Wow, wheelhouse day for me...

The Bible has three important things to say about the meaning and purpose of marital sex. First, it is central to the process by which a husband and wife become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Second, it is the means whereby they participate in the ongoing work of God's creation through procreation (Genesis 1:28). Third, it is intended to serve as a picture or symbol of the union between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:31, 32). Sex, then, isn't supposed to be "all about you." Rather, it is designed to function as part of the give-and-take of an interpersonal relationship. It is a holy mystery, a powerful bonding agent that shapes and affects the relationship between a man and a woman as nothing else can. It's fun for many reasons.

These are the theological perspectives and biblical principles that should inform and shape a believer couple's expression of physical intimacy in marriage. No one else has the right or authority to tell you how to behave in the bedroom provided it does not violate Scripture.

According to most church tenants mutual consent is basic to all healthy sexual expression in marriage. Consent implies that both parties know what's proposed and expected; that they fully understand the ramifications, physically and emotionally, of the suggested activity; that there is room for discussion; and that both partners are always free to say no. Under no circumstances should either spouse be pressured or coerced into engaging in any form of sexual activity with which he or she is uncomfortable. Respect, humility and forbearance, which are essential to all human relationships, are of the greatest importance here.

With regard to oral and anal, the Bible never addresses the question of oral sex in marriage, and for this reason it's Pat Robertson's opinion that this issue must be left to a couple's own judgment. Something similar might be said with regard to anal sex. Renowned Christian sex therapists Clifford and Joyce Penner report that the majority of women who engage in anal sex with their husbands admit that they do not enjoy it and feel violated. In such cases, anal sex would appear to breach the biblical concept of mutual respect and enjoyment between partners. Unless of course your wife enjoys it.

God is silent on the how, but demands why when it comes to sex. Loosen up and fuck your wife senseless.