All right guys here's an update.

I posted a few months ago the ultimate shit test: my wife filing for divorce after (1) me awakening about 15 months ago and (2) reaching some kind of botched main event in late December when I told her fuck me or I'll get a GF. She chose to get an atty, go formal and go nuclear. Great.

The month of March has been the most shitty part of my adult life. She moved out, took kids with her unfortunately and it's been a bitter and of course expensive battle since. Youngest is only 11 months, nursing and of course since my soon to be ex has been a SAHM for +5 yrs the kids are her meal ticket and I am the monster that will pay, and has to really fight hard to see kids that I have been so close to and an active dad for since they were born. Through her (gay) atty and the shitty court system it all goes according to her plan to screw me and basically hold kids hostage from their dad unless I pay and suffer.

I won't go into more details- it really is a classic story. Guy marries in late twenties overlooking yellow flags, hopeful, becomes very beta, wakes up a few yrs in marriage, has some success in getting more sex, understands and raises SMV, even has several one night stands and rediscovers blow jobs (unfortunately outside marriage), then escalates at home with newfound balls perhaps at wrong time and too abruptly and here we are. As mentioned previously, if you wake up once swallowing red pill, make your changes slooooooowly, like changing direction while riding a horse. If you go quickly you upset the horse and it throws you over. In my case I likely did that and also the horse I'd say was a bad fit to begin with and I knew (but ignored ) it in my gut.

So anyway. Here's a glimpse of life on the other side:

1. Get ready to bleed cash fast and hard.
2. Reap the rewards of being in shape. I am hitting on every chick I like now and abundance mentality kicks ass. Life is amazing from that standpoint. James Marshall and Liam McRae are my new role models. Life is fucking short - go hit on a woman that you like.
3. Stay in marital home if you can. Don't. Move. In. An. Apartment. Let her fucking move.
4. Be the best dad you can be- goes without saying.
5. Stay busy and focused. Just bought a piano, learning how to play, am getting back in martial arts, working hard on being the prize. That's the only thing you can do.
6. Treat ex with kid gloves, especially when kids are involved; let atty do the ugly fighting. 48 fucking laws of power apply. Get back to being Mr. Nice Guy in direct interactions as much as possible. It's fucking diplomacy now and you're at war. Read blogs like men's divorce forum for custody tips.
7. The sea of pussy is there. I picked a gal at a kids toy store: turns out she was 17. (Of course I said call you on your birthday). I am banging a (married) woman now who is 42 or something. Classic blue pill beta hubby who gets fat and watches Tv. Wife runs household. Has tons of sexual fantasy which I deliver. What else is new.

The divorce in a way is the greatest gift my soon to be ex could give me. Everytime I get frustrated and mad over some divorce issue I remind myself of that. Everytime I go to court or deal with atty bullshit I think of this as being just a virus that will pass. It's like having to puke or diarrhea during a 24h bug. It happened sooner than I had anticipated as she filed first. But in the long run I am way better off and will be way more at peace with myself. Of course kids suffer the most and thankfully our oldest is 5 so we can all build good memories from here on out. The time I have had with them since February had been a lot less than before, but the quality and the connection have been by far the strongest. It's great to be in charge without a "first officer" constantly running interference.

Liberating. Short term pain but in grand scheme of things it's way for the better. Better later than never. I see so many plugged in married men and it's disgusting. The truly happy balanced (arguably red pill ) marriages are few in America. The divorce rate is 40-50%. But I am wondering if you add the status quo unhappy ones, what would the good marriage rates be?

Anyway thanks for reading and good luck.

Ah and my last piece of unsolicited advice: get off Reddit once you get the idea, go do something.