear enough to feel confident that he'd hear when I was aspirating and wake up right away to help me in an emergency.) So, knowing that he can't sleep well with noise and that he only wears one earplug now, every night after he kisses me and says "goodnight," I hit the mute button on my laptop so I won't accidentally go to a website that autoplays something or whatever and bother him. He never had to make a rule for me to do this because it was just natural for me to do it as a courtesy to my husband. If I think about the compromises he and I have made for each other, I'd say 70% or more fall into this category of stuff we just naturally started doing for each other because both of us prioritize the other's happiness highly. The rest are mostly compromises that we did have to outright bring up in conversation, but it was never to the point of making a rule, per se. I'm not sure I'm explaining this well, but my point is that I think ideally in a marriage there really shouldn't be a need for a list of rules to impose on your spouse.