Three happy truths that'll make you smile!

perrolo · 3日前

Have to admit reading this I smiled, it is true that we take ourselves too seriously sometimes.

Magnum256 · 3日前

I was an inch and a half taller than my father before I realized he wasn't significantly taller than me because I was a kid and kinda saw what I expected.

This is interesting. I think a lot of people have a skewed perception of how things are versus how those things are expected to be.

I remember being ~17-18 years old, not long out of high school, and still felt like a kid, I mean I'd see my dad or his friends or relatives or whatever and think "they're men, I'm still a kid" and I kind of had this perspective for a few more years after that, probably more to do with the age gap than anything (seeing older people as more mature, more adult than I was) but then I realized sometime in my early 20s that I was a full grown man, I'd look around and realize I hardly ever saw anyone that intimidated me or that was much bigger or broader than me, it was a smack in the face, changed the way I look at the world to my benefit.

I can only imagine women who might never have this kind of epiphany and who live their entire lives looking at the world through the same filter I was looking through back when I was that 17 year old kid.

Swole_is_life · 3日前

First one is a really good point I've never considered. Alpha until proven otherwise.

The corollary to this of course is that most men prove themselves otherwise without even saying a word. Fatness, bad posture, timid movement, etc.

I remember a girl in college telling me I "exude confidence". I realized it was simply because I was actually taking hard courses and thus always busy with somewhere to go. I couldn't afford the time to futz around and stroll from place to place like most guys.

DforDeadpool · 3日前

Women assume you're alpha as fuck until proven otherwise.

It's actually a little weird because it's true. They immediately assume you have the inner game of Chad. More so if you're fit and good-looking.

These people will marvel at their skinny boyfriend's arms and think he's genuinely jacked and that her 5'9 fuck buddy is a giant. The obvious reason is because they're mostly 5'4 110 lb shrimps, but the real reason is that they're children.

Another reason; their sexual feelings. Even a 4 would seem like a 7 in a bad day, it's similar for women also. And as another reason; emotional states. Just like you'd prefer a 5 you have the oneitis for, than a HB8. Hopefully people here are over the all oneitis shit now.

RedPillMeditations · 3日前

Women assume you're alpha as fuck until proven otherwise

I know a lot of people are saying this is false, but think about the hamster. She most likely has hamstered herself into thinking that you're all these things that give her tingles, until you open you mouth....

Women have a lot of trouble with physical objects

This goes for penis size too. I always see posts in askTRP about size. Let me tell you, these bitches couldn't tell you an accurate measurement if you held a ruler up to it.

introvertp · 3日前

Keep the first point in the back of your mind and it will be so easy to approach. Most women think you have your shit together, because generally they don't. *Just don't say anything to ruin that.

max_peenor · 3日前

the real reason is that they're children.

Maybe but we also know it is how they are wired. They just don't have the natural spacial skills that men have. How do women like to get driving directions? A list of streets and turns. Men? Give us a fucking map and put an X on it. Women just simply don't understand that our orientation in the physical word is a natural sense--we literally feel where we are.

Want to watch something funny? Head out to an Ikea on a Saturday. Get there around 1-ish. And then observe dozens of women try to fit a 125 sq ft cube of furniture and other shit they just bought into their sedans. I live in the sfbay area and at the Ikea in Emeryville I watched a lesbian couple almost go to fisticuffs they were so frustrated with each other. I fuck near pissed myself laughing when this tiny old asian guy told them in his broken english that it was never going to happen. Ikea delivery services no doubt made another sale that day.

It took my wife 20 years to figure out she should ask me if something might fit in her car before she bought it. I have literally had to break down furniture in a parking lot in the dark so I could get her and it home. Thank god for cellphones now...

Btw, I don't advocate shopping at Ikea. Buy some real furniture that is going to last. However, they seem to have hacked the hamster somehow, because despite the cheapness, women of all economic strata seem to love going there. I really hope someday I figure this out, because it would truly become Red Pill on easy mode.

