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GF going to Vegas? (self.asktrp)

gravure45 が 投稿

So my LTR just informed me that her BFF might be inviting her on a trip to Vegas for a couple days, and also picking up the tab for the trip.

Now immediately my gut told me some bad shit might be going down here. But I'm also prone to jealousy already so I want to check that here.

I've never been, but I know the kind of shit that goes down in Vegas. It's got me worried. On top of that, BFF is a huge sloot from the stories I've heard, but also apparently super in love with her current guy and getting engaged.

So it seems my only plays here are to break up, or "trust" her not to end up with dicks in her, or tell her fuck no you're not going (which seems like the worst option if I stay with her).

Even if she doesn't cheat, I'll have a hard time believing her.

What's my move here?

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[–]bmer92 16ポイント17ポイント  (4子コメント)

Tolerating an off girls night once every few months to a bar. Yeah thats cool (with me atleast) Idc if dudes hit on my girl we make a game of it. Sometimes I give them pointers if shes out with me. But vegas. alone. With a slut friend. Yeah that aint girls night bro shes gonna get fucked gurantee it. Prob gonna hit up a strip club with her girl get trashed and gamble. Women are like water and since shes with a trashy friend shes gonna take on her form. Sorry this isnt what you wanted to hear. Best of luck

[–]Cookiest [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Seconded

[–]gravure45[S] [スコア非表示]  (2子コメント)

So should I dump her for even bringing it up? I mean, is she testing me here or is it beyond that?

[–]cheeky_throwaway101 [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Ghost the bitch. Ignore her, don't giver her any closure. Block her on your phone. It is the ultimate way to completely gain some respect.

[–]bmer92 [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I'd suggest telling her Vegas with a friend is something a single woman does and if she's going to do single woman things she should change her relationship status don't back down don't explain simply state it. If she's even considering this she doesn't respect you but it's worth a shot. If you dump her don't give her a story or anything just delete her on everything and ghost her. Don't give her closure maybe she'll learn respect for the next man

[–]verify_account 12ポイント13ポイント  (0子コメント)

Reposting this:

You: "Hmph."

Her: "What?"

You: "I just didn't think you were that kind of girl."

Her: "You asshole... blah blah cunty blah" - Next her with no drama supplied.

Her: "No, it's not going to be like that... blah blah whiney blah" - Soft next her when she comes back from her trip.

Her: "Well, if you don't think I should go, I won't... blah blah blah luring you into unintended commitment blah" - Mentally demote her to plate status, and go "radio silent" for three days.

Her: "I know, right? Those girls are crazy. I'd rather go to Vegas with you instead." - Test passed. Don't take her to Vegas; take her to Napa Valley.

[–]gantgui 5ポイント6ポイント  (4子コメント)

  1. She might be lying just to see how you will react.

  2. If its true immediately downgrade to plate. Rmember ''what happens in vegas stays in vegas''.

[–]gravure45[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

Yeah, its still up in the air. So I'm not sure if she's trying to gauge my reaction. What should I say about it?

[–]gantgui 6ポイント7ポイント  (2子コメント)

I would say ''I respect the fact that you want to go to vegas, but personally going to vegas is not something i accept from someone im in a long term relationship with. If you choose to go I simply cant stay in a relationship with you.''

Shows two things: you are willing to walk away if she does. Solid boundaries. not needy. 2: If shes testing to see if you care, it shows that you do care yet you are not supplicating ,needy or jealous. Being jealous and needy would be arguing telling her not to go without setting your boundaries in this case you are setting boundaries by telling her the relationship over if she does go since its behavior you simply do no accept. If your behavior is generally redpill i guarantee your girl will be extremely happy to hear this and shell say'' youre right im not going''. If your behaviour was blue pill and youre a constantly jelous guy shell go either way.

