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[–]throwaway12345678100[S] • -7 points• -6 points• -5 points  (16 children)
I'm not overweight, and I don't believe in God, and most importantly, i'm not seeking validation from white males that they find me attractive or acceptable.
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[–]Chewiemuse • 2 points• 3 points• 4 points  (10 children)
You seem to be harboring hate for white guys a lot in this thread are you sure you're not projecting?
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[–]throwaway12345678100[S] • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (9 children)
Preferences equal hate? Cause that doesn't seem to be the case when y'all write dissertations on here about us being unattractive
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[–]Chewiemuse • -1 points• 0 points• 1 point  (0 children)
I personally don't find African American women that have certain facial features attractive. And I'm in to pale skin to tanned skin girls that's just my preference. Istill my preference it's no ingrained black hate or anything from the 1800's and it isn't some systematic white privileged brainwashed preference either. I have seen some very attractive black girls and if I was single is probably ask them out but the majority I just don't find attractive.that doesn't mean because I don't find someone sexually attractive or visually appealing that automatically I hate them. If I felt that way I would have no guy friends or be able to socially interact with anyone because I'd hate everyone that I don't get a boner over.
The world isn't black and white. Everyone has their sexual preference. I'm sure you wouldn't want to date some overweight Asian dude who's 5'5 does that mean you hate all short men who are overweight or just Asians? No.
I never said black girls are unattractive I've actually said the opposite. A black girl can be attractive in the general eye and I just myself subjectively think she's not attractive. Doesn't mean my opinion should make her think that much lower of herself. Also if you were say. Zoe from the movie avatar (fuck I can't remember her name lol) but you had this attitude I would have stopped messaging you by now. You need to fix yourself before you start worrying about other people's opinions
And btw /r/blackladies is an echo chamber they are just going to spoon feed you the all white men are racist you go girl mentality that's going to drag you down even more and make you hate people more and project your own self loathing on other people. Be proud of yourself
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[–]Chewiemuse • -1 points• 0 points• 1 point  (7 children)
I personally don't find African American women that have certain facial features attractive. And I'm in to pale skin to tanned skin girls that's just my preference. my preference it's no ingrained black hate or anything from the 1800's and it isn't some systematic white privileged brainwashed preference either. I have seen some very attractive black girls and if I was single is probably ask them out but the majority I just don't find attractive.that doesn't mean because I don't find someone sexually attractive or visually appealing that automatically I hate them. If I felt that way I would have no guy friends or be able to socially interact with anyone because I'd hate everyone that I don't get a boner over.
The world isn't black and white. Everyone has their sexual preference. I'm sure you wouldn't want to date some overweight Asian dude who's 5'5 does that mean you hate all short men who are overweight or just Asians? No.
I never said black girls are unattractive I've actually said the opposite. A black girl can be attractive in the general eye and I just myself subjectively think she's not attractive. Doesn't mean my opinion should make her think that much lower of herself. Also if you were say. Zoe from the movie avatar (fuck I can't remember her name lol) but you had this attitude I would have stopped messaging you by now. You need to fix yourself before you start worrying about other people's opinions
And btw /r/blackladies is an echo chamber they are just going to spoon feed you the all white men are racist you go girl mentality that's going to drag you down even more and make you hate people more and project your own self loathing on other people. Be proud of yourself
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[–]throwaway12345678100[S] • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (6 children)
You did exactly what I did. A dissertation on why we'd are so unattractive, meanwhile calling me racist for not liking y'all
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[–]Chewiemuse • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (0 children)
I never said you were unattractive nor did I say you as a people are unattractive
I said and I'll put it in bold for you
I SUBJECTIVELY AM NOT USUALLY (doesn't mean always)ATTRACTED TO BLACK WOMEN This does not mean all black women are not attractive, including you
I never said you were a racist either. I was hoping to give you an example of the flip side where say you see a guy who you aren't attracted to like say he's very overweight? Does that mean you hate all fat people? No not at all! Just you aren't sexually attracted to that. Are you following me?
You really really need to take a breath read what I saw thoroughly because you are jumping to extreme conclusions without reading everything I say. Hun you are probably gorgeous you don't need to beat yourself up over this look at yourself. You're getting mad at people for giving you the advice and answers you were looking for and twisting them in your head to mean what you want them to. Think about this please
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[–]throwaway12345678100[S] • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (3 children)
And there you go! Typical redditor :)
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[–]Chewiemuse • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (2 children)
Did you actually read what I wrote? You're on Reddit too..
Edit: you asked for answers and we aren't giving you the ones you want I get it but we're not gonna lie to you either to make you feel better
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[–]throwaway12345678100[S] • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (1 child)
I've learned to ignore those of you who call us racist for not worshipping melanin deficient men all the while writing dissertations on us being unattractive
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[–]Chewiemuse • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (0 children)
What I never said you were racist! If you chose to date within your own racial line because that's what your attracted to then ok date a black guy? You seem to squirm at the idea of interracial couples (I'm a full white Irishman dating a Latino girl) reading through your comments I mean if you're only attracted to black guys good on you that doesn't make you a racist unless you actually hate other races due to their race...
Again not once have I said you or black girls were unattractive I have said I personally and subjectively (this means in my personal opinion) do not find most black girls attractive
I never said you were racist for not dating white guys wtf
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[–]throwaway12345678100[S] • 4 points• 5 points• 6 points  (1 child)
k
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[–]thissubredditlooksco- 18F/MD • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (0 children)
he's the resident troll ignore him
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[–]appropriatelywhelmed- largely gruntled • 0 points• 1 point• 2 points  (1 child)
...someone else bringing up "white males" as if it's a bad thing?
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[–]wont_tell_i_refuse_- Most Valuable Player 😂 • -1 points• 0 points• 1 point  (0 children)
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