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INSIGHTFULAdvice from Momma (self.RedPillWives)

SeasideJuneEarly 20s, LTR of 1 year が 投稿

My mother and I sat down today and chatted about my relationship. She's never been an advice giver, but tonight she earnestly offered me advice on how to treat my guy. It boiled down to this: Spoil him.

Yes sure I faithfully shower him with kisses, tell him how I love him, let him take the lead and emotionally support him. But the shirt he gave me lies in the back of my closet because I find it ugly. The dishware he gave me sits dusty because it's smaller than I'd like. I recently took home the leftovers from our meal out because, after all, I payed for more than half of it.

I've been harbouring so many expectations for him, keeping score and not appreciating every single thing... and hiding that fact even from myself.

I'm so grateful for my mother's advice. That's why I'm sharing it here.

No showing love only where I want to, no discarding his showings of love, no expectations, no grudges, no selfishness. I'll spoil him, spoil him absolutely rotten.

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[–]Sunhappy_DClate 20s | dating 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

I agree I think it's universally known that men want women who treat them like kings of their castle. Men go out into the world with very little support and they are asked to conquer it still. It's up to us, their ladies, to make them feel like they are great.

Mommas may irk us in childhood but sometimes they have solid advice once you're older and lived a few extra years :D Advice from my mother (not Anglo/European at all but still applies):

  • Don't get in a man's face. He will eventually hit you.
  • Men like food. Cook for him.
  • If you don't have children, work your hardest to look beautiful for him.
  • Marry a man with patience so that when you DO have children, he will be understanding about your changing figure while you lose the weight.
  • Don't cut your hair too short.
  • Be kind to his mother.

[–]CoochQuarantine 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

Be kind to his mother.

I have found that I just naturally do this. I totally believe in daddys girls and mommas boys so I try to get in good with the mom every time. On the flip side, you wanna get in good with me, get in good with my dad. I just think it means a lot more to me. I can't explain it.

[–]eliza_schuylerEarly 20s, engaged, 3yrs 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

The first thing I found in RP world was the advice not to keep score. Somehow I have found that the more graciously you give, the more grateful you are to receive. I think this is the fantastic advice. Thanks for sharing!

[–]CoochQuarantine 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

My SO made some pork chops that were pretty much bland. I ate it like it was my last meal and thanked him for it. It isn't about the actual pork chops. It's about the gesture. He made the food for me. Not a time to be picky. I say wear the shirt today. Lol

[–]ElCuloTeAbrocho 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

That's a very good and wise idea, spoil him rotten, you will reap awesome benefits for a long time.

[–]classy_lassy23Mid 20s, LTR, 8 months 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is such a good reminder of gratitude and humility. I always try to be grateful for what my SO does for me because I know that he doesn't have to do anything for me, but rather he wants to do those things for me. Even if it's not something I would do/buy for myself, it's about the fact that he thought "Hey, classy_lassy might really like this." And I try to return that feeling ten-fold. Thank you and your mama for the words of wisdom! :)