My boss when I was sailing had this situation with his wife, call him joe. Some guys on another ship sailed with her, and because they loved joe, so they basically bitch slapped her everytime she tried to CC in the foreign ports. I'm positive she just hid it better, there's a set amount of places you will find coworkers, just avoid Dukes in Hawaii or Cowgirls in seattle, and no one will know.

They had a great life, and financial security. They are divorced now, because she wasn't haaaapy.

Now she's dating another guy, we call him french joe, they look and act almost identical.

Best bet, since I'm sure you have good comradare with the boys (except the one who will mow your lawn) Have a talk with the ones you trust. If something happens, just tell me, don't sugar coat it, tell me right away. If they have any desire to keep you from being a story that you guys tells about the cucked master corporal, they will do it.

As for the wife. Being how she's a harybag, I'd go with direct talk on this one. I mean, really, what does she have to do to stay in your life?

• Stay off pole while you're gone
  
• Don't spend all the money
  
• Don't turn into a dependapotamus

Pretty fucking simple. The duties of a deployed wife/husband are so small, you'd expect it to have a better success rate. She's freaking out for the same reason the new recruits are before the first day of basic. They don't know what to expect. Have you taught drill? Do you remember the process? Same thing here. Explain the movement, show the movement, then have them do the movement. Assess, correct, and repeat until perfect.

You're nuking shit tests, great. Is she getting to a place where she reckognizes that her method doesn't work? If so, are you showing her the correct 'drill movement'

Also, that mentality you have at work with your subordinates? Bring a little of it home. I've had to escort guys to cells, where they were immediately strip searched and yelled at for weeks. They always would cry in their cell on day one. I didn't feel bad about driving them down. Hell, the ones I liked I would even stop at the gas station, buy em a red bull and some smokes before we went, would tell the guys I got lost. There was a process, they did shit, they got their due process, and the consequences are there. Take em like a man, and we'll be there for you when you get out.

Do what you have to do, and stop feeling bad about it. No one wants to marry a faggot.

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Oh, as for your wish for her to be a SAHM? I've seen those types, the ones who leave as soon as they are married. They marry the chiefs, not their peers. I've seen 3 types of women who join the service:

• Dad was in the forces
• I am leaving my husband/boyfriend
• I have to take care of my child, alone

If you got any one of those categories, and you're dating within your rank, then don't expect her to leave any time soon. 2 will fuck anything that moves, usually gets fat and settles down, but civies don't date women in the service. 3 tends to be a lifer, as does 1. 1 has the benefit of it being her life, so she doesn't have an alternative to wish for, so she isn't as enamored by the alpha cock and 'navy hot' phenominon