Here are a few basic examples that show immediate dominance.

• I will put my arm around her shoulders.

• In front of a party I will yell out to my wife for whatever, Be on my beer pong team, grab me a beer you sexy fucking woman, HEY! Your butt looks good in those pants I get loud, everyone shuts the fuck up, and in front of the silent crowd, I embarrass my lady with love.

• I tell her No when that is how I feel and Yes when that is how I feel. I don't placate my response to her emotion.

• I will order for her if I know what she wants, or if I know there is something I want her to try.

• I will order her drinks whether she is at the table or in the bathroom, mixing it up - martini, cocktail, whatever I try to keep it stylish and cater it to what she likes.

• I fix shit that is broken

• I train her during PT

• I will hold her hand anytime anywhere. Other couples are separating, I try to keep it fresh and romantic like when we were teenagers.

• I break out into ballroom dance in the middle of anywhere, spinning her around. Whether it is the mall, the park, a party, where the fuck ever.

• I keep eye contact with her and those around me

• I refuse to cater my voice or actions to those around me

• I make my reality everyone's reality

• I openly game her friends, waitresses, chicks in general

• I drive when I know the weather sucks or there will be traffic

• I plan out vacations with her as well as surprising her from time to time

• I try to do something out of the blue once a week

• I keep her on her toes by remaining unpredictable and always improving

• I don't play yes man to anyone. (If you have seen the movie Daddy's Home with Ferrell and Wahlburg - Ferrell cannot sa no to anyone, even his wife's ex. Everything is yes and I don't do that - I don't break my back for everyone, only those truly in need and even then only if I view them to be worthy.)

• I listen to her and change my decision if she brings solid points to the table

• I treat her like a woman, I don't expect her to think or act like a man.

• I ensure she knows I recognize the little shit she does. Not by buying flowers, but by taking the kids to the playground and telling her to go get her nails done or by setting up a wine/paint night with her mom then telling her I've got the kids for the night.

• I don't hold the resentment so many men here let fester (that is weak - let it go and improve)

• I educate her - I've gotten her into stoicism as well as getting her to create checklists that show the goals she has and the steps she is taking to get there.

• I can cook and will cook maybe 1-2 times a week (made some bomb chicken parm last night)

• I set goals and complete them

• I keep my word and promises

• I ensure I am setting the bar from which she will measure other men and that I am continually raising that bar

• I dress well and give a shit about my appearance

• I look good naked

• I let her remain feminine, not expecting her to change the oil or mow the lawn, she decorates and cleans the house and that is cool with me

• I teach my son how to be a man and treat my daughter like a little lady

• I protect the weak and stand up for what is right and not what is popular

• I build my reputation and refuse to reward failure

• I'm not a weaksauce fuck viewing her as an anchor - she is fuel for my improvement and she feels that.

Dominant means being loved, feared, and respected all at once. It means owning every action, even if that action is picking flowers for your daughter.

Dominant > Domineering - know the difference.

EDIT To add to my point on frame:

Building your personal frame is not the same as building the frame of a house. You are reconstructing your reality, you are setting your own standard. For Example: In my frame weakness is not expected nor is it accepted from those around me. Wild or romantic sex daily is normal & Dads are NOT expected to be weak/fat- they are fit & leaders. When you are around me, you are in my frame and I hold you to my standard and treat you accordingly.