Hello ladies. A sensitive topic but a brief one.
I'm concerned with how much my SO drinks. He is a big man and never appears "drunk". His behaviour doesn't change. My concern is purely for his health.
He drinks 2 bottles of wine on a Friday night and 2 on a Saturday night. If it's a bank holiday that also happens Sunday. He may have a bottle or two during the week on one night. He has half the week wine free. He doesn't drink around my children, he doesn't drink drive, his personality is the same. He has some pre existing health issues for which he should limit drinking. He's mid 40s. There's a 20yr age gap and we are seriously talking of a future - obviously I will outlive him, more than likely. I'd rather not be a carer or widow before absolutely necessary and my understanding of consuming this much alcohol is that it's a matter of when, not if, it catches up to you physically.
Should I, and if so how do I, bring this up? He says he's not "proud" of his drinking but he does enjoy it. The last thing I want is to control or nag. I am concerned and it could be a deal breaker. We have been together just under a year but only in the last month have we started seeing each other a lot more - half the week. He's never hidden his drinking but when he said he was having "a glass of wine" during the week when we were apart I took him at his word. It is actually a bottle or two.
On nights he's had more than 2 glasses of wine we can't have sex. Advice appreciated - I don't know if this is my place, or to what extent.
Edit extra info: he volunteered at Xmas that he would cut down drinking after new year - he hasn't. I never asked him to and I have never brought this up with him. And for reference , I drink 1-2 bottles of wine per week. Usually 1.
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