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"No, you're boring me"...update (self.marriedredpill)

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[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR 9ポイント10ポイント  (12子コメント)

so am I still boring?

This is a basic shit test. Women only shit test men they are sexually interested in. The proper response is to pass the test. Agree and amplify is your go-to respnse. You let her off the hook way, way to easily when you could have acted deliberately coy and suggested a few dirty (non-boring) things that you plan to try next.

Notice how YOU are framing good sex- SHE cums buckets, SHE was eager. Totally normal for a guy but I find it interesting. Good sex is when SHE cums hard. Why is that?

[–]jonny_napalm[S] 6ポイント7ポイント  (6子コメント)

Good sex is when SHE cums hard. Why is that?

Starfish sucks.

[–]What_is_real_anymoreUnplugging 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

It does. I feel like a chump when I cum first, and she doesn't finish. Like it was duty sex. I'd say if I don't give her an orgasm, my brain thinks sh's going to branch swing. My distaste for starfish is a hypergamy defense. If I didn't care, I would pump and dump.

[–]MgFeSiMarried 7ポイント8ポイント  (2子コメント)

The answer to starfish is caveman. If she doesn't want to engage and just lay there, that's my opportunity to crank up the intensity. 9 times out of 10, the starfish goes away. I've started viewing starfish as less a sign that she's a boring, disinterested, lazy, lousy lover, and more of an opportunity (invitation from her) to take her from frozen to melting. It's a challenge. I like challenges.

[–]What_is_real_anymoreUnplugging 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hmmm... Starfish as the final shit test...

[–]LaRedPill 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I like your point of view.

[–]FearDearg2015Married- MRP MODERATOR 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

And, she definitely wasn't "faking it", right?

[–]jonny_napalm[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

And, she definitely wasn't "faking it", right?

Can't fake a waterfall, lol. Let alone several.

[–]PersaeusMarried 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

so am I still boring?

This is a basic shit test.

Seems to be the consensus in the thread, but I have to admit I saw comfort test when I read post. Can you explain why this is a congruence test of his frame?

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

If she said it in a whiny, pleading, supplicating or desperate voice it would probably be a comfort test.

However, it is more likely she said it in a coy, teasing voice, knowing that she was not boring but rather seeking validation for her superior position.

By accepting her frame on this you have set the bar for her and that is as high as it will ever go.

[–]PersaeusMarried 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

By accepting her frame on this you have set the bar for her and that is as high as it will ever go.

I see.....and I have some work to do.

[–]jonny_napalm[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Agree it was a shit test. I thought I did alot better that I would have previously by (1) not invalidating my comment, and (2) not validating her but instead her actions. Any thoughts on how I could have done better?

[–]druganswerUnplugging 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I saw it as somewhat of a comfort test too. I would have given positive reinforcement but I think BPP had a good idea with promoting further "exploration." I think his explanation below is great.