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[–]thop89 6ポイント7ポイント  (2子コメント)

Cuddling releases Oxytocin in her. Why deny it?

[–]redwurst[S] 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

It can be done, but she must initiate it. Person which is initiating cuddling after sex is holding less power in relationship. That's what I meant. If she asks you why oyu never cuddle or can you lay behind her / hug her are great signs..but if you are initiating it and if YOU are the one chasing it, then DON'T.

It's men's job to go after sex, and hers to go after feels / commitment / cuddling whatever.

[–]reigorius 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

They usually curl up with new my armpit.

[–]KermitTheeFrog777 7ポイント8ポイント  (4子コメント)

Could use some editing, but overall very important topic. I think you are the only one in a long time that has explicitly stated the logical conclusion of TRP: sexing her good is by far the most important tool in your belt, and being lackluster here will make everything else harder.

That said, if you know you have shortcomings (heh) in that area, please don't let it get you down (heh). Seriously, seek help if necessary, and remember attitude and relaxation are the most important thing. Don't stress yourself out, or show anything but pride in your abilities and physique.

Also agree with the point that if you haven't explored these things in depth, they probably have dirtier fantasies than you want to admit. I'm not new to playing rough, but this still bothers me to some extent.

Another tip: use context and judgement to gauge how far to go with a girl if it's your first time together. My default is 50%: firm but not kinky.

[–]yaysmr 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

I've been kinky for years now, but it always felt like a part I was playing and not who I was until I integrated TRP teachings to actually become dominant.

Now that I am inhabiting the role (or trying to) and really getting into the psychology of submission, its a far more intriguing, complex world than it might seem. Basic rules still apply to be sure, but negotiating actual behavior is a sensitive dance.

You can get into some complex shit when you're pushing a girl to her limits and beyond. They want you to do certain things but they feel unable to articulate them, and YOU, as the dominant, have to figure it out and take them there... while also avoiding their actual hard limits and not going too far or too fast. You scare off newbies if you don't feather the throttle a little.

My default is 50%: firm but not kinky.

Good default, I usually aim for 75% when with a girl where it's established that we're both kinky... and yet that has turned out to be too slow for some of them.

The ridiculous, ironic truth seems to be: the more innocent, introverted, and demure she appears/acts elsewhere, the the harder she'll let you go to town on her body in the bedroom (or outside it!!). But they're the least able to articulate how far and bad they want it so I'm constantly paranoid about crossing the line.

[–]cobalt1728 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

What would be your advice to a late bloomer who is 25 years old and is suffering from porn induced ED because he didnt get any action until 25 and who has lost 8 really cool girls because it takes him to long to be able to get it up enough to fuck them.

[–]yaysmr 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Viagra.

Get really good at eating pussy.

NoFap.

[–]Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev 6ポイント7ポイント  (2子コメント)

Three words: Tie.Her.Up.

You're welcome.

Uncle Vasya

[–]Johnny_Cocaine 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

And really, it’s what old school ties and mattress handles are for.

I'd been thinking of using a bunch of my ties, but the mattress handles thing is genius!!

You da real mvp for linking that.

[–]Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Glad you found it useful. It is just one more tool in the tool box, although personally I like the box tie the best, or the simple cross-wrist tie. Puts her tits out front on display and right there for fun.

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger 12ポイント13ポイント  (5子コメント)

The biggest take-away from this post isn't the examples of how to be more manly in bed. The specific things you might do with a girl can vary based on your style and hers, and the context of your relationship.

It's that if you try anything along those lines and your woman stops you, it's because she doesn't think of you in that way. You are not a man to her. Getting laid is all fine and good, but if she's not receptive to your suggestions and trusting/submissive enough to let you move her around and do things to her, you are not her man. You're just the guy she's using this minute.

[–]Endorsed ContributorUrsusG 3ポイント4ポイント  (3子コメント)

It also bears reminding that starting an LTR, especialy a live-in or semi-live-in LTR will erode your position and image as ''that man".

The more familiar you become to her through mundane day to day interactions, the less likely it is she will accept your domination in bed in the evening.

This is a natural psychological process and it's nobody's fault.

The best way to avoid it is to avoid LTRs and, as a minimum, avoid living in together.

Just to be clear, I define LTR as a relationship that's exclusive and continuous for at least 18 months.

tl,dr: don't live together

edit: word choice

[–]Redpill_Hannibal 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

then what is your take on so called "man caves", where a man spends the majority of his time self improving and devoting himself to hobbies, getting out just to drink, eat and fuck?