CQC3 · 3日前

I always wondered about these random bitch boys hanging around hotties. I just assumed that the cost of being permitted into that group was a sacrifice of ego and reputation. Youre allowed to be around only for the sheer fact that you have to show yourself to be a total pushover niceguy. Girls are more defensive With guys that give them tingles and often don't let you do friendship type stuff because they've categorized you as something different.

rigbyismyhomie · 3日前

So, initially I thought this post was clickbait, but the more I think about it the more truths I see here. Gonna analyze for my own purposes.

Women assume you're alpha as fuck until proven otherwise.

Yeah, I get what other posters here are saying, but in those cases they're only proven wrong by girls who they wouldn't want to be around anyway. In my current social situation, people met me at my worst. It's nearly impossible for me to come off as alpha to any of those people who have seen me weak. In fact, the only ones who downright adore me are the ones who barely knew me when I first got here. I notice a significant difference in the way that people treat me between those who have known me for awhile, and those who I'm just meeting. It's night and day.

Your time is so valuable that nearly any woman will want it.

I used to hang out at the bar because I didn't want to be at home. In this time, I met a girl who was a 21yo who spent a few days alone at the bar herself. I knew this was a huge red flag, so I started an experiment. After we first met I would go talk to her when she was there. I started off with what I thought was inappropriate, but she liked it, so I remained flirty and carefree. However, I wanted to see if her attitude would change towards me the more we talked.

Over time, she stopped adoring me and started treating me like any other person. The last time we talked, she said something I didn't like, so I called her out on it, and she got so pissed off she walked away. I had become low value to her because I spent too much time around her.

I stopped spending all my time at the bar. A few weeks ago, we happened to run into each other. It was like the first night we met, she was very touchy, laughed when I said anything, and even asked me to go home with her. What I learned is that women value your time, but at a certain point, familiarity breeds contempt.

From this lesson, and what I think OP is trying to convey, is that women are time vampires; and they will drag you on a string just for the validation they get from you being present. Use this to your advantage.

Women have a lot of trouble with physical objects.

In High School, I made the all state soccer team when I was a sophomore. This put a target on my back for rest of my time there. After the first game of the next season, I realized that my coach changed my stats to read 6'0; 175lbs. This was 2 inches taller and 15 lbs heavier than I actually was. I asked my coach why he did it, and he told me that no one will ever be able to tell what a man's height and weight is; so you might as well use it to play with your opponents head a little bit.

Ever since I always say that I'm 6'0", and ignore or amplify when a fat chick tries to tell me otherwise.

squarehead93 · 3日前

Women assume you're alpha as fuck until proven otherwise

Not to be that guy, but I think this defnintely doesn't apply to everyone. If you're very "ethnic" looking (Indian, Pakistani, etc) exceptionally short, or not athletic looking at all the default response is to put such men in the "invisible" pile until proven otherwise. This can definitely be overcome, but let's not kid ourselves, some men are just not going to inspire any sort of Alpha tingles at first glance, and perhaps even signal the opposite.

cheechawcheechaw · 3日前

I like this post. It has a very positive feeling to it. Would love more of those.

2comment · 3日前

These people will marvel at their skinny boyfriend's arms and think he's genuinely jacked and that her 5'9 fuck buddy is a giant. The obvious reason is because they're mostly 5'4 110 lb shrimps, but the real reason is that they're children. I was an inch and a half taller than my father before I realized he wasn't significantly taller than me because I was a kid and kinda saw what I expected. Most women don't actually meet Arnold Schwarzenegger types--and only talk like they do because they get overly excited over nothing.

There's an old joke, goes something like this:

Q: "Why can't women measure anything for shit?"

A: "Because they've been told" [holds out thumb and pointer finger about 5 inches apart] "this is 8 inches their entire life."

theultmatecad · 3日前

I wonder if you simplified the argument that a man's time is deeply valuable with your pudgy orbiter example.

