Look, i completely understand what you are saying. The first time I came on reddit, I was shaken by the hate and I took it upon myself to show people to be nice and respectful. Needless to say, I tried to put an end to some hate, and got wrecked by some aggressive trolls. It really hurt my feelings and disturbed me that people would chose to hurt people like that on purpose. Then I realised that some people are just stupid, they only want to make people feel like shit to feel better about themselves. Since then, when people are this aggressive with me, I just laugh( really) because to me, their actions show how immature and loosers they are. I would never want to be them or around them, there is nothing I could envy to these people so why give a fuck about why they think? Building this tough skin is very hard tho, it takes a lot of self confidence, which is often lacking when we are younger, taking in consideration our struggles as queer folk. My personnal advice, is that if you constantly hurt on this sub, you should do something about it because you dont deserve this. The culprits are the haters, but in this case ( internet) we can do absolutely nothing about them. This gives two options in my opinion. Either you leave reddit until you are ready, or you either stay on reddit and try to use the hate to build yourself a bigger self-confidence ( like I did). Hope this helped you.