[–]spassa [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

"I just didn't think you were that kind of girl."

i think the above line from verify_account is golden:

  • you don't act buthurt.
  • you show her you know exactly what vegas means
  • and that you disapprove it.
  • you avoid being the one that denies her the fun

you dont tell her she can't go. its her part to realize that. . girls are about emotions. even if you are right and itotherwise you will always be the one to blame for her boring life. you pressure flip and gauge her reaction. don't say anything after that though.

let her hamster spin and wait til the day comes. in the meantime, be more distant to show her, that you won't give her attention, if she acts like she does. if she asks if you wanne meat, say you are busy - got no time for her. don't tell her why you are acting like that, let her hamster spin. don't acknowledge that you are cutting her short if she says so. hold your frame and don't explain yourself. if she doesn't change her mind when the day has come, tell her it will be over when she comes back or that you will also have your fun when she is away *wink* and plate her.

if she is a good worthy girl, she will realize what to do way before that point.

EDIT: i realize i didn't even say something to the guy i answered to. i think your approach is to confrontational. going nuclear like you do with:

''I respect the fact that you want to go to vegas, but personally going to vegas is not something i accept from someone im in a long term relationship with. If you choose to go I simply cant stay in a relationship with you.''

even if it works, will kill your LTR in the long run. in the future you are always that guy. her girlfriends will disapprove of you and she will start to resent you. whenever she is angry, she will rationalize everything she does with the moment 2 years ago where you forbid here to go to vegas with her friend.

[–]Darkredsubmarine [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I personally wouldn't word it as an ultimatum. If she ends up not going, she'll resent this and use it against you time and time again. I'd just say something along the lines of "do what you want to do". If she goes, downgrade. If she doesn't, as you were.

Edit: by "use it against you", I mean, she'll bring it up and nag and moan. It could grow tiresome.

[–]nastynickdr [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

change title to "Plate going to Vegas"

[–]TomFoo 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

OP, you are the prize. You also sound young. Take this as an opportunity to break up with LTR, meet new chicks, and just enjoy life. Or rather, allow girls to enjoy you, the prize. Being mindful of this LTR/baggage and her travel plans is a monstrous waste of precious time and energy.

[–]flatox [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Don't question your gut feeling.

[–]RedditAdminsSuck_88 [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

If she is not taking you along then it's almost certain she is going to do shit that you wouldn't be OK with. That's what girls do whether it be a girls trip to Vegas or just a girls night out on the town.

[–]harkrank [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Even the idea is completely unacceptable and I am surprised you are even entertaining the idea of keeping her as your girlfriend if she wants to go to Vegas. Be happy she showed her true colors now and not later when you were more invested in her.

[–]covertpenguin3390 [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

So a few years ago, I would've said "well I would want to go to Vegas with my friends if they invited me for FREE, so I guess I can't really expect her to deny the trip either", more mature and experienced me has actually had this talk with my current LTR about the topic in general and she was actually the one to bring up that there just are situations you don't put yourself in if you're in a relationship. You seem pretty young and I'm sure she is too, so naturally she's going to want to go with and you can't really blame her, sounds like a bad ass trip. But an unacceptable trip for your relationship which she obviously doesn't value as much as going out to have fun. She'll try and rationalize it that it's not one of those trips and her hamster probably span so fast she actually believes it but let's be real, if I let you run wild in Vegas for free with one of your pussy slayer bros, while you may not fuck, you damn well know at the very least you'd be pushing the boundaries and at least making out with some drunk skanks at the clubs. And when girls go they're even worse since young girls generally rely on finding guys to hang out with to have fun since they don't gamble and stuff like we do. Use the advice from everyone above, if she goes, just cut her off. Will save you so much heart ache in the future. And btw this is coming from a guy who always tries to give the "take TRP with a grain of salt" advice and likes to give the other perspective, but this situation is just too black and white. If you weren't so attached (I don't mean that in a negative way) I would say just demote to plate but you already have jealousy issues so that won't work for you. Good luck.

[–]EvilNando [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

shes getting fucked , act accordingly

[–]Titan_Coeus [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

"Go to Vegas enjoy yourself, my girlfriend doesn't go to Vegas though"

what do you mean?

"I'm just saying my girlfriend doesn't go to Vegas by herself".

-walk away

Remember girlfriend is a title that anyone can fill.