I view the man as the prize as he provides:

Resources

Attention (time)

Emotional stability.

Notice dick ain't a provision. Dick is abundant to most females.

Anyway, orbiters contribute resources and emotional stability as well as attention (less valuable than a high SMV mans attention for sure)

So orbiters do have value but it ain't shit compared to the validation of a horrible asshole with abs, attitude and a stack of plates who want to fuck him

Thotwrecker · 3日前

Great reality check. Women screen for the top % of men. But women also screen and make decisions - if you can even call it decisions - in a way that is neither conscious nor logical. We get hung up on the breakdown on SMV into separate categories, because that's how the divide & conquer male mentality works. Systematic analysis of all of the parts that form the whole.

Women just look at the 'whole.' Then they look around and see how OTHER women are looking at the 'whole'. If they get a good vibe, they construct some rationalization for why they are attracted to that guy, something that makes them feel like a special snowflake.

OilyB · 3日前

Imho this goes for the whole of Western women. They've progressed a ton but still have a need to look up to men, consequently they're disappointed when a guy proves to be sub par. It's an indication that women have impossible expectations of us which is why only the top 20% of guys get noticed. The 80% are not normal, no, they're misfits. Still, women see themselves as normal human beings who are allowed to have issues. Men? No, men are being held to deity standards. If you're subdeity, you're trash, failed as a human being.

The result is that women view men as newly purchased color tv's - if there's anything wrong with you, you need to be exchanged for an infallible unit. Problem is: there's no real love possible if she thinks you're an infallible object, only consumerism.

True love assumes fallible humanity and sticks with a person in spite of him being imperfect.

colucci · 3日前

Women assume you're alpha as fuck until proven otherwise.

False. If you're a 220lb 5'7 lard of fat with infinite chins, no one will assume you're alpha. Your ranking on the social hierarchy will be decided by your demeanor - posture, looks, hygiene, walk, facial expression, etc.

If anything, you're beta until proven otherwise. That's what shit-tests are for.

Your time is so valuable that nearly any woman will want it.

Again, false as demonstrated by the large amount of flakes in the dating industry. If they're not attracted to you, they don't want your time.

John_E_Vegas · 3日前

Don't disagree. But before you take too much comfort in this:

Unless you're really quite pathetic, she's not even gonna consider the possibility that you're not a winner until you force her to.

Keep in mind women are also perfectly capable of judging a book by its cover.

So, if you're a complete slob, she's only going to give you the benefit of the doubt until she gets close enough to know better.

JakeFromState_Farm_ · 3日前

I'm saving this and reading it next time I feel down. I've felt great the last few weeks, but I know the time will come. Thank you for writing this!

Fiendish · 3日前

God damn, best post I've seen on this sub.

Luckyluke23 · 3日前

A lot of guys lament over that, taking it to mean that the standard for merely getting noticed is through the roof. That's the wrong way to take it though. In her mind, she's almost never seen a man who didn't meet these crazy high standards and so it's downright illogical for her to think she's just met one. Unless you're really quite pathetic, she's not even gonna consider the possibility that you're not a winner until you force her to.

this has been a struggle for as late.

but what yu are saying is, BECAUSE she only sees 10% of males. THOSE 10% of males are in scarcity and there for ALL males are seen as 10%ters until proven otherwise. .

This just blew my fucking mind like... so hard core... I can't even... what?!

Most women don't actually meet Arnold Schwarzenegger types--and only talk like they do because they get overly excited over nothing.

because they are children... now I get it...

my mind is like a vase that fell to the floor and is now shatterd in a million peices.

drawingfor · 2日前

Women assume you're alpha as fuck until proven otherwise.

This can be life changing to someone who use self-sabotaging language to motivate himself to change. It's like starting with a billion dollars instead of a thousand. With a billion you have room to maneuver and make mistakes and not feel much, but with a thousand you are stuck thinking of the best possible way to approach and just paralyzed by self-consciousness. This is the sentence I can keep reminding myself to not be afraid of taking action toward the positive way instead of being stuck in the head.