[–]submitted_5_days_ago 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

It also bears reminding that starting an LTR, especialy a live-in or semi-live-in LTR will erode your position and image as ''that man".

Exactly. I've plated a girl for 24 months, sex every 5-to-10 days as I pleased. Only dread can work for so long, and some diversification.

Pushed her many times to find a man that can 'take care of her' as soon as we finished the act.

First times I even cared about her coming, after the first year my care was rather sporadic.

Sometimes put my dick in her mouth till I came, then some talk and both home. Actually counting the hours she took me away from my operations. (Many women hate men because they need them, sometimes I also think what kind of power could we have if we wouldn't be so slave to our corporal needs.)

Over time the quality of the sex went down because I wasn't so attracted to her anymore and the more we saw each other the more she pushed for me to commit, but I know how to steer bad behavior so that I can complain about it thus having a motive for my commit avoidance whilst at the same time giving her a motive to strive for the relationship 'to work.'

She pushed me to buy her things while decreasing her submissiveness. She was saying 'You need to change', meaning I needed to shift from AF to AB, perhaps eventually to BB.

Of course she was very important to me, I gave her all the fucks I had.


But that was a test-girl (how far can it goes? I asked myself), was working on my first company, no money, no network, no nothing, just proving something to myself I guess.

I think one good way to develop true self-confidence is to purposefully put yourself in a bad/dangerous situation. I literally lived on less than 1/50 of an average monthly salary for almost two years before the net-worth grew up, took shit from the girls I fucked and people overall, but went out of them and now I can look at my current and future issues from that perspective saying "I did this and that when all was worse and way more risky, this one new thing can also be done."


The best strategy for men for perpetual sex is either pay them to leave, or give them one and only motive to come: good sex.

[–]redwurst[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

What do you think about intentionally breaking the rapport / familiarity in order to keep the attraction?

I don't have so much problems connecting with them, rather I'm not always sure how to act when I want to keep just certain level of familiarity. Because closer we get, less we are attracted, that's true.

Usually I cut the contact, act dismissive and use slightly offending / teasing words - most of the times it works however sometimes I lose it.

I think that's where real game is.

[–]redwurst[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yes, that's the main point. But it requires a man to be really honest with himself - I am pretty sure even the strongest among us are not so comfortable with the fact that that particular women simply doesn't see you as THAT man.

Introspect, improve, try again - is only way to move forward.

I am not blessed among the sinners - as others I had some girls which just didn't want to get dirty with me. It was more like "watch out, don't put your hand there" thing. If I can't change it I will move on.

Because it's better to have sex with "YES FUCK ME" girls then with "I am ok with it" girls.

But I think it's more then about sex - her willingness in bed resembles everything she feels about you. Good, polarized sex is basis of any relationship.

Another point would be...just FORGET about her innocence. Nice guys really need to see recordings of their unicorns asking guys "can you rope me" or "would you slap me during sex".

[–]Ripsteve 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

How refreshing is this post? with all these wannabe alphas writing dissertations on the science of alpha...quit that shit...read the ops post and apply.

let me add:

one handed double breast grab (doggy or missionary)...works better with natural tits but mentally they are triggered into thinking "this guy just took both my tits into one hand for his pleasure...not mine"...and that takes them into the erotic zone. I've literally had a girl ask me "did you just grab both my tits with one hand?"...good stuff man.

a key to observe from that...(if this isn't obvious you are beta)...do these things for your pleasure standards...if they don't work to satisfy her...sorry homie...youre beta.

[–]2Meat-on-the-table 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

Don't forget the most important thing: fuck her mind.

There is a reason why make-up sex is so hot: the prospect of losing someone and the rush of chemicals fuels a great sexual experience.

Keep her mind enthralled by you through your dominance outside the bedroom, and let that naturally translate into your sex life.

[–]redwurst[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Exactly - that's why I said that bed sex can destroy all the tingles you've created. Foreplay starts waaaay before bedroom.

[–]B_uckets 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Lock her both arms on her back in so called "police" lock while you're hitting it

Any girl who likes being dominated in bed will love this ^

Start out doggy style, grab both her wrists and pull them behind her back, then use them to pull her into you harder when you thrust. If you have big hands and she has small wrists, you can hold both wrists with one hand and pull her hair with the other.

[–]1Sir_Distic 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I've found many, many women love it when you are riding them doggy style, with one hand wrap her hair in your fist. Grab her hair and turn your hand. She's not going anywhere. Also slap her ass. The combination of pulling her towards you with her hair and slapping her ass will get her flowing like Niagra falls.

For the hair pulling. You want to pull firmly but not hard. Don't hurt her or rip out her hair but have her head face forward or slightly back. Now this can't be done for a long time as the strain on the neck is hard.

[–]windowkicker 0ポイント1ポイント  (5子コメント)

How do you guys handle it when you go for anal and she denies it? With one plate she denied it and I said "surely you've done anal before". The reply was "yeah but i didnt like it".

[–]apackofwankers 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

then leave it alone. Not every chick will try anal, and if they do, very few will like it.

Order yourself a dildo about the size of your cock - try and work it up your ass

[–]Johnny_Cocaine 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'd say small anal beads. My finger was even uncomfortable with my ex. But she kept wanting to try penetration, but it never happened. All I ended up doing was licking her ass and rubbing it with my finger. I should have tried other anal toys that were much smaller.

[–]TRP VanguardCyralea -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

You can usually make a second go for it after warming her up. Play with her butthole while fucking her doggystyle. Insert the tip of your index finger while fucking her in other positions. If she's receptive to that you can try your dick after she's sufficiently turned on.

Some girls will outright reject all attempts though. Not all of them are into it.

[–]Johnny_Cocaine 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

**UPDATE: Felt the need to update this as I read up via someone linking and thru searching something called "breath play," which I've never heard about. I must add, that every time (but once) that I did choking, it was brief and firm, not hard. I'd say no more than 20 secs as I honestly was scared to test it more. The one time in parenthesis was brief, but not soft nor firm, it was hard. But I did it for like 10 seconds, and while she didn't mind it, I personally didn't like doing it.

So I googled breath play and came upon this article regarding choking if any are interested. Its about halfway down. http://dominantguide.com/176/take-your-breath-away-basics-of-breath-play/ **


add CHOKING to the list. EVERY single girl, whether the act wild, are wild, act innocent, or are innocent has loved me choking them. Okay,my first couple of encounters I never even tried.

Some like very soft chocking, some like soft but firm choking, and some like hard choking. As op said, start slow. Don't go to full choke obviously.

Just grab their neck softly for a few seconds. Then go elsewhere, but come back. Then progress to more firm, and then progress. I had one girl after removing my hand from her neck, grab my hand, and put it back on her neck. But honest to god, all the girls liked or loved it. Although, of course, there will be girls out there that don't.

Some may not say anything, but may ride you harder, or kiss you more aggressively.

I feel the neck is a good test point, because you can move to putting your fingers in their mouth more aggressively or testing other boundaries, but that's just me. The reason I like going to their mouth is to see if they like spit play, which is what I"m into. Not me spitting on them, but them spitting on me. Takes quite awhile to get them comfortable to do it. But some just let go and really enjoy it.

Damnit, I knew I'd feel the need to jerk off after talking about this.

[–]FluffyPigeon 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

One thing I might add is try a change of location. Fucking in the same place gets boring fast.

[–]EscortSportage 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Lot of guys are hiding behind game and muscles, but when they are down in bed they show their true beta face,

This is so true, i enjoy listening to other men/friends/who ever tell stories and im like wtf. It reminds me of 40 year old virgin, the movie when hes like i "nailed" a lot of women and then blows his cover by saying "bags of sand"

its true men want to fantasize and act like sex gods when they are around other men, and tell their stories, its unnecessary pea cocking, work to improve in bed with her not telling your friends bullshit.

[–]1v1crown 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

No one has written the absolute number one thing to do in bed to make a girl instantly realize she is yours. A leash.

I always put a leash on a girl when I fuck them at some point EARLY on in my relationship. The first time, you will see them back away from it, even when you are buckling it on their neck, then when it is tight and you are fucking them from behind while pulling the leash back hard so they are choking a bit, something changes in them, they just let go and submit to you, both in bed AND in regular life.

Trust me, put her on a leash.

[–]crossroads95 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I tried doggystyle once and just couldn't get it in. It was really embarrassing for me and the LTR at the time never wanted me to try again.

She said "we tried before, it didn't work remember?"

This got me thinking i am too small for doggystyle. I'm 5.5 inches, apparently average, but this shook my confidence so much I never tried doggy again.

Anyone who is a similar size to mine have any advice?