This may be the wrong place to ask but, my wifes ex husband contacted us last night asking if we would write a letter to the child support offices and say that we want to temporarily end receiving child support checks. His reason is that every time he goes to work he says he gets sick. He was diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis and his trying to get unemployment. He says when he goes to work the Ulcerative colitis hurts his bones (which I dont see how ). And also says the Child Support agency is threatening to take away his vehicles (which I have never heard of them doing before) and they were going to freeze his bank accounts.

In the 11 years I have known him, he has never kept a job longer then 6 months and child support checks are always very scarce but we have managed to live without them. Though they do help when they do come in. Often times the child that his his goes without because we do not have that extra money each month.

The question is, what should we do? Should we show grace and mercy? It would seem that every time we have done so in the past, it has come back to bite us. Or should we show tough love and tell him we will not write the letter. He actually wouldnt ask himself, he sent his wife to ask us for him. Which puts her in a weird position AND it puts us in a weird position. So now if we say no, she is going to see it as us taking away from her children as well. Thoughts? Advice?