Your time is so valuable that nearly any woman will want it.

I have to pause a bit to think about this. Is not that every girl you like will want to look at you and give you attention, it's more about the mindset that you can do without the attention. At the basic level you treat them like any person, since you have a positive outlook of life and you treat life as an adventure and have fun all the way, you don't come from a place of need....

The trouble comes when you catch yourself confirming if a girl looks at you and you do nothing but walk away self consciously, continuing the self-frustration. Some people surround themselves with activities, failing to see that girls want your attention but they also want you to initiate the relationship. Some people (myself included) internalize that if girls fail to initiate then they are not being good enough, when in reality the girl's probably wet but hiding it waiting or not. When your time is actually valuable and you believe it, you're free everyday to get the best girl you can get and you know you can be happy without her (you can just do what you do again, your time and actions are valuable). It is a good mantra, and a good reminder to pursue challenges instead of settling for mediocrity and shame.

e- a good exercise is to just to take inventory of how much you accomplish today and the week, and what you have (a bed, clothes, etc) and really use the gratitude to see that you are a valuable person instead of conforming to the stereotypes. Think when we are happy about the little things then we come from a place of full instead of empty. Even taking inventory of the little things like you walked instead of taking the elevator or you helped someone pick up their dropped change will induce more of these things happening...

Good post, will implement and try to say these,with conviction, to myself a lot as a start.

deadsandsushi · 3日前

1 is not true at all and neither is #3. What world are you living in? Women know plenty about beta men and many high value women lift weights themselves and know a guy with 14" arms isn't jacked.

This is April Fool's, right?

Il128 · 3日前

Sadly women do not think or have opinions of their own.

smokecheck1976 · 3日前

LOL! You want to know something really funny? How tall do you think Arnold Schwarzenegger is? Now, go to google and look up pictures of him standing beside Clair Danes in Terminator 3. She is noticeably taller, and her height is well established.

godiebiel · 3日前

The first one is the main paradox.

If you prove yourself, then you are beta, if you don't then alpha. Just keep on going, if you look back then you justify your betaness, if you keep looking forward, then (more probably) a fuckling alpha.

As such (and this is TRP LPT) Do Not Give A Fuck^TM

plenkton · 3日前

Women have a lot of trouble with physical objects.

Asked women to estimate a volume, believed her, later found out that "over half" = "less than a quarter."

Then, I asked her to estimate a length, which I know is 11inches. She said 2. I showed her how long an inch is. She said 3.

Just tell chicks you are [height] x 1.25.

AlphaEndoGorillaKing · 3日前

The first point is a good one, i'm noticing a lot of really attractive women are totally open to ANYONE approaching them, and even throughout an interaction they stay OPEN and RECEPTIVE to anyone, even guys most people would consider low value/beta. It's an effective because usually what happens is low value/beta guys end up breaking themselves or running out of things to say and end the interaction without ever being rejected. Interesting technique. Anyone else notice this?

AllenArken · 3日前

I can 100% confirm that women have trouble with physical objects. My girlfriend thought I was 6'+ even after we've been together a few years. A friend of mine thought I was 5'8" - the top of her head was just about my chin height. I'm 5'11" - girls don't know how to measure for shit.

masnera · 3日前

I do believe in the third one, yeah women are not good in measurements, because measurements requires logic...but those remaining two.

I do believe this is a feel-good-article, nothing more.

--HankMoody-- · 3日前

Amazing that it takes someone else to point these things out. When I found my self single after a very long LTR I quickly learned that being a nice guy, buying dinners, giving compliments was a waste of time for getting laid, but women will happily donit over and over again.

Then I discovered game. Now at the time I was extremely skinny, I am at best average in looks but I am quite tall. Once I learned the fundamentals of game: eye contact, comfort and rapport, kino, confidence, rapid escalation I was getting laid almost every time I really found the girl attractive.

Now as I said, back then I was very thin and I am average looking. However these girls were all telling me how handsome I was. They were saying things like "you look just like Guy Pearce. I look nothing like him but in their mind I was skinny and handsome, so is Guy Pearce, therefore I look like Guy Pearce - I DON'T LOOK LIKE HIM AT ALL.

Now this lasted for some time, almost 2 years. Even though now I am not too skinny and I am much fitter, I started getting rejected more often. Then I slipped backwards, forgot to be cocky. I sometimes chased and texted to quickly, I complimented them on their looks. I paid for meals. Guess what happened. I am scraping it back together but recently I have been rejected by 7s when I used to get first night lays with 8s and 9s.

Sometime I forget I am the prize. I act because I am wanting sex, I forget that abundance mentality is crucial. Thanks for this concise summary pointing me back the right way.

Trump4GodEmperor · 3日前

Bitches tell me and their friends that my dick is 9" long. Thank god for sub-par spatial reasoning ability.

DPestWork · 3日前

3 is EXTRA true No use adding my own anecdotal evidence, but I see evidence of this happening almost every day!

Criket · 2日前

Nope, not all women are like that. My ex wife was a monster like you're described but im lucky enough to find a wonderful girlfriend.

darkrood · 2日前

why good looking women even want a low value man's time at all. I certainly don't want the weird little cucks who orbit chicks to spend any time with me, so why do women want it?

Ahh, I've cracked that one for ya.

People don't want to FEEL LONELY.

Doesn't matter if she is a barmaid or the Queen of England, loneliness is the elephant in the room that she doesn't want to hear or see.

Hence, many people, male or female, fill the space between them and the elephant with people, lots of people. That way, she never have to be alone to accidentally do some deep and critical self-reflection.

As an Orbiter, you don't want to face it that your approach to women is actually fucked because you GOT FREINDZ

As a barhoping slut, you don't have to face the music that hot guys just see you as a fleshy fuck toy and nothing more

However, because likes attracts like, eventually noone with quality will stay in this circle for long. Hence you see they marry each other. :D

CurrentlyBulking · 2日前

The physical objects part is definitely true. My last girlfriend thought I was ripped even though her brothers are more muscular than me. A girl I orbited before I found TRP thought we were the same height even though I'm a 4 inches taller than her

Stiffmajj · 1日前

Women's spatial awareness is only so bad because they constantly get told 5 inches are 9.

The__Tren__Train · 3日前

These people will marvel at their skinny boyfriend's arms and think he's genuinely jacked

that's actually them hamstering their beta boyfriend into an Alpha.

a girl I knew starting dating a guy, 5'8 140lbs soaking wet.. complete shrimp.. and afraid of everything

..on top of that, he's got genital herpes.

girl was about a 7 or so.

her solution to dating a venereal disease-infested beta?

hamster him into an alpha.

(I have no idea how the fuck she did this, but I guess as a guy, im not supposed to understand these mental gymnastics).

SightlessObserver · 3日前

This concept can be pretty ambigious. Does her betabux that she loathes exist in her reality? He must exist since she hates him, but is he in the top20% then?

Also, how would you know if you exist in her reality?

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Women assume you're alpha as fuck until proven otherwise.

Your time is so valuable that nearly any woman will want it.

Women have a lot of trouble with physical objects.

1 is not true at all and neither is #3. What world are you living in? Women know plenty about beta men and many high value women lift weights themselves and know a guy with 14" arms isn't jacked.

3 is EXTRA true No use adding my own anecdotal evidence, but I see evidence of this happening almost every day!

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Women assume you're alpha as fuck until proven otherwise.

Your time is so valuable that nearly any woman will want it.

Women have a lot of trouble with physical objects.

1 is not true at all and neither is #3. What world are you living in? Women know plenty about beta men and many high value women lift weights themselves and know a guy with 14" arms isn't jacked.

3 is EXTRA true No use adding my own anecdotal evidence, but I see evidence of this happening almost every day!

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