My little brother is a 16 year old kid that's always struggled with ADD/depression/whatever-the-fuck-they-say-is-wrong. I personally don't think any of those are valid. He went through a self harm phase a few years ago and my (divorced) parents put him in therapy. My dad is an alcoholic and pretty solidly purple pilled. Knows what TRP is and knows the concepts but isn't strong willed enough to really put them into action.

Anyway, pops called me 3 hours ago saying my brother was heading to the ER because he mentioned suicidal thoughts to his therapist (state law requires that action be taken by the therapist). Little buddy is currently in the psych department so they won't let him have his phone, and I don't live anywhere near home so I can't go see him.

I haven't talked to my mom at all (she's on the warpath) but from what my dad has told me, turns out he got into my dad's gun safe while his back was turned and took out one of his handguns, snuck it into his room, and never pulled the trigger. I don't know how close he got. As women do, mom is 100% blaming my dad for this, saying that it wouldn't have happened if there wasn't a gun in the house, blah blah blah. That may be true, but if he was gonna do it he could absolutely find a way to do it. So whatever, I'm not gonna talk to her until she's calm.

Now, from what I know of my brother, he's growing into a very Dark Triad personality. He's very manipulative without meaning to be and can be very good at removing emotions from a situation. He shows his emotions very intensely but seems to be unable to control them except by shutting them off, which he can be damn good at. He is also pretty damn narcissistic. I would say he's mostly Machiavellian but not all that psychopathic. Possibly could be in the future though.

So from what I know of him and what I know of therapy, I am assuming that he's convinced himself that he's "broken" somehow and can't be fixed, when in reality he may just need to realize that he isn't a goddamn woman. He has, however, been through a massive amount of shit in the past year (teammate committed suicide, concussion, false rape accusation that destroyed his high school reputation, broken foot that has kept him out of the sport he loves, very close friend died in a car crash (wear your godforsaken seat belts), and most recently a very brutal breakup). So god only knows what's going on his head.

I'm gonna be able to talk to him and my mom in a few hours. What do you guys think I should say/do to get him to get out of this funk (for now, band-aid fix. later, get him to really see himself in a positive light), and what I should say/do to get through to my mother?