There are feminists who think porn is bad, but porn stars who call themselves feminists. My understanding of feminism is that it was largely against pornography. When I studied feminism philosophy and feminism in the media while at university, porn (and indirectly all things men enjoy sexually) was not seen very positively at all.

Then there is the hypocrisy of feminism, which says women should have free choice (good idea!) but if women choose not to be feminists or want to subscribe to traditional gender roles, they're lambasted for setting women back decades. But, I thought they had free choice? Then there are women who say feminism means different things to different people. It's very confusing when you get mixed messages like these. They also don't criticise each others extreme views, such as when prominent feminists said hateful things about men, which implies they are implicitly agreeing with their messages.

Have a look at what some celebrities say feminism is:

http://www.bustle.com/articles/121120-11-celebrities-define-feminism-in-their-own-unique-way

Then of course there's the fact that men can't really be feminists, just allies, which makes any men claiming to be feminists sadly mistaken. Men supporting it actually makes little sense because they get no say in what happens. Why men would support an organisation that isn't taking their views into account, I don't know.

This also seems contradictory: if women are equal to men then what more must men give up for them to be equal? If they are not equal then what other rights must they be given for them to feel equal? I am speaking in a western context. I don't see feminists flying to the middle east to protest against the treatment of women there. They usually condemn it from the safety and comfort of their middle to upper class homes.

If women want to be equal to men, then they also have to go through the bad stuff men go through. Feminism has convinced women that working a job is fun, but it sucks! In this paper by the National Bureau of Economic Research: http://www.nber.org/papers/w14969 it says that women's happiness has been declining steadily over the past few decades. In the 1970s women were (on average) happier than men, but there seems to be a crossover happening.

In this article by The Daily Mail: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1189894/Women-happy-years-ago-.html it says "'If you enjoy your job and it's a fulfilling career, that is a positive choice.. but if it's not, it's almost in some ways that we got it all, then found that actually it wasn't quite what we wanted.'

Now I am not trying to take away from women who enjoy their careers, but clearly something is wrong. Modern day feminism is just not doing the same things old school feminism has done. They fought for the right to vote, own property, have a job (which sucks but we have to live somehow) but modern day feminists are fighting boogeymen by comparison: manspreading, the patriarchy, slut shaming etc

The thing women are discovering now is that the world sucked for men too and they weren't living this perceived high life at all. Then they attack men even more, blaming men for their unhappiness. I am not saying things were perfect for women before, but there are consequences for your choices. Using feminism to avoid those choices - such as women enjoying a high paying job but still wanting job flexibility men NEVER had - is not realistic. I think the perception men were having a good life is part of the problem.

Heck, even Griffin Hansbury, a woman who became a man and took testosterone injections, explains that the perception he had of men when he was a woman was not true. It seems like feminism is attacking a straw man of the average male's experience when women are actually being hurt by how sucky the world is. Feminists seem to want to be exempt from the bad consequences and experiences while still reaping the benefits of having it all. That never happened for men. They also never had it all.

The world sucks for everyone: men, women and children (except the elite). Men have just had to suck it up longer without being able to complain about it.