Sigh. This is the cost of living in a society– a society you BENEFIT from. Even if you went to go live off-the-grid in some unincorporated scrubland, collecting berries to eat and never, ever relying on goods and services society has raised other people to be in a position to provide you, you would have already benefitted from being raised in a country that used tax dollars to provide you with the tools you needed to survive reasonably comfortably up until this point. Other taxpayers subsidize the cost of services you need, too. It is delusional to think of yourself as some island unto yourself, unsupporting and unsupported by others. And I really hate to sound like some kind of pro-natalist but the truth is, most of those kids will undeniably grow up to pay taxes into the system that will help to pay for your roads, your Social Security, your fire and medical services. I'm not sympathetic to this libertarian "got mine, FU" attitude, and I wonder if you apply it selectively to child-related issues, or whether you have this selfish and shortsighted attitude to taxation across the board.

I have a similar point to make about your insurance premiums. First, it's not your money; it's the insurance provider's money. You pay a infinitesimal fraction of the whole and cannot reasonably claim ownership over other people's medical care. Other policy-holders subsidize the cost of your treatments too. Does everyone holding a policy have to agree with every medical treatment you undergo? If they think your medical needs aren't valid, is it their right to ask that they be denied to you? Do other people's moral stances on reproductive rights apply to you, or do you just want yours to apply to them?

Finally, you may claim to respect your friends but you do not use the language of respect when you talk about their choices. Look at the words and phrases you use to describe them. Would you want them to read your post here? If they did, how would they then feel about you? Can you honestly say that they would feel respected by you?