The WM that were with AF were 99% geeky short/skinny. Even my friend commented on it and saw some I didn't even catch.

So I think the myth that Asian women are the "most desirable" as indicated by OKCupid and AreYouInterested is being shattered. Those studies vaulted the image of AF because it implied men desired them most; men replied most often to AF's messages. I think it should be clear that people are confusing desirability with availability. Especially to low-tier basement dwelling whites. Of course the response rate would be up if the fish were biting - and biting pretty much everything that has pigskin. In our "hookup culture", do we really think men are looking for their 'wife' on OKCupid (this isn't eharmony). AFs have to realize, if you shack up with bottom-tier white dorks en masse, you are destroying the image of Asian women everywhere. When you do this, individually and collectively you look ridiculous. (I feel sorry for the many good AFs that if not date Asian, at least do not date down in order to "date white" - whose image suffers from the pigchasers; they don't deserve the stereotype that pigchasers live down to).

You may think you're a "princess" for dating white; but when America sees you dating one pimply-faced un-confident white loser after another- people really start to wonder about the "beauty" and "appeal" of Asian women. If you were, why would you date that way?? If you're so beautiful and you have such a feminine, alluring personality- why are you dating the white reject pile that white women discarded? If you don't think of yourself as inferior and desperate to fit in, don't act like it. When people see that the white man you're dating has no strong masculine qualities or that many positive qualities whatsoever, and the only thing that sets him apart is that he's "white", what else are they supposed to think about you and what kind of person you are?

I walked in on some indie movies. The final one was a white boy power fantasy where the AM bosses around the white boy for creeping up on his AF girlfriend. White boy gets diagnosed with mental problems and gets medication. At the end, the guy is obviously tripped out, draws a character and you see his drawn character (came to life) walk towards the AMAF couple. It shifts perspectives and the character is actually the white boy. He stabs and kills the AM (in this scene it shifts between him and his character). He hugs the AF as the AF stands there in total shock. He walks out and the other students/faculty were horrified. When the credits were rolling, I was audibly upset, said it was offensive and walked out saying they should delete it from the HD.

This is important because this is the world we live in. When people say white bias has more power to harm because they're the ones with power, people often struggle to conceptualize what is meant by power. So here's one definition: they decide. Even something simple like who decided what we see when we go to a convention like Comic-Con. For all those happy to jettison so-called "political correctness", just remember when whites can finally totally disregard how their words and actions affect non-whites, you will see much more of this subtle derogation. So keep championing the Alt-Right crusade against "political correctness" (which should be called white self-restraint) and see where that takes us. Our moral authority as minorities is a key tool we use to rein in white nonsense; those willing to relinquish it because of a few misuses are INSANE.

Ate at Chipotle before coming home. 1st service BM was rude and visibly angry, 2nd service Mexican lady was pretty nice, 3rd service, the cashier, WF was rude as she did not give me a tray and did not push my food forward. My friend got perfect service and he was ahead of me. Contrast this with Five guys earlier where service was a Mexican guy both order and pickup, perfect service and courteous.

Sometimes talk as though service workers were saints and we should all be grateful. They are just people. Some are good, some aren't. Unfortunately, service workers, by virtue of their job, engage routinely in Displacement. They are treated rudely occasionally, often by middle-aged white men and women, they store that anger - and because for practical reasons, cannot react; they wait for what they perceive is a "safe target" of their anger. And it seeps out against that person. This is not conscious; this is a time-honored subconscious human behavior. Who they decide is a target is based on social status hierarchy rankings that are determined well ahead of the particular interaction you have with them.

Black men and women are often the recipients of this mistreatment and then unfortunately, due to displacement, end up forwarding the anger to whoever they think won't cause them a problem. Unfortunately, we Asians are on the receiving end of these micro-aggressions - and given the subtlety of it, the lack of true intent - it is very difficult to address. Personally, I believe the answer is training and accountability across the service sector, of this dynamic. Ultimately, there has to be an Uber-like system where customers and service-workers rate each other; and ultimately the racial dimension must be accounted for; that is service workers are penalized more severely if they mistreat minorities (whether the service worker is white or a minority). Installing that system has been a dream of mine; who knows if it will come to fruition. Until that day- like it or not- we just have to let these micro-interactions bother us less.