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Husband says not to speak to wife? (self.legaladvice)

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I have been friends with this woman for 5+ years now. She recently moved in with someone and subsequently married them. Now, he's called me and asked me not to speak or contact him or her. Afaik, this was not her decision. Obviously I won't be speaking to him, but can he legally keep me from speaking to her?

Edit: I'm in Virginia

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[–]chrismichaels3000 44ポイント45ポイント  (1子コメント)

can he legally keep me from speaking to her?

No.

But, he can create lots of hassle for you which will likely create lots of strife in the new marriage.

[–]shhh_its_me 61ポイント62ポイント  (1子コメント)

No he can not control her actions.

But ask yourself why he asked. He may be a controlling potentially abusive jerk and your friend may need help sometime soon or you may be creeping on his wife and she doesn't know how to get rid of you.

[–]DylanBorrow[S] 10ポイント11ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'll take that into consideration. Thanks!

[–]swalsh411Quality Contributor 97ポイント98ポイント  (2子コメント)

Wow that marriage is showing a lot of promise already.

[–]mkizys 18ポイント19ポイント  (0子コメント)

We have no idea what type of conversations OP is having with this woman. It may be a warning sign of domestic abuse, or OP gives off a hint he wants to stick it in her.

[–]DiaboliAdvocatus 34ポイント35ポイント  (0子コメント)

You've got to cut off the friends early so they don't notice you are an abusive control freak before you've got the victim locked into your mind games.

[–]MelkorHimself 16ポイント17ポイント  (1子コメント)

Obviously I won't be speaking to him, but can he legally keep me from speaking to her?

Not without a no-contact order.

[–]DylanBorrow[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Makes sense to me. Danke

[–]jaspervalQuality Contributor 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

No; his desires aren't a legal no contact order. He'd have to request a restraining order; probably claiming some kind of harassment. The claim probably would hold up under any scrutiny, but the bar for a temporary order is very low.

On the plus side, VA doesn't recognize the tort of "alienation of affection"; so he likely couldn't sue you if she came running to you and divorced him.

[–]DylanBorrow[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Dunno about that second part, but I appreciate the help!

[–]firerosearien 10ポイント11ポイント  (7子コメント)

Without any other context, this behavior is a warning sign for domestic abuse. Tread carefully.

[–]Junkmans1 26ポイント27ポイント  (6子コメント)

Or OP is a stalker and her husband is legitimately looking out for her.

[–]DylanBorrow[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (5子コメント)

Thanks fire! Fortunately that's not the case Junkman.

[–]archangel087 17ポイント18ポイント  (2子コメント)

Exactly what a stalker would say. 😜

[–]part_time_nerd 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

You seem to know a lot about stalkers...

[–]archangel087 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

It comes from years of stalking them.

[–]The_Wyzard 4ポイント5ポイント  (2子コメント)

No, he cannot, because she is not an item of his property.

His behavior is classic abuser shit, though, so either she is going to leave him or stop being your friend.

[–]DylanBorrow[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

That's what I figured. Thanks!

[–]NobodyImportant13 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I've had women (not even necessarily women I'm dating) ask me to tell other guys to leave them alone before. It doesn't necessarily mean he is abusive. OP could just be missing all the hints and she isn't mature enough to say it outright.

If I were OP I would straight up tell her exactly what her husband said and ask her if she actually wants me to leave her alone.

[–]frostus_wx 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

Wow. This husband sounds really insecure. But no, there is no legal barrier for you talking with her.

[–]mkizys 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

What type of things do you talk about with the wife?

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Husband says not to speak to wife?

I have been friends with this woman for 5+ years now. She recently moved in with someone and subsequently married them. Now, he's called me and asked me not to speak or contact him or her. Afaik, this was not her decision. Obviously I won't be speaking to him, but can he legally keep me from speaking